So a bit of background, I’m 17, and my mom is neglectful. She basically moved in with her boyfriend when I was 15 and left me alone in our apartment. She pays rent and brings home groceries sometimes but that’s pretty much it. She’s home once a week and a half if I’m lucky. She has not had a job for my entire life and has a million excuses as to why she can’t get one. She uses everyone else’s money and whenever she does have money of her own from child support or whatever she spends it on stupid stuff like fancy restaurants instead of saving it or putting it towards rent.
Well, since she hasn’t been home, she hasn’t been checking the mail—and I haven’t been checking it either since I just didn’t think about it since nothing in there would be for me—and apparently we had a 5 day notice to pay rent or vacate on July 26th. I came home from my friend’s house last night to a lawsuit taped on our apartment door. My mom is being sued for eviction and double damages and she has to appear in court on August 26th. From my understanding, this means that on the 26th our landlord can force us out, and the sooner we leave the less we will have to pay, right?
I texted my mom last night but she didn’t answer. I assume she’s sleeping. It’s the morning and she still hasn’t responded so she’s either still sleeping or off doing some stupid adventure with her boyfriend. I have no idea how to even start packing or going about starting the move out so I wanted to wait for her to respond. If it were up to me I’d just throw everything unnecessary out and take minimal stuff but I don’t wanna just throw her stuff out. I started on my room a bit, I made a big bag of clothes to drop off at Goodwill and stuff to throw away, but I’m just stressed about the situation and I have no idea what to even do. I’m super tired because I only slept 4 hours last night so I’m gonna take a nap and see if she has responded by the time I wake up, but I feel crushed. My mom is also a hoarder so there is SO much junk in this house. And all of her junk is mixed with my stuff so I have to sort through that. Not excited
I’m also very worried for my moms reaction, I know this is a mean mean mean word but my mom is a pathetic person, she doesn’t even shower and she avoids all her problems and runs to her boyfriends house instead of taking care of what’s wrong here. I don’t think she’ll be able to handle this well at all and her boyfriend is useless, best bet is that my dad will help but my mom has schizo delusions that me and my dad are teaming up against her or something so she hates him
Any advice in general about what to do, how to start packing, how to do this efficiently when you live with a hoarder, what to do about my situation, would be greatly appreciated. The fact I’m about to take a nap instead of packing more is making me feel awful and I just wanna get this done ASAP so I don’t have to deal with it anymore, I’m starting a new job in a few days and college in the beginning of September so I just wanna settle down quickly. Sorry this was so ranty and thank you if you made it this far
Edit: I also have a few packages coming that will arrive after our move out date, what do I do about those?
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You need to worry about you, pack your stuff.
Do you have any other family? Dad? Aunt? Grandparents?
Can you stay with a friend?
Damn dude, that’s rough. Firstly, hang in there. Here’s a hot take, ur mom’s not playin’ her role rn as a parent. You’re still under 18 and she has obligations. Might be worth hittin’ up a local legal aid clinic or Child Services for advice?
Pack essentials, ditch the rest. Prioritize YOU – sleep, meals and hydration. You can forward ur mail to a PO box or new address for those packages ur worried abt.
Mental health tip: It’s okay to step back for a sec in all this mess for some self-care, even if it’s just a nap. You’re handling a tough situation at 17. Respect, man. Stay strong. 💪
Sending positive vibes. Keep us updated!