I’ve been through a rather traumatizing breakup with a person i deeply loved. It’s been 7 months since the breakup and I haven’t gotten over him in the slightest. I really thought that I had found my person. I was re-traumatized today and went into an anxious death spiral. I am so deeply hurt and cannot imagine even wanting to find that kind of connection ever again. I feel resigned to not having romantic love again in my lifetime. I am 30 years old, which i realize is considered young, but that really is how I feel. For context, I have anxious attachment and while I’ve done things that have brought the intensity down, I don’t think I’ll ever be fully out of it.
For those of you with similar situations and feelings, did you end up finding “your person” years later? What changed for you?