First Mother’s Day drama

A little late posting but here is my mother’s day tale. For context my MIL and I had an ok relationship but not close prior to me becoming pregnant, after announcing my pregnancy (first grandkid for both sides of the family) she treated me as an incubator and starting pushing boundaries. Post baby’s arrival she never offered to help complained about not getting to hold the baby enough about our rules and not doing things her way and in general making my husband and I feel judged and stressed whenever she visited. At Thanksgiving 2024 she sent my husband a long message about how I judge her all the time, she’d have given an arm and a leg to have someone like her around when she first had kids, she didn’t feel needed, etc. My mom passed away suddenly a little over 2 years ago.

So for mother’s day I did not want to spend it with her. It was my first with my baby outside of the womb and I find it stressful to be around her. Plus she is not my mom and has never acting in a loving or motherly way towards me. My husband was supportive of this and completely agreed to do our own thing. We tried to get take her for dinner during the week leading up to mother’s day but she canceled on us at the last minute. So we had flowers delivered instead. Following mother’s day my husband received a nice long text about how all she wanted was all her kids together for mother’s day (she has 7 and my husband was not the only kid who did not attend the mother’s day lunch plus she is constantly belittling my husband so my guess is she really just wanted us to bring her grand daughter to her.) And how we did a memorial mother’s day lunch for my dead mother with my family instead but she’s still alive! (We got together with my family for lunch that Sunday and my sister’s got my small gifts to celebrate my first mother’s day especially since it is still a hard day for us.) No mention at all about it being my first mother’s day so maybe we were celebrating me. My husband set her in her place that he was celebrating me on mother’s day since it was my day too.

Sorry it’s so long, lots of background that I hope I summarized adequately. But I love how she is so obsessed with herself that she appearantly couldn’t fathom my family and my husband celebrating me on mother’s day.