We often see divorced couples interacting at least occasionally whether or now they have children in movies and on television. However, all the divorced people I know walked away and never looked back unless there were children involved.
We often see divorced couples interacting at least occasionally whether or now they have children in movies and on television. However, all the divorced people I know walked away and never looked back unless there were children involved.
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I’d think that would be the best-case scenario for most, yes. Kids “complicate” things a ton, which is why that common meme of people having kids to fix a marriage is doubly bad.
I didn’t have kids with my first wife. I see or talk to her every once in a while, but I don’t go out of my way to do it.
I never had contact again 👍
Why would you ever WANT to have contact with your ex?
We had some contact during the first couple of years when my daughter was finishing high school. But then my ex moved to a different city and I took full custody of my daughter. Since 1997, I have seen my ex twice—at my daughters’s HS graduation and when she was married in 2007. I don’t remember if we spoke at either event.
In the case of my current wife’s ex, her kids were a lot younger when we married, so there has been regular interaction. I try to avoid it as much as possible, but I also understood that it was important for my stepkids to have an active and positive relationship with their father, so I put up with it. Now that they are grown and have moved out, we have very little contact.
I was married to my first wife from 2002 to 2006, and we head no children. We had some contact in the months after the divorce was final to help get the house ready for sale. We then saw each other once in early 2007 because she needed my signature for something related to her car. We have had no contact since then.
My ex cheated on me and got his mistress pregnant. When I divorced him I told him that the only reason I will talk to him is because we have 3 kids but if it wasn’t for them I would never have interaction with him.
My parents were both divorced before marrying each other, and had 0 contact with their exes, ever.
Yeah, I think so. Typically you get divorced because of a whole lot of things that add up to “we don’t like being together.” That means you have no reason to keep in touch when the divorce is final.
Mine are grown and I have zero contact with him.
I feel awful for people with kids that have to still deal with former partners.
Even if children are involved, once they are grown. I don’t see any reason to, either.
My parents divorced and had a kid and still never had contact again. If I died, the other parent would probably never even find out.
Divorced almost 11 years, no kids and zero contact!! It’s quite wonderful!! Lol
Why would you if there are no children? Time to move on.
I havent seen my ex since 2007
I didn’t know my mom was married prior to my father until I found divorce papers in the safe at 18 years old. No photos, no mention of him.
He wanted to stay friends and we had a friendly divorce. Drove together to the court date even. But contact naturally dwindled gradually and when he remarried it obviously stopped completely, which I have no problem with.
Haven’t heard from her or seen her since I signed the papers. We were each other’s first marriage. I’m on my second now, she’s on her fourth.
Right now I still need to have contact with my ex for business reasons but I think if that wasn’t the case we wouldn’t have contact. He wanted to be friends but for me it would be just to painful so no contact would be ideal. From what I see with other friends the once without kids don’t have any contact. It’s hard to have contact and move forward.
We tried staying friendly, but he is the same self-centered, self-sabatoging, arrogant whiner that he was during our marriage and i got thoroughly tired of hearing it. I have no desire to be friends or stay in touch.
Yes.
I’m FB friends with his brother/brother’s wife and two cousins who reached out to me in 2008. Oh and he did email me in 2004 when I was in a bad car accident but that’s it.
We split in 2002. I have not seen him since.
Immediate no contact. She tried to establish contact again, as did her family. Immediately went down the list of ways she could contact me and blocked her. She lost me the second she put pen to paper.
Completely normal.
Three texts in 5 years
I have kids and will never see my ex again, unless by accident.
No contact for 30 yrs.
I’m still very close friends with my ex husband. We
Don’t have children. We text all the time. He’s a great guy we just weren’t in love anymore. I have a new husband and children- they all know and like my ex.
Yes and it is heaven. Would have been a bargain at 10 times the price.
I’m divorced with two kids. I interact with my ex regularly but it is only ever about the kids. If we didn’t have kids, we would never interact.
We even do stuff as a family sometimes and it’s weird- all attention is on the kids and it’s like we barely look at each other even though we are both present.
Only if there’s some transactional reason – a piece of mail delivered, need a copy of old tax returns. I’m friends with most of my ex boyfriends but in the case of my ex husband, I spent more time with him than I should have and he made the divorce difficult. I feel like after wasting all those years with him, why would I waste one more minute?
Absolutely. They are your ex for a reason.
Yes. It’s the besttttttt way to do it!
Yes, at least in my experience. Best for both of us to just move on.
It was normal for me to never contact him again. I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with him, or to have his children. I couldn’t wait to get away from him – 600 miles away. Why the hell would I have wanted to have any contact with him, when all I wanted was to be free of him?
Yes. It is normal to never see or speak to them again.
I divorced with no children, and we only stayed in contact long enough to get all of our personal belongings sorted and bills separated. We’ve spoken twice in the last 20 years – once because his mom had passed (we were quite close throughout our marriage), and once because I reached out after hearing something that concerned me (it wasn’t true, we chatted briefly, and that was that).
After dividing assets amicably (there wasn’t much), I believe we had one conversation. It was neutral but bitter and I wouldn’t bother with another one. I’ve seen him since at a funeral and I had zero desire to catch up. He’s fairly blind, so it is unlikely he knew I was in the room. But if someone pointed it out to him, I imagine they would have made his day worse.
I never talked to that woman again. Well, a few times over text. We got married too quick and too young. I hope she’s happy, but my need to interact with her is nil.
I was young and dumb. Seven years together, we split in 91.
I went out and got pregnant by the rebound guy three months later.
Haven’t seen the first husband since I picked him up hitchhiking to work and my two month old son in the back. After I dropped him off, haven’t seen him since.
Saw his sister once on Facebook about ten years ago and she said he lived in Seattle. I live in Tennessee. Doubt I will ever see him again. His sister isn’t on my contact list so no idea if he’s even still alive.