FINAL UPDATE: WIBTA If I left my bi partner of 15 years after she told me she would like to explore sex with women.

Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1hb5v5j/wibta_if_i_left_my_bi_partner_of_15_years_after/
1st Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1hcpj4z/update_wibta_if_i_left_my_bi_partner_of_15_years/
2nd Update:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1i1dti6/update_wibta_if_i_left_my_bi_partner_of_15_years/

Today is exactly 6 months since I moved out and also since I last saw or communicated with Jane. A whole lot has gone on since then, but I will keep it brief. I found out a few things through a close mutual friend of Jane and I who I will call Nancy. The biggest revelation was that Jane gave me what I will call a coward’s breakup. She knew from years before that I was not comfortable with the idea of non-monogamy. She had a talk with Nancy about the whole thing and Nancy gave her a whole lot of feedback about how to approach the situation. Jane ignored the advice to breadcrumb me, but then never told Nancy about how poorly she introduced therapy. I also found out definitively that Jane was engaged in emotional infidelity. I can’t say that I was overly surprised.

Since the breakup I have done a lot of work on myself and really dig into why I put up with such poor behavior from Jane. Not just through the breakup but really for the last several years of our relationship. I poured a lot of myself into trying to be a good partner and make her happy…and I got little to nothing in return.

Since the breakup I really have grown a lot. I’ve always been fit but am now walk around looking like Brad Pitt in Troy. My business has really been accelerating the past 2 months. I’m dating again (casually) and despite what the internet says it has been very enjoyable thus far. I’ve been making extra efforts to be an excellent friend and uncle. I started a volunteer position at a youth homeless shelter. I have also put in a LOT of time in therapy and reading. I highly recommend “The Abandonment Recovery Workbook” by Susan Anderson if any of you are going through a tough breakup, as I found the prompts to be very useful for self-examination.

My therapist once told me that I am shit at celebrating my wins (paraphrasing of course), so tomorrow I am taking the day to do fun activities to honor the growth I have achieved these past 6 months. I want to thank everyone who gave thoughtful comments and feedback to my other posts. This was a tough time and I appreciated the support.