For guys with kids and a vasectomy, who were the persons who most influenced your decision to have a vasectomy?
For guys with kids and a vasectomy, who were the persons who most influenced your decision to have a vasectomy?
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For guys with kids and a vasectomy, who were the persons who most influenced your decision to have a vasectomy?
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It was my idea, but I discussed it with my wife. We knew we didn’t want anymore weans. Birth control was messing with her hormones, and neither of us wanted to use condoms. I was 35, almost 36, when I had it done and would recommend it to anyone in a similar situation.
We only wanted one child. When she was born that was it. No regrets at all.
My wife had a rough time with our 3 kids during those pregnancies, and she DOES NOT want anymore. So that was what made me get it
It was my choice. My wife and I had our 2nd child and I had 1 from a previous relationship. We had discussed it before marriage and so it was done. I know my wife would have had 5 more if I didn’t get it done, so although she was kinda sad when the day came, she was supportive and knew it was the right decision.
My wife, I regard her as rather fortunate that I never asked her to be on birth control and we used condoms the whole time- until we wanted to have kids (which was a WONDERFUL treat I think that should be how all couples do it.)
On that note, we had the 2 kids we were planning on and it was clear she wasn’t budging on more. So I went ahead and got the procedure done- twice: the first one didn’t take.
Why? Are you trying to influence someone to get a vasectomy?
My wife. We discussed it. She carried two kids to term and gave birth twice. It wasn’t a big deal to get snipped, and it’s far less invasive than having tubes tied.
Me, Myself and I
Me, we’ve both decided we’ve got enough kids but either of us could easily be talked into having more so off I went. It’s pretty simple for me to go but a bit more complicated for her to be sterilised and she had the kids so I’m doing my bit. Just today my wife was out with her friend and her young nephew and my wife came home cooing about how cute the wee boy was. That could’ve been enough for more babies.
My decision. I knew I didn’t want any more kids after my second was born whoever that may be with.
My friends who had already had it done, I guess.
My daughter had a pretty big influence. 😂 Love her to death. Don’t want another one.
My 4 kids.
Haven’t had one yet, but when my wife and I are done having kids, I’m getting one. My wife doesn’t do too well on the pill, and I’d prefer to not spend money on condoms for the next 15 years or so.
The wife wants me to get one too.
My wife. She studied contraceptive pills’ disadvantages and considereded that they’re a health nuance (a minor one, but they still have undesirable outcomes in the long run), so she suggested a vasectomy. We had one kid and we were happy that way, since any new pregnancy (and parenthood, for that matter) is a risk.
I thought about it, googled a little and learned that the percentage of adverse consequences is really low (lower than the one associated to contraceptive pills) and went for it. Not a single regret.
The funniest part is that she was adamant that she didn’t want more pills nor condoms (I would dread condoms too), but when I announced that I had booked the surgery she expressed second thoughts.
“What if we break up and you want to be a father again?” she said.
Hahahaha.
The car salesman.
I had enough kids to require a minivan to move them all and I was not happy about that.
The fuckers on the US Supreme Court
Me kinda, we had one child and honestly it was unplanned but life happens. After two miscarriages and watching her deal with them I brought up that I wanted a vasectomy and then went and got one. She wasn’t the happiest with me about it but later on thanked me for having a clearer mind about it and getting one.
No direct influence. I did it after a big breakup and realized I didn’t want more kids with a new partner.
My banker’s
Everyone in my family in my parents age range all had 2 kids. So I didn’t want to break that chain. Plus, I didnt want to be outnumbered.
Got the V right after the second kid
Charles E. Cheese
It was my idea, but obviously my wife was on board as well. She had already had three kids by then.
Another major factor was birth control cost, and convenience. Most chemical birth control controls made my wife sick or grouchy – and I hate condoms.
Part of me wishes we had tried for a little girl. But raising a kid this day and age is difficult enough as it is, let alone three.
My wife. After 3 kids she was done with the whole reproduction thing. Gave me the choice, condoms for life or the snip. Since the vasectomy was free…
My wife and I knew we were done after two kids. The deal was if she had a C-section she’d get her tubes tied while they were in there. If not, I’d get a vasectomy. I ended up with the vasectomy.
My dad also had one when he was done having kids so it wasn’t an alien idea to me or anything.
Ultimately my decision. I have three kids from a previous marriage. However my current wife and I discussed it and she did not want to have kids. She was willing to continue birth control, but I chose the vasectomy to make it easier
No kids, but do have a vasectomy.
Persons most influential on this: other peoples’ kids.
I did it for my wife. She couldn’t take birth control forever, past 40 it puts the heart and blood pressure at risk. And nobody likes condoms, that was out. Two kids was also plenty for us.
I also knew plenty of other guys that got snipped and assured me it didn’t pose any issues.
It was my own personal choice.
My 4 kids most influenced it.
Also watching my wife’s recovery from our 4th was pretty eye opening, her body had been through so much and I just don’t think it was right to try and go through it all over again
Me, myself and I