Filed SH complaint at work and all I got was a week off, an apology, and SH training.

For context, the discourse in the warehouse I work in is 75% graphically sexual. These are relatively intelligent men with good taste in music and stories to tell, all in their 50s and vocally against Trump but…it’s very performative. They used to talk about other things more often but the manager is a sex addict. I know it’s cringe to armchair diagnose people, but it’s impacting his work and relationships and as he’s been less popular with women he’s grown bitter and a lot of the conversation is very aggravated and dehumanizing.

There’s a general sexism in the workplace as women’s accomplishments are typically downplayed if not unnoticed and we get yelled at in a way male coworkerd don’t yell at each other or if they do they work through it and get over it. If we stray even a little out of line you can bet we’ll hear about it and never live it down, but the guys literally fuck up all the time.

I have been looking for other jobs for months, but I hate feeling chased out of a well-paying gig while these guys suck each others dicks all day. It came to a head when my manager showed me a topless 16 year old on instagram. He was so excited that she was only 16 and I was nauseated by him showing it to me. He also made a joke later that some men who had asked for my number could “share” me. It’s been really blackpilling to hear this kind of thing 40 hours a week but this was beyond locker room talk and joking around and went way way too far.

I have no better work options in this jobs crisis and have to make this work. All I got was comped time for the week I took off as I had made my complaint Monday and told them I did not feel safe working for this man and it took a week for them to conduct, “investigations.” They got nack to me Thursday and this guy wants to applogize and the big boss assured me he’s fully aware of the expectations. Also everyone has to go through sexual harassment training. I’ve spoken to an attourney, but I really don’t want to file a suit. If behavior persists at all, I will have to. I took Friday to go for a hike, clear my head, and think on it, and told them I’d be back Monday in the hopes that we can actually resolve this.

How do I go back tomorrow? Like, ideally, in my heart of hearts, I’d love to be able to come to a mutual understanding and rebuild trust and respect but seriously I am so grossed out and livid by this entire situation. I tried time and time again to indicate the tone of this talk made me uncomfortable and it never got any better. I just got targeted more. The manager is literally getting off on making me uncomfortable. He brags about making women uncomfortable to coworkers and acts like they have no sense of humor when he succeeds. This guy obviously has issues and needs help and I have to report to him for work tomorrow.

We got along so well the first few months I worked for him. He was loke a totally different person. I don’t mind dirty humor really. I can be pretty filthy myself, but it became a boundary pushing thing as conflicts began to arise and the manager just refused to handle them or take responsobility for creating such an environment.

I feel like asking for more will just make me look like an opportunist. I hate being disrespected like this. I hate having to be the person who reports someone. I already tried rehabbing the relationships a dozen times over and I don’t know that I have it in me to do it again.