For those who are over 40 and still single, how do you cope with sexual and emotional frustration?
For those who are over 40 and still single, how do you cope with sexual and emotional frustration?
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For those who are over 40 and still single, how do you cope with sexual and emotional frustration?
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Probably the same way over 40s married guys manage
huh? i get laid duh
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And to think of all the time.es my married friends tell me “I wish I stayed single like you”.
Not quite 40 but man, I’m really not as interested in sex as I used to be. My time and space are precious. I’d much rather not have to deal with someone unless they are really really worth it.
When I was younger, just being attracted to someone was enough to be interested in sleeping with them. Now I can be really attracted to someone and prefer going home and playing out the fantasy alone haha. Very rarely will I hook up with someone for lust.
Are you looking for answers that are not “jerking off”? Because that’s the answer.
Make money , hire an escort. Flavor of the month or the week. No drama , no BS less cheaper.
I go out on dates and those dates sometimes lead to sex. If I wanted to have sex more frequently than that, that’s what hookup apps are for.
Can’t say I’ve ever experienced emotional frustration as a result of being single. Sometimes it’s a bummer when I can’t afford to go with my married friends on a trip because it’s basically twice as expensive for me without someone to split costs with, but I move on.
Lots of money and free time
Well I’m 39 but close enough. I choose to be single. If I want to get laid, I just got get laid. It’s not exactly difficult.
As far as “emotional frustration” what emotional frustration? Being in a relationship for me is emotional frustration. When I’m single I don’t have to deal with anyones shit but my own. It’s far less stressful to me.
Brother I’m almost 40 and married and I feel lonely all the time. Most woman aren’t there for your needs, we’re all starved for touch and attention married or not.
The emotional part is the hardest, because I’ve never seen any examples.
I’ve always felt consciously like an open-minded person but the shame burden of having been raised Catholic is real despite having been agnostic most of my life. I’ve been single several years now but also feel like I’ve been having some of the best orgasms of my life just frankly trying to drop the shame from what I like to fantasize about and revel in it instead.
I have other close friends I keep in touch with for social needs.
Protecting your peace is priceless.
Easy. People are garbage with no type of loyalty. I accepted that I’ve got a better chance of hitting the power ball than finding a woman that would not cheat, get bored, and break up or use me as a retirement plan. I got a fwb a while ago and just keep it casual.
For sex, getting laid isn’t all that hard after forty.
For emotional frustration? Like, what do you mean? Being single doesn’t prevent one from having a healthy, robust social life. Shit, I’ve got more friends now, that are actually worth something, as a single dude than when I was still with my ex.
sexually…you jerk off to good porn. Unfortunately, trying to find FWBs isn’t as easy as one may think.
I’m in good shape, been told I’m at least decent looking, make a lot of money, and I’ve struggled to get laid by average looking women from 35-45. And ‘average’ may be generous when describing them.
I didn’t have emotional frustration. I know some women and maybe it’s just some light flirting, or she laughed at my joke, whatever. A little positive attention and some Pornhub solve a lot of issues.
Masturbation. Lots and lots of masturbation.
I read a post a while back with the title saying “im an escort ama” and it seems like a lot of older men pay escorts to vent about their feelings and frustrations and also sex, don’t forget that
What makes you think people over 40 have sexual and emotional frustrations?
Plenty of people swing in their middle aged years.
That what you’re asking about is reserved for those that do not choose to be single. Someone happily and deliberately single doesn’t have that experience.
I’m single and it’s not that bad. I can hookup if I want (but it’s not really my vibe), I’m more of a romantic/relationshio oriented. So jerkin usually takes care of the primal sex urges when they come a beggin’. But I can do what I like, have all the freedom and choices to make on my own. Can still hookup if I really wanted to. Can go on dates if I’m in the mood to look around for a potential long term partner. And emotionally – dogs do a pretty fantastic job of giving and receiving love – and it’s so genuine. Plus friendships can sometimes feel as rewarding as a partnership. Overall – it’s not too bad. But I do miss cuddling a lot, it’s definitely one of my favorite things.
My libido sucks right now so it’s pretty easy
I probably have more sex than most married men in their 40s and way less emotional frustration since i don´t have a lot to be frustrated about