FIL is on hospice. Days, maybe a couple of weeks to live. at home but in a hospital bed. Adult diapers, urine pads, the works. The whole family was there last night, burgers for dinner, chips, visiting FIL. FIL is incoherent and cannot control his bladder. Wets himself pretty bad. Time to change him. We are all getting ready to do it together. Phone rings. Its the neighbor lady down the street, jnmils drinking buddy. Jnmil takes the call and starts yapping away, pleasant conversation. Meanwhile, FIL is laying there is warm piss. The call goes on. We start chNging him, tKing off the sheets and pads…she is still yapping and giggling. Finally i tell my wife ”its your mom, handle it!” After a minute she yells at her mom “YOU NEED TO CALL HER BACK!” Jnmil acts like we are bothering her social hour but tell neighbor “”Let me call you back.” Then makes smartass comment like wife is being pushy. We get fil changed. Its tough cause he is still a large man. Wife and I immediately go home. BIL, wifes stepbrother, silently goes outside, lights a cig and takes a walk….JNMIL calls her friend back…..sigh. No empathy for a dying husband of 40 years.
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