So 4 months ago I met this guy let’s call him Max him and I hit it off right away and suddenly we both ended up doing fwb. This was my first time having a fwb I never had one but we’ve only met 4 times out of the 4 months and we haven’t met at all for the last 2 months. But we talk everyday. His been very busy but he then insisted that we have a 3 some. He has a friend who’ll be down and it’ll be all of our first time ever. His friend had been very eager to meet but I feel super nervous.
I am not as experienced I’ve had only 2 partners before and I am very insecure about my body, I weight over 200lb with an apron belly. The 2 men are both slim fit. More experienced. So I feel like I wouldn’t know what to do. I haven’t tried different positions besides missionary so I’m worried I can’t perform doggy etc. I want to be able to fulfill their needs as well. Any advise? But I am curious, it’s just the nerves and insecurities. Anyways I was going through Max’s friends page and saw that he is married with kids and now that is throwing me off. What should I do? I’m stuck and they’ve been asking to meet and been patiently waiting. I kinda wanna do it and been mentally preparing myself but still nervous. I’ve been looking into the poly lifestyle and curious about it. But I’m 50-50 on the situation What do I expect during a 3some? What should I do to satisfy both?
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It sounds like you’re putting yourself in a situation with a lot of pressure and unknowns. Three-ways are often about fulfilling others’ needs, not your own. Focus on your own comfort first. If something feels off, like the married friend, trust that instinct. You’re not obligated to go through with it just because they’ve waited.
getting involved with a married man means drama is coming protect yourself and never trade your space for a risky thrill.
You can just say no babe.
You should cut contact with these people. This sounds like they are going to use you a dump you after.
Have fun
So what you’re saying is that you’re a home-wrecker.
Sorry to say this but they are using you only for this purpose
This might not go down well but reading between the lines it sounds like the FWB potentially has a long term partner tucked away somewhere too…
I don’t think you have a full enough picture of what is going on to confidently go forward with this and feel comfortable with it and so I would advise you to give them both a miss moving forward.
You should probably not have sex with married men that are not your husband.