Me (23F) and my bf (26M) have been together for 8 months. Prior to that we met on a dating app talked for a month before we met and then started dating after the 4th date. I don’t have any experience dating so he is my first ever actual relationship, but I already adore him so much. Now he’s a great guy; super nice, thoughtful, funny, and smart. He’s currently still in school to go into the medical field and is studying hardcore for the next two months. I already started my career so I do have more free time than him and just time in general.
The past few weeks I’ve been feeling somewhat neglected, to the point I question if he even prioritizes me. I understand that he is studying so he can take the exam that pretty much determines his career path, and we even still see each other at least 1-3 times a week. So I don’t blame him for anything but Im starting to feel some type of unknown resentment. When I see him I feel fine and happy to see him, but after hanging out and I’m by myself I just feel like that’s the extent of our relationship. I guess I was expecting more out of my first relationship maybe more intensity and that spark? (I may be confusing an idealized relationship to a realistic one) And I’m worried that did I get too excited at the thought of being in a relationship that I rashly said yes to being his gf?
I want to be able to have deeper conversations with him but I’m not sure where to start. I see my self as being low maintenance, but I’m starting to think that I was actually just used to not being a priority. And now that he’s said he sees me as a priority and I still feel the same way as if I was being low maintenance I feel like our relationship is still superficial. And it makes me feel like there’s no effort.
Thoughts on my situation? What should I do? Please be respectful! 🙂
TL;DR: in my first relationship and It’s not what I expected.