Hi guys, it’s been quite a while since I posted so here’s the update But first of all,thank you all for your support and comments you really helped me gain clarity in this situation.
So after I kicked them out they went to stay at his parents place, apparently this affair of theirs was going on for a long time,and everytime he was away at work he would go see her. He wanted to have both of us but she decided she didn’t want to be a mom and thus disrupted their plan.
That Sunday as expected I got lots of calls and texts from his parents trying to make me make sense of the situation, trying to make it seem all normal and get me to take him back and all that BS but I was just done with him, nothing could ever make any of that look normal.
He also came back the following Saturday wanting to talk and what not saying things along the lines of ” I gave you space to stop being angry and be reasonable so am going to give you a chance to reconsider your options coz once I leave I won’t come back and as you see I have another wife ” which made me super mad.
I called him all the names in the book,told him off on how horrible he is as a human being and he’s nothing but scum and doesn’t deserve any more of my time, I told him to look around find anything that he ever bought and take it with him, I made sure he collected everything with his name on it and kicked him out of my life for good.
Tell me why later in the evening my mom calls me and tells me his parents called them to tell them to talk to me (turns out I was pretty presumptuous of my mom because during the week we had talked and she’s been my rock through all this and she even took my son for the week as I sorted through everything else) my mom tore them a new one ,they had wanted to get the families together to discuss how we should get back together but both my parents shut that down fast, told them how they gave them their daughter in good terms but they failed to raise their son to be an honourable man and how the disrespect for me in extension is disrespect for them too.
After he took his stuff leaving the furniture and other stuff he couldn’t carry,(he mostly took his clothes and shoes and was petty enough to take a pair of shoes he had bought for me earlier this year)I sold them,every single one, it took a little while but I did, I then moved and bought everything new ,so now am living in this cozy, new , upgraded house,no stress from anyone or anything, I don’t know what happened to that bitch but quite frankly, I don’t care. Her betrayal was bad enough I can’t waste time thinking of someone who never gave a good thought about me, they really deserve each other, and the trash took it self out too.
Also the meeting with families happened but it wasn’t to get us together it was for custody and what not,he still gets to be in our son’s life,pays for everything including future school fees and all that and if he doesn’t,his parents are to be held liable for that.so it’s safe to say am set up and comfortable where am at , everything is going well, am happy and have peace of It’s a happy ending on an otherwise shitty experience.
Thank you all for your support through this crazy situation.
Final update: BFF pregnant with fiance’s baby, plans on leaving the baby with me coz she’s not ready to be a mom
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Good for you. Live your best life. Don’t look back
Hi OP, what an awful thing that was. I’m really glad for you that you’ve found your peace again, and that you and your son can live a comfortable life.
Onwards and upwards op! Glad things worked out in the end for you. Good riddance to that trash
Sending virtual hugs
Do the custody right and go to court.
Proud of you. It sounds like your ex and his family are quite dysfunctional. Glad you were strong enough to stand up for yourself! Now on to better things in your life. Wishing you and your son all the best!
You made the correct choice, your chose peace for you and your son
He fucked around, and now he’s finding out