I met my FWB about 1.5 years ago but the WB part started about 6 months ago. Now he wants to meet my parents. My parents historically hate everyone but I really don’t think they will like him (he is very unique). Also, my one grandparent (who lives far away) is having health issues and my friend offered to take me there. It would seem weird to have him meet my extended family before my immediate family but I am unsure if him meeting my parents when there is the added stress of my grandparent’s health issues is a good idea. How would you navigate having my FWB meet my parents and/or family so it will go relatively smoothly, if they should meet at all. If so, when (before or after health issue is over)? Also, is it normal for an FWB wanting to meet your parents/family?
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You say “No, we just fuck” unless you’re looking for a relationship out of him then sure go for it
Nope. FWBs exist when someone is physically attracted to another person but doesn’t want to date them, usually because they’re incompatible in other ways. There’s no reason for a f*ck buddy to meet mom and dad. Just tell him no. Meeting the parents is for someone you think you’re going to marry someday.
Well that’s certainly an upfront way of attempting to blur the lines of your relationship… if you’re not interested in getting more serious this definitely reads like he IS and you probably want to have a conversation about that
Just say no, and make sure you’re clear.
I dated a man last year who would regularly bring up meeting my sister and especially my son. At first I’d say things like: we’re not there yet, etc. He only stopped when I said clearly: “That’s a no. Under no circumstances will I be introducing you to members of my family. Not gonna happen.”
If you don’t want to, say no. FWB or not.
Your FWB should not be meeting your family, that’s super weird. He probably wants a more serious relationship with you given that he’s suggesting this.
FWB have not right to offer areas of your life. This man thinks he’s more to you than he is. How does he expect to be introduced “Mom, Dad, this is the man I fuck in between real relationships”?
Wanting to meet your parents is weird and possessive. Find another FWB.
This big issue with this, is he’s a FWB. I introduce platonic friends, I will introduce a committed partner, but not a f-buddy. That’s just a layer of complication I don’t need.
So being character lacking is a choice now, i think your parents also do fwb right upbringing
Nah, he is trying to blur lines while simultaneously being evasive in order to gain some kind of control in your life that he shouldn’t have. Like he’s trying to force / weasel his way into more angles in your life even though you are saying no. Stick to your guns and repeat NO again. If he keeps pushing, dump and block him.
This is why FWB is usually almost always a terrible idea. Someone will catch feelings. Just end it now.