Hello everybody, this isnt about a romantic relationship, but a friend (28m) I (28m) had for a long time. We grew up together, doing everything from trick or treating until hanging out at his college dorm having drinks. I would say we were friends until about 3 years ago. I visited him on a work trip in Pennsylvania, and we had a great time as we always do. I slept on his couch, then moved on to my next work day after saying some goodbyes. We saw eachother a few times after that at holidays and whatnot because he lived out of state. I even met his now wife a few times because he was excited to introduce her. She was wonderful to meet. If we were still friends, he would’ve 1000% been one of my groomsmen, and his whole family would’ve been invited to my wedding. That’s how close I thought we were. He had mentioned something similar back then too.
The year following, I basically never heard from him again. I reached out numerous times the years afterwards to no avail. I even asked one of his now groomsmen what had happened to him and he said he wasn’t very responsive and that he had to pester him on Snapchat just to get a response. The groomsmen moved to the same city and after I reached out to him after a year, he sent me a picture of the aforementioned friend who he was currently hanging out with who hasn’t responded to the once in a while texts I’ll send.
I would like to think I did nothing wrong. I’m not incapable of mistakes, but I don’t remember anything damning. Is this just a case of out of sight, out of mind kind of friendship or would you think it has something to do with how he viewed me and wanted to distance himself? I don’t mind if people don’t like me, not everyone is going to like everyone. It’s life. I just wish I knew.
TL;DR close childhood friend went off the radar for a while and doesn’t respond to anything, but got married and had a mutual friend as a groomsmen that still hangs out with him?
Comments
I’m sorry this is happening. It’s hard to know based on this. This is how some friendships are as hard as it sounds. We rarely get to keep people forever. We all have different paths and hardships and such. I would just focus on moving on and letting go for now even though that’s sucks. Maybe he’ll come back some day but there’s only so much you can control.