Hey everyone, I’m 25F and I just went on my very first date ever and honestly, I think it went really well! 🥹 I already like him, and we’ve actually been texting way more since the date. He also mentioned that he’d like to go out again, which makes me happy… but now I feel like I’m going through withdrawals waiting for it to happen 😂
Here’s where I’m stuck:
Should I just wait for him to ask me out again?
I was thinking maybe I let him plan the second date, and then I could initiate the third one. Does that sound okay?
Some of my friends say I should be chill and let him chase, that I shouldn’t be the one planning or initiating anything unless I’m already the “girlfriend.” But I don’t want to play games either.
I really like him and I want to see him again soon, but I also don’t want to come off as too much or too eager. What’s the right balance?
Any advice or personal experiences would really help. Thank you in advance! 🥺
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He’s mentioned he’d like to go out again, so maybe just suggest somewhere to go for a date. He may have been hoping you’d respond with positive encouragement or suggestions. It’d be fun/cool to check out X.
Cheers
I (29F) just went on a date with a guy Friday night. I was in a relationship from the age of 15-28, so although I’ve been in a relationship, this was the first first-date of my adult life. The guy (34) said he’d like to see me again, so I said I had time for coffee Sunday. He seemed a little surprised I wanted to hang out again so soon but he jumped at it. We had a great chat even though we could only see each other for like an hour on the Sunday. We said we’ll definitely do a 3rd date but we’re both super busy this week so we’ll touch base on the weekend and see if we can find some time to get together.
Since your guy already said he’d like to go out again, I’d just ask! Something like “when did you want to hang out again?” would suffice I think
One piece of advice I wish I had for myself is, if you want to say it, say it. Don’t hold back your feelings.
If they are overwhelmed by you, then they weren’t ment to be.
Be yourself and don’t hold back. If you be yourself and they love that, then your going to find someone perfect for you 😊
You don’t need to go on a date to talk to him. Chat a little on the phone or message.
The rest will take care of itself.
It’s not about games but about him willing to put effort in my opinion – that’s why I think men should be initiators in relationships. I’m a man myself and I think it’s a man’s job to move relationship alone at start to demonstrate their worth. When you go beyond initial cute-first-moments-phase, then both of you should work 100-100.
I know you want to move things fast, especially since it’s your first ever relationship and you’re super excited because of that, but if you shouldn’t lose your value as a woman and you should make him fight to become worthy of you more.
Don’t worry, he’ll text you again. For men, dates need more than just planning. You probably have lots of ideas where you’d want to go, but he doesn’t know that yet. He has to figure the place, finances, time and lots of other stuff as well. Rushing him won’t help him.
Good luck and congrats on your first ever date!
If he cant initiate a date that he isn’t man enough to date at all.
A simple and easy way to see someone is telling them you are getting coffee or having lunch at a specific place and time and let them know you would be delighted if they join you and if they can’t you understand that life happens. This way it’s no pressure for either one of you.