For those that desire casual dating, what do you like about it? Do you worry about attachment?
For those that desire casual dating, what do you like about it? Do you worry about attachment?
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For those that desire casual dating, what do you like about it? Do you worry about attachment?
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Dating with the intention of a commitment tends to get to a point where it becomes complicated and involves concessions, and later compromises. I enjoy being independent and, at least for now, being completely free in my decisions.
I was committed for over twenty years and it was wonderful, but that chapter ended. Now, I enjoy the freedom to explore without having to commit to a relationship because I don’t want to carry the responsibility of being partially responsible for somebody else’s feelings.
Maybe that will change over time, maybe not. For now, I can separate the emotional commitment from the act of dating casually, and I’m enjoying the experience.
Given where I am in life, getting into a serious relationship would involve a lot of difficult decisions that I cannot with certainty make right now. Having a conversation about it early on helped us set boundaries and expectations. There’s a lot of comfort, both emotional and physical, that we as humans need and getting that without committing to the future is liberating, especially when it’s mutual.
Attachment, no. But I’m worried how it will impact our friendship when it’s over because he’s a fantastic human being and I’d hate to lose that.
It’s not something I technically wanted but life happened. I like not having some insecure jerk text me every 5 minutes wanting to know where I am even though I clearly tell them I’m a homebody introvert with no friends. I like the peace and quiet. I try not to get attached. I guess it’s been working. My situation is kind of unique though. I didn’t plan to be single for years now. But that’s dating for you. For now, I just try to keep an open heart and an open mind.
It’s like a pet project you have at home that you take out when you have spare time. It’s supposed to be light and fun. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. But you’re there for self discovery.
Attachment is normal and human but you’ll develop rules & guidelines eventually if you want to weed that out of the equation.
Romantic attachment does not happen for me that often. I have been through an abusive relationship and that’s probably caused some issues with my ability to trust men. But even before that, I didn’t feel deeply interested in guys that often.
However, I don’t want to completely shut myself off from seeing people. I don’t approach dating with any sort of intention, but I just know in the back of my mind that I probably won’t fall for the other person.
Lots of men will act like they want something serious because they think it’s what I want to hear. I enjoy that kind of attention but stay noncommittal when they start talking like that. I just don’t take seriously and 99% of the time I’m right to do so.
Im on a serious relationship now, but I used to like casual dating because i got to focus entirely on myself, enjoyed the excitement of meeting new people and get along without getting to a point where conflicts start to arise.
i don’t date men anymore and dating women is hard as hell because it’s basically illegal where i am :// i want particular kind of touch that isn’t sexual but that platonic relationship can’t provide. also I’m too picky even for one-night stands. i don’t even expect to end up in relationship in the near future. i need A LOT of boxes checked.
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