Found out my boyfriend was a cheating scum when I rushed him to the ER.

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I’m beyond heartbroken and angry. My longtime boyfriend had an accident at home and broke a few bones…when we got to the hospital he was so out of it he gave me his phone pin (guarded that phone like it was the Crown Jewels) because my phone had died.

Asian dating, local hookups, finding women overseas, messages kept coming from all those apps and sites.So many porn and streaming sites…but what sent me over the edge was the texts and emails and videos with other women.

The pics they’d taken on Valentine’s Day, the quick vacations where he was supposedly taking care of his family, declarations of love and lust going back years.

Women he’d told me not to worry about, they’re just friends, one lost her parents and was having a hard time, another wanted help figuring out to sell her home, you know the excuses.

He’d told me I was ridiculous, paranoid, acting like a controlling witch. But I could feel it…he’d stopped hugging me, touching me and blamed it on the stress of having to take care of his handicapped mom. All while proclaiming he loved me sooo much, calling me the same sweet nicknames (the ones he used with the others as well, btw). Even talked about wanting to get married (brought that up with one of the others as well, which destroyed me).

Now he’s in the hospital and I can just stare at his lying fucking cheating face in that bed…he may not remember when he wakes up that I told him he’s wasted my time and my love and that I hate him more than anything on this earth and this will be the last time he sees me in this life.

But the one thing I did do is use his phone to message all of the other women he’d been romancing, texting/sexting, telling them how sexy they are and how good they make him feel, oh baby I’m ready to have a real relationship because you’re the only one I want…and told them what he’s done, that he’s more than a piece of shit stained trash, he’s the whole fucking dumpster.

Took pics and sent myself a lot of the evidence before I unfollowed, blocked, and deleted every last trace of myself and us from his phone. I don’t want to ever forget how he’s treated me, so I won’t even think about forgiveness.
I lost my best friend.

Now I’m sitting and looking out the window, waiting for sunrise and a new day to unfold, and wondering why, WHY he sucks so much and makes me feel like I’m not enough. I know I am…but I don’t know if I’ll ever trust anyone with my heart again.

Sorry it’s long, just had to get this off my chest.

Comments

  1. Jreal10 Avatar

    I hope you’re at home looking out a window and not at a hospital with him. The only reason to be by his side at this point is to “pull the plug” on your relationship…

  2. trialanderrorgf Avatar

    Hugs, you’ll get through this. Even the universe collaborated to free you from his lies. You’ll be okay.

  3. SillySpiral1196 Avatar

    You only lost the idea of him. Clearly, he was never truly the man you loved.

    Grieve, heal, and let true love find you 💜

  4. Typical_Agency8984 Avatar

    Put all the women in a group chat and submit proof.

  5. avid-learner-bot Avatar

    Wow… I know I’ll get downvoted for this, but honestly, sometimes this is the best outcome. It’s a brutal lesson in trust, definitely. It’s hard to believe someone can be so deceptive. Um, It’s just… stunning. And the fact you took the evidence before deleting everything? Brilliant. You’re protecting yourself… and that’s smart. Seriously, sometimes a painful ending is the best way to begin a new chapter, one where you’re valued, respected, and loved for who you truly are. It takes so much strength to walk away, and you deserve all the good things coming your way. You’re fantastic

  6. Tremenda-Carucha Avatar

    I know I’ll get downvoted for this, but some people need to understand that toxic relationships are not a fairytale. OP’s boyfriend was cheating and she still chose to prioritize his needs over her own well-being. While I’m not suggesting abandonment, perhaps taking time to process feelings and consider the relationship’s future could have been more beneficial than rushing him to the hospital

    It’s crucial we support each other in setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing our own needs, rather than enabling toxic behaviors out of misguided loyalty or fear. Even with the best intentions, actions like OP’s can perpetuate a cycle of pain and dysfunction