I (21 F) has recently found the horrible discovery after finding out he was lying to me that my boyfriend (28 M)is a predator and has an upcoming court trial for a felony/SO registry for what he did. Location: Wisconsin
I’m obviously very disgusted and heart broken and am not sure what to do. He still has items that belong to me and he unfortunately has gaslit and manipulated and lied to me as I only recently found out this information when I looked him up on google. Who do I talk to so I’m able to get my stuff back from where he lives, I’m a very paranoid person and I’m scared he will either hurt me or others even though he is in house arrest right now, where can I go for advice with this. I’m devastated this 7 month relationship is ruined but more angry I was lied to about something so disgusting and actively defended him at the time because he lied to me and told me he didn’t do stuff. I didn’t know and I do not want to be ringed into it and have people think I’m the creep.
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You can always call the non-emergency line and request an officer be present for you to retrieve your belongings. This will obviously depend on staffing, but it’s a good way to have some peace of mind if you think he might hurt you. Briefly explain the situation and I’m sure they can accommodate something for you.
With written evidence that he is refusing to return your things, you may he able to get a replevin action by the courts that will require him to return the items.
Since, I’m assuming, it is his place and you arent on the lease or mortgage a police escort cannot force him to allow you in for your things or force him to bring you them. However, at their discretion, they may be present when you go to retrieve your things in case he escalates the situation. They will be on stand by, but will not interfere unless he makes a move.
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Just want to say I’m really sorry, this happened to a friend of mine. Posted all over Facebook about how he was innocent, stood by him in court, only to find out he had lied to her the whole time. Many years later shes doing really well now. You’re innocent in all this and one day it’ll just be a bad memory. Wish you the best
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Relax, you’re not a child, unlike your BF’s victims, you’ll be fine.
“and I’m scared he will either hurt me . . . . . .”
GET OUT. Leave him and your stuff behind. Move to Milwaukee (unless you already live there) or Minneapolis or Chicago.
I would let those things go. They are just things, right? If they are important documents, passport etc… I would follow a previous Redditor’s advice and request an officer to be present. However, if it’s just personal items (clothing, accessories, furniture etc.. ) I would walk away from it without regret!
You’ve probably dodged the bullet here girl!
Be grateful you found out now and not years down the road with kids and a mortgage…
Move on and forget about the brief relationship and your few belongings (chalk this up as “tuition paid”, and next time google guys before the first date ) Your heart will heal. Best of luck on your journey! 🌻🌸
This isn’t legal but practical advice—what “stuff “ are we talking about. Unless the sentence includes priceless heirloom etc please remember it is just likely easily replaceable “stuff” and not worth any harm physical or emotional. If it wasn’t with him and the possibility of not getting it back—would you think about any of it say 10 years from now. If its a financial issue and replacement of DM me. More than once Ive seen your situation go sideways.