Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years now.. both living separately.
Prior to our relationship, I had used toys.. but once we became official he expressed it was a deal breaker as it takes away pleasure in the bedroom.
I trashed everything.
I was cleaning out his closet while he was at work as a favor but found not only rings ( male toys ) but a dildo.. attached to a male silicone “body”. All wrapped up in a bed sheet. I know privacy is important but I’m lost.. I don’t even know what to think.. what do i do??
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Dump him and break up with him immediately
Ask him! Why is it male body? Why does he have them? When was the last time he used them?
You deserve to know.
How do you feel about all that?
I would confront him about it, it seems rather unfair to make you get rid of your toys and then go out of his way to keep his and hide it from you. I also personally feel that he’s wrong in that if used properly they can enhance pleasure in the bedroom, this just comes across as a control thing.
Is not worth it dump him and break up with him immediately
Well first a guy that’s insecure about a woman having toys needs thrown away.
Is he extremely homophobic and actually can’t accept that he’s gay? Not saying guys who like butt stuff are always gay, but a lot of people who are excessively homophobic tend to be trying to hide their true sexuality.
You threw away your pleasure for his comfort, and he’s been playing pretend with toys in secret? That’s not love, that’s manipulation wrapped in latex.
Yeah if your bf is into getting plugged,,,, get a new fuckin bf.
I would have a conversation. If he’s not up for talking about it, avoids, or gets mad that’s a bad sign. Don’t be comfortable with someone who hides things, lies, has expectations for you but won’t do it themselves.
He doesn’t understand toys if he thinks they take away in the bedroom. But time for a talk.