I just got into an argument with my 13 year old and my husband, about period pain vs getting kicked in the balls.
So, to start things off, my son asserts that getting kicked in the balls is the worst pain in the world and that it is unbearable. I said that I have never seen a man throw up from being kicked in the balls, but I have seen many women throw up from period pain. He said that it isn’t the same.
I said that I have been walking around for two days with extreme pain in my vulva, which I experience every time I get my period. It feels like I’ve been kicked in the crotch every time I get my period, except it lasts for two days, like it’s bruised. But, apparently I’m not allowed to bring that up because “no one wants to hear about their mother’s vulva”, according to my husband.
I get that getting kicked in the balls hurts, I understand that. But, my point is, how often does that happen??? Once or twice in a year,
when they’re young and then less after?Less than that ? And almost always by accident? I’m trying to explain to these men that the pain they feel by getting kicked happens to women monthly, and for days on end but through no fault of our own, is met with anger and disdain and ardent claims that I am diminishing their pain.
For the love of Gods.
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first off, if you have to hear about their balls…. how is a vulva worse?
anyway. sit them both down with a realistic birthing video. then have that pain discussion again.
Man reporting: I’ve been kicked in the balls and yeah it sucks a lot. That said, my wife broke her femur recently and was quoted as saying, “Yeah it hurt a lot, but not much worse than my worst period.” or something along those lines.
So, yeah, debate settled for me.
Edit: Also I haven’t been kicked in the balls in over 20 years, so, kind’ve on a different scale of regularity.
I have seen a few men throwing up after being kicked in the balls.
But comparing the two is kind of a fools errand, as it’s really an apple to oranges comparison. Personally I’d just come to the agreement that both are supremely unpleasant and can be debilitating to the person experiencing them. But if you really need a “one up” then I’d agree that there is something to be said about woman experiencing it on a regular basis, whereas men would only experience it sparingly throughout their lives.
I’m a trans woman. I did not pay enough attention in sex ed, because it turns out that the hormones alone are all you need in order to start getting most period symptoms.
Which is to say, I’m one of those unfortunate souls who has experienced both.
And Jesus Christ woof I’d rather get kicked in the balls.
I’ve had 10 periods so far, and I’ve been blessed with a consistent timing, and cursed with an ass-kicker every single one. I’ve taken work off a couple of times just from the abdominal cramps.
As for the getting kicked in the balls, I used to be a marine, and when you’re roughhousing and a combat boot hits you in the wrong spot, it really really sucks. But the worst I ever got i shook off in about 5 minutes, maybe 10.
I would put their peak pain at about the same level, it’s just that the ball kick is usually over instantaneously instead of at least peaking for a few hours like with my period.
0 out of 10 experience on both, but let’s be real, the period is way worse.
This feels like another “kidney stone vs pregnancy” argument, in that the experience varies so much per person and individual instance that it’s not really valid for debate. I’ve met women who say the worst pain in their lives happened during a complicated pregnancy, while I’ve met a woman who said the worst pain in her life occurred because a number of kidney stones got lodged/stuck within the urethra.
I think what’s more concerning is the fact that your husband is so disturbed by you describing natural (and frankly, important) bodily functions to your son.
As a woman, I do not know the pain of getting kicked in the balls. Period pain lasts for weeks at a time, for years of our lives. It is often debilitating and can be comorbid with a plethora of health problems. Getting kicked in the balls is probably also the most painful thing they can imagine, so it is within their right to defend it as such….as is yours. There’s really no right answer to that portion of the argument.
However, I’d have a talk with your husband about the importance of conversations like these. Shielding your son from important topics about women’s health will only lead to more ignorant statements and conversations he will have with other women throughout his life. If he learns about these subjects, he will learn to respect women enough to not interrogate them about whether or not they’re in enough pain to be comparable to his own. Teenage boys will be boys…but they are more than capable of learning and grasping uncomfortable topics if the standard is set.
Best of luck!
Time to call them out on it mama. If they get to casually discuss their balls, you sure as hell get to talk about your vulva. No one wants to hear about their father’s balls either, but they opened the bodily can of worms.
As for my two cents on the fight; the pain of both is excruciating, but not a super fair comparison. Being kicked in the balls is acute, sudden, debilitating pain for a short time, whereas as you point out, period pain is a long and lingering fight. Personally I think feeling pain equal to being kicked in the nuts for multiple days is worse, but to each their own.
I have definitely thrown up from taking hits to the junk before, both as a kid getting into fights and as a skater splitting myself on handrails. It’s been decades since either but I still remember the pain.
Whether it’s the same, better, or worse is irrelevant though because a period is no one’s choice whereas people only get kicked in the balls by making a choice that causes that to happen. (Aside from unlucky kids who get bullied) But it’s still too rare to compare. The average person.might experience a ball kick 3 or 4 times in their life. Not monthly for most of it.
I once explained my pain to husband [because period pain is different for everyone] as similar to really, really painful gas cramps. That lasts for DAYS, not a few minutes or hours.
being kicked in the balls resulted me on the floor, writing in pain, this lasted maybe an hour
so that initial kick – yeah hurts way more than period pain based on all the cnversations i have had (seema ii varies a lot for different women)
however it wasn’t ~5 days of pain
tbh not sure this is a comparison worth making, seems like a stupid argument you are having, it really isn’t a competition, sounds like an argument a bunch of 13 year olds would have
i’ll raise you my brain surgery pain was worse than your period pain – so does that make me the winner
smh
Sounds like you should hunt down a menstrual cramp simulator
I don’t even have endometriosis or PCOS and had uncomplicated periods that were sometimes painful enough to cause vomiting. I also had migraines since infancy and can say from experience that they are worse than kidney stoned, worse than a spiral fracture and right up there with an exploding gall bladder. I’ve got chronic pain now and there are times when the pain kicks in so fast that my nervous system short-circuits.
I’ve watched videos of men trying out period simulators. They’ll be tapping out at a 3 or 4 while the women are calm af at 6 and 7. And we deal with it for days at a time, along with all the other symptoms that suck.
What doesn’t happen when men get a nut shot is doctors and everyone else telling them that they’re exaggerating their symptoms and put stuff in their charts about attention seeking or drug seeking. They also don’t have to go to school or work with that pain lasting all day and have to function as if they didn’t just get their forks bent. And they don’t have people getting grossed out if they just refer to getting a nut shot. They don’t have people treating their ownership of balls like it’s a character flaw and source of all unmentionable, disgusting things.
It’s not difficult to find period simulator videos. Or labor simulator videos. They can gang up on you all they like, but the men in the videos pretty consistently say they can’t believe women just walk around with pain like that and function like normal.
I have a kidney disorder that means I get frequent kidney stones (Cystinuria for the curious). I’ve heard it described that kidney stone pain can be similar to period pain. Getting kicked in the balls hurts, yeah, but it doesn’t hold a candle to the unrelenting spear through the viscera that is a kidney stone. If period pain is similar, then no, getting kicked in the balls is not as painful.
And my friend has had periods that made her throw up, so
Some men enjoy getting kicked in the balls and will pay a Dom to do it. I’ve never heard of a single woman enjoying her period before.
Even excluding the usual gender wars faff, it’s adorable that your son still thinks getting kicked in the balls is the most painful thing he’ll experience.
First of all, they’re wrong. Period pain gets way worse. Especially for those with endometriosis.
Second of all, how often are they getting kicked in the balls compared to how often women experience period pain? Are they getting kicked in the balls on a monthly basis? How long does the pain last?
Third of all, men who get kicked in the balls will experience sympathy from everyone around them, while women are often expected not to talk about it. Evidenced by them not even wanting to hear about your vulva. Women often have to go about their lives, pretending everything is fine.
i’ve seen teen boys kick each other in the balls for fun. i understand it hurts, but it can’t be the most painful thing imaginable, because even in the minds of teen boys, there are certain things you know crosses a line (ex you don’t punch someone in the face for fun). also recognize not all teen boys do this but wow is it crazy to me i’ve seen it more than once
anyway, your son is 13, so i understand how he could be confused. what makes me sad is that rather than his father encouraging him to think beyond his own experiences he’s just getting that incorrect view reinforced
A 13 year old being stupid makes sense. But why is your husband also invalidating your pain??
The only way to solve this is: Next time your period starts, kick both your husband and son in the balls and see who feels better first. I bet it’s them.
(Disclaimer: No I do not actually condone violence)
And how long does the pain go on for a man after a kick, compared to how long a woman feels excruciating period pain? A couple of minutes vs a couple of days? Once in a blue moon vs every month?
There is a video of a device that has simulated period pain given to men. Go make your husband and son watch it. They are being ignorant.
I have seen a dude throw up from being kicked in the balls. But the pains aren’t really comparable, It’s apples to oranges imo.
One is an instantaneous pain that wanes over like 5-10 mins and the other is continuous, last hours to days and reoccurs periodically.
I haven’t had period cramps, I have had stomach cramps. Not saying they’re the same, what I am saying is if I got monthly stomach cramps I would not be comparing that to getting in the balls lol.
The being kicked in the balls hurts more than X debate is so dumb.
here are 2 “men” who would really benefit from the labor pain simulator.
Meanwhile, in another universe…
I hate the idea of your being in pain. [insert compassion here].
Yes, I also hate the idea of your being in pain. I love you, and if you’re ever in pain, I will be here for you.
I’m in a unique position to comment on both. I’m a trans woman who gets regular period symptoms every 24-28 days: cramping, bloating, mood swings, etc. Everything except the bleeding part. Symptoms last about 5-6 days. Started up around 13-14 months into taking HRT. I keep track using a calendar.
Periods are thoroughly uncomfortable and sometimes outright painful. When the cramps are at their worst, it feels as if someone’s stabbed me in my lower abdomen with an ice pick and swirled it about. When my cramps are quiet, it’s more like a dull throbbing: still uncomfortable, but manageable. Can’t say they’ve ever made me puke, but I’ve only had them for around 4 months now, and I’m only in my 30s.
As for getting hit in the balls: when I was younger, I fell off some monkey bars crotch first onto a raised horizontal metal pole a few feet off the ground. The pain was blaring, keeling me over and leaving me unable to move for a good 15-20 minutes. I remember feeling extremely sick to my stomach at the time. Things were tender for a few days, but I recovered quickly.
What we’re comparing here is a blitzing and incredible moment of pain, to a constant and unavoidable regular one. Both are horrible, but if I had to compare the two, I find periods worse. Getting hit in the balls is a much sharper pain, but it doesn’t last, and men aren’t getting sacked on a monthly basis. Periods, for the most part, are unavoidable, last longer, and can be just as sharp at times.
There’s also the difference in pain tolerance to consider too. Before HRT, I felt pain a lot less, but had a much lower tolerance for it. After HRT, I feel pain much sharper than before, but I have a much higher tolerance for it. Pretty typical for men and women, respectively. Women feel pain more, but can take a lot more. Men feel pain less, but have a much shorter limit – that’s probably why they think getting hit in the balls has to be the greatest pain ever (and makes me wonder if this is why they dismiss women’s pain so readily, aside from misogyny). When the average bit of pain doesn’t feel like much, suddenly feeling a blitzing pain is likely akin to the difference between sliding down a hill, and jumping off a mountain. After all, ‘How could anything hurt more than that?’
Nevertheless, women’s pain shouldn’t be dismissed. It happens much too often. We already put up with enough as it is.
One time I had a kidney stone and thought it was a period cramp, it felt the same as my worse cramps. That ebbing pain sometimes had me writhing on the cold floor and biting a rag.
The ball kick is so intense that other dudes who see it also hurt. So intense Kung Fu masters figured out how to suck their balls up into their bodies (rumor). Itll drop a grown ass man to the ground in an instant. Think of it like this, its just like getting kicked into vulva, but with your ovaries on the outside. Testicle skin is thin thin thin. Its not just a surface impact.
I was diagnosed with Osgood-Schlatter disease many years ago. It felt as if someone had put a very sharp rock in the middle of my knee, between the femur and tibia. Every time I stood it felt like being stabbed in the knee. It is still the worst pain I have ever felt. I mention this because it was worse than getting hit in the balls. Not like getting hit in the balls is a good time, it’s been pretty awful all four times it’s happened in the 60+ years I’ve been alive, but Osgood-Schlatter was worse.
I mention this because I know a woman who had Osgood-Schlatter’s, and we were talking about it, and she said that it was excruciating, she really felt for anyone else who ever had it, “it was almost as bad as my worst period cramps, but those are a monthly thing, not every time you stand up.”
Based on that comparison, you may tell your husband and son, from a fellow man who has a basis for comparison, that some women have period cramps that are worse than getting hit in the balls, and period cramps happen way more often. I know if I try to imagine getting kicked in the balls several times a day several days in a row once a month, that’s nothing I’d want to experience.
Nuance is more important, a glancing shot is much less painful than one that causes direct damage to the testis. That pain is certainly very high on the scale.
But it’s also far from the worst pain in the world, if you’ve ever had a heart attack or a smooth kidney stone blocking urine in your urinary tract where your kidneys are just blowing up like balloons, you’d take the nut shot any day.
Excluding any long term conditions like sickle cell, CRPS or MS, then back labour, appendicitis, a slipped disk or even stomach ulcers would all be worse.
The fact that period pain for those worst affected lasts over a week (and can be a monthly experience to look forward to) would already make it worse than getting a (well deserved) kick in the balls.
Pain is also very subjective, and not all people have the same sensitivities. Some men seek out getting kicked in the groin for example.
One thing you could say is that a ball beating is a very acute pain, correctly aimed and landed will incapacitate immediately. You’d be on your knees at best, anything you were doing or thinking of before would be gone. That hardly ever happens outside of very intentional occurrences and would then still be rare. A serious injury resulting from the testicular collision could in turn be much more painful as well, a colleague of mine once described his agony when his little twin exploded after an object hit him just right.
A long lingering pain like period pain would be on the face of all that be much more painful, as it’s regular, long lasting and debilitating for those that suffer the worst of it.
For that same reason I’d even say cluster headaches are much worse than a swift kick in the sack.
Dude reporting in:
Period pain is worse. It’s not close. Not only is/can the pain flat out be worse in terms of severity, but the sheer duration fucktouples that calculation. AND it’s a half-your-life regular affliction??
Suggestion:
purchase an electrostim device. If my memory isn’t failing me, there are models made by/tested by women to emulate period cramps. I feel fairly confident that at a five or a six, they’ll complain a little… and then remind them that that’s halfway up the scale, and that you’re not talking about just a minute of aching. Periods last.
They recently discovered period pain can be worse than the pain of an active heart attack.
I often have a hard time telling the difference between my kidney stone pain and menstrual cramps, almost exactly the same type of spasmy pain in nearly the same area associated with an internal organ that’s squeezing out blood. The first time it took me a few weeks to realize a stone was obstructing my kidney because that kind of pain just wasn’t anything new. I was more than a little annoyed when I finally went to the ER (not for pain, but the associated UTI) and as soon as the scans showed the stuck stone they were suddenly in a hurry to give me heavy pain meds when earlier they were suggesting “maybe try relaxing, gentle exercise, hot water bottle,” when doc thought it was gyno instead of uro territory.
When my periods started getting really bad (I was in my very early 30s), I went to an OBGYN and ended up being diagnosed with cervical cancer. When I say my period pain was horrendous, it would send me scurrying to find prescription meds from when my back went out, and tbh here, I’d have rather it been my back going out than whatever was happening in my nether-regions. It felt like my innards were in a steel vise and threatening to rupture. But I had a job to perform, bills to pay, kids to raise, spouse/house obligations, etc. I couldn’t afford to just stop and indulge myself, so I’d take meds and keep going. And when I ran out of those meds…I took ibuprofen, suffered silently, and still kept going. This went on for over a year, up until I realized that something was very, very wrong.
During the later appointments during diagnostic phase, around the time that biopsies were being taken, my doctor asked me if I was experiencing pain. I said, yes, it hurts, but I can’t let that stop me. My husband said, “Look, Doc, you can’t expect an objective answer. I’ve seen her hit her hand with a hammer, and she just shook it off and kept going. If she says out loud that she’s hurting, then it’s bad.” The old doctor told me to lay back, he was going to do a reflex test. Odd request, but no problem.
The test involved him putting the tips of his fingers on certain points on my abdomen, and hitting that hand with his other hand. He hit several spots, which to me just felt like taps, then said, “Hmm, this last one might hurt a bit more than the others…” And a tendril of pain, sort of like the sting of getting an injection, spread across the nerves in my abdomen. I told him that yeah, that last one kind of smarted, but was tolerable.
“That last one should have had you jumping off that table and screaming in pain, if not make you pass out,” he said. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the look of wonder and awe on his face as he said it.
That was the day I learned that my idea of “bad” pain was much, much worse than what normal people can bear and still stay conscious. Apparently the “reflex” test was actually a pain tolerance test, one that showed such a high threshold for pain that asking me for a number on a pain scale was useless from a diagnostic standpoint. From then on, the doctor just assumed the worst when it came to my pain levels, and he started throwing opioids at me up until a few weeks after I had my hysterectomy…Which was scheduled for only 4 weeks after that memorable appointment.
When I woke up from that surgery, I had a pain pump taped to my hand, and when I went home the next day, let’s just say the meds I was sent home with were enough to make the ones for back pain look like placebos.
I’m not so sure that my pain tolerance was/is from the cancer, because my periods have always hurt to some degree. And I’ve always handled it the same: take OTC meds if I have to, and just keep going. We’re talking pain for around 4 days, month after month, for almost two decades. You’re bound to get used to it, sort of a uterine “frog in the pot” situation, I guess.
I am forever grateful to that doctor for believing my pain, for being curious enough to see what kind of pain tolerance I had, and for taking the time to explain to my spouse why . He made sure that even before the surgery, I had at least some relief for the pain of that last period.
But I’m most grateful for that doctor explaining to my husband, in no uncertain terms, that according to that reflex test, if I had testicles and if I got kicked in those hypothetical testicles, my pain threshold was so high that it probably wouldn’t register with my brain as pain. I’d keep walking. He cautioned my husband to take over a lot of the things I was doing, because in my condition, I shouldn’t have been doing them…I literally could not (and still cannot) feel when I’m further damaging muscles or tissues until it’s too late.
Apparently the twins are the benchmark by which men measure the worst of pain. And apparently a guy will only believe that comparison between a man’s pain and a woman’s pain if the guy telling him has a medical degree, 3 or so decades of medical practice, and performs a pain tolerance test. If you’re a woman telling a guy about that comparison…Yeah, good luck with that. They won’t believe you.
For how many times this minor injury actually happens in a guy’s life, they sure fucking talk about it a lot. Tell your husband and kid no one wants to hear about their family’s balls.
One of my favorite videos from Smosh was one of their assorted challenge videos. In this video the cast was assigned 3 simple tasks while using the cramp simulator shocking thing. Pour a cup of water from a pitcher, stack some boxes and give a quick presentation. All the guys bombed it. Horribly. Comically. Water everywhere, boxes misaligned, etc. Courtney strapped on the thing and did the 3 tasks, no problems. Men don’t really understand the pain that can be felt.
I would find one of those period simulation machines and hook them up. Let them feel what those of us with a uterus feel every month.
I would also have statistics for the percentage of uterus havers who experience mild, moderate, high and extreme pain.
Does getting kicked in the balls hurt? Absolutely. Does it compare to getting stabbed in the uterus every month? Nope, not even close.
Get the period pain simulator and finish the argument definitively
Tooth pain is officially the worst pain.
They need to both be hooked up to the machine that stimulates period pain and giving birth. They won’t last 5 minutes
Time to buy those period pain shock pads. Give it to both of them and turn it up as high as it goes. Watch them wraggle in pain … enjoy. 😆
I never understood why people always seem to make pain a competition.
Why can’t more people just be empathetic to the fact that someone else is hurting…?
I don’t really think it matters which is worse, people should have empathy when others are experiencing pain. Especially when it’s someone you claim to love. End of story.
So is there a reason your husband wants to teach your son to be unempathetic to women’s pain? Does he honestly believe that if either he or your son got nailed in the gonads that you’d just stand there shrugging your shoulders and not caring at all? Because that’s what he’s doing to you right now, and he’s teaching your kid to do the same.
Off topic, but I’d rather get kicked in the balls 20 times than have another kidney stone.
Wait. I mean period pain is worse, end of debate, mine was always in my back. But You have to hear your son and husband whine about their balls, but you can’t mention a painful vulva, that your husband should be familiar with, and your son got popped out of? That’s the real issue right there.
I think they can both be severe, but only one is prolonged, with prolonged bleeding and clots, and you still have to maintain while it’s happening.
Who’s pain is worse is a dumb argument anyways.
Pain is purely subjective with no actual way to measure it. (The pain units you see on fb is pseudo-scientific bullshit.)
The real question you need to ask them is why are they trying to invalidate your pain.
Why are they coming up with so many reasons and examples for why your pain isn’t a legitimate struggle you have to deal with? Especially when it’s something they are physically incapable of experiencing? Why don’t they just support you with your struggle?
Like, this shit isn’t hard. Just be supportive and ask how you can help the women in your life out when it’s that time of the month.
This stupid argument I’ve seen my whole life pisses me off.
Since your husband and son seem to have so many ideas about being kicked in the balls, I recommend that you give them this essay by A. R. Moxon to read. It is entitled “The Nut Kick” and I think it would do them a lot of good.
Can I just say, I’ve had insomnia for 4 days. I’m pretty sure that isn’t a side effect of getting kicked in the balls a week in advance.
I have seen many men throw up from being hit in the balls. It is acute, body debilitating pain. The important thing is that it is short-lived. Men suffer for a few minutes and it’s usually over (unless some massive, permanent damage was done). Period pain can last for days and be horrible the entire time. As a man, there is no comparison, I would never want period pain.
Tattoo artists say that universally women sit and take it way way better than men.
I mean you aren’t wrong about the frequency thing, and I think ultimately one kind of pain cannot be equated to any other kind of pain.
But on the not of throwing up from the pain… I once saw my friend get kicked in the balls, completely unprovoked, another kid came up behind him and kicked him, he immediately vomited, and then passed out for like 15 minutes.
But again, I truly believe they aren’t comparable things, and the lack of empathy towards people who experience periods is absolutely disgusting.
I also just don’t think dismissing the pain of others as lesser is helpful in any capacity.
Your husband needs to get a clue and support you better as a co-parent. You’re doing good work, trying to teach your son about the reality that all the women around him are forced to deal with monthly for decades.
For any women looking to escape periods, I’m on my second hormonal IUD and haven’t had a “real” menstrual cycle in a decade. It’s glorious! Doesn’t work for everyone, but really works for me, so I always take the opportunity to mention it in case it helps someone.
Men will pay to have someone kick them in the balls. I know of no woman who enjoys her period.
Some men even have a fetish for being kicked in the nuts. Do any women secretly enjoy getting their period? I kinda doubt it.
I’m sure testicular torsion is going to be a contender, but just the act of being kicked in the nuts alone? As a man myself it’s a little laughable to want to compare the two. Getting a nut shot can be debilitating for 5 minutes, getting a period can be debilitating for days.
I think of my period like a monthly bill I have to pay. Every 28 days …
Boys balls don’t bleed when kicked.
Does a man have to consult a calendar when planning a trip to see if their balls are going to be kicked for 5-7 days?
Your 13 year old has no idea what pain is.
I’m a guy and I can say that I very much avoid getting kicked… there… because it sucks. And it sucks a lot.
But I’ve been in intensive care twice. Both times were way worse than getting kicked.
I’ve been set on fire. That was worse.
I’ve broken my kneecap. That was worse.
I’ve had a tooth abscess. That was worse.
I’ve had appendicitis. That was worse.
I’ve had toenails ripped off. That was worse.
If the worst pain he can imagine is getting knocked in the nortles, he’s led a charmed life and he should be thankful for that.
As a person who has balls and has been kicked in them, yes, it hurts. A lot.
As a husband, brother, son, cousin, friend, and coworker to several women (some of whom have endometriosis), it doesn’t seem to compare to the pain of periods as it’s been described to me. My wife used to pass out on the bathroom floor after hours of vomiting during her teen years.
Admittedly, most sons don’t want to hear about their mother’s vulva, but being aware of and respecting the things women go through should be required learning for young men.
As a teenager I once had a similar argument with a male friend. I offered to kick him in the balls every time I had a crippling cramp. After learning that there can be multiple horrendous cramps per day, he admitted that periods were probably worse.
It doesn’t matter which hurts worse, you’re allowed to complain about your pain. LORD knows jf their balls hurt for multiple days in a row they would be complaining. Tell your husband he’s a nincompoop excuse of a man for saying women hating sounding words like “no one wants to hear about their mothers vulva” cuz unfortunately buddy, and idk if he was there, but you pushed that kid OUT of YOUR vulva. Gtfo. Idk maybe he’s gay and wants his son to be gay cuz women have Vulvas.
However, my bf has explained how badly balls getting kicked pain can be and has reported that it has made him throw up and can even last a while. But not as long as a period and just like with periods it does seem to vary person to person.
Testicular pain caused by blunt impact can absolutely make someone vomit. The pain could potentially kill according to some sources.
But it’s obvious that periods are worse as they are far more frequent and can also cause a variety of health issues that can also lead to severe injuries or death.
So maybe testicular pain is worse in an acute and usually very protracted timeframe, but period pain is a much larger pain over time. If you filled a bucket with nut shot pains by the time someone died, most menstruating persons would have filled multiple pain buckets. More than that if they have children.
Men in general need more medical education. Women are half of people. Everyone should know how they work.
I have absolutely seen a dude throw up from getting hit in the balls lmao. Good memories.
I explained that period pain is the worst gas pain of your life, combined with the pain of vomiting, and oh yea, bleeding and diahrrea
When i was in labor, the pain didn’t hurt hurt until i was a 6. Everything before felt like a period
Worst pain I’ve had is a gallbladder infection easily worse than nuts getting kicked. Couldn’t talk when the waves of pain came on. Puked. Got shocked awake because of the pain. And fucking hell it lasted for hours and then there would be breaks like everything was normal.
I have testicles and am of the opinion that people who pretend getting kicked in theirs is “the most painful thing ever” could probably use a few more kicks to the testicles.
That said, I have EDS, arthritis, had a horse stomp on my back when I was four, just generally am in pain all the time. Have had family, friends, and an ex all tell me unprompted that I had “dead nerves,” because a lot of the stuff they whine about wouldn’t register for me. I think period pain sounds awful for a lot of reasons, not least of which because it makes it much harder to know if something seriously wrong is happening.
Why do people want to treat pain as an Olympic Sport?
Kick em in the balls once a month
Okay, as a vagina having person who has been kneed in said vagina on two occasions (muay thai sparing), which dropped me both times….
getting hit in the crotch sucks pretty equally for everyone, actually, but it’s brief compared to period pain. And not nearly as bad as getting an iud inserted
Trans gender woman checking in, breasts are on the same pain circuit as testis, that same sickening, wanting too vomit pit of your stomach aching waves of pain.
They are not some where safe but on your chest, not one testis but a bag of several testis grouped together, testis can’t get side collisions like breasts can.
Now ask them what it would be like trying to find comfortable positions too sleep with multi testis sacks on your chest, roll over in the night and..
They have no idea how easy they have it.
A kick in the balls is a more intense pain but lasts for a few seconds. I’d imagine period cramp to be less intense but last longer. Which is worse, I have no idea.
I can count on 1 hand the number of times I’ve been kicked in the nuts. Every time , I immediately fell to the ground and screamed with pain. If this went on for even just minutes instead of seconds, I’d be in a hospital getting them removed. Are period cramps that intense?
just adding my anecdotal point. I have actually thrown up from being hit in the nuts by a lacrosse ball. it’s different than breaking a bone, or laceration, or even getting hit elsewhere pain.
Since pain is subjective I doubt you can ever have a real answer over which is worse.
I am sure some people have very painful periods, too.
A man CAN puke from being kicked in the balls…if the kicker is especially athletic and has one hell of a leg. The simple fact of the matter is they can’t really be compared because one relies on several variables like the strength of the kick, while the other is literally your body shearing off a section of itself to replace with a fresh one.
That said, I really don’t think anything that could be considered “variable” with a relatively low time of effect can possibly contend with an experience that all women agree fucking sucks and lasts several days.
Kicked in the nuts hurts, but it’s super rare. Oddly a little tap in the wrong place can hurt like hell too.
I once kicked a guy in the balls when I was aiming for his face (karate), he went down like a sack of spuds and threw up, ended up in hospital too. That’s once in 50 odd years though.
Lets not pretend here though, for some women period pain is on a debilitating level and every 28 days.
Your husband is not being a good example for your son here. It’s ok for him to believe that in the moment the hit is more painful, but he should be acknowledging and validating what you are saying about period pain. And why is it ok for you to listen to them talk about their balls so much and you don’t get to mention your own reproductive parts?. Many many women have painfully debilitating periods or periods that suck much more than a temp hit to the balls, and I’m worried that in this good natured boys-vs-girls style family argument your son might pick up some bad messaging that he could carry into adult life.
Both are right and wrong at same time. Pain is subjective. I’ve seen puke blood over I knee in the balls. I’ve know women who brush of a period and some crippled with it.
If you wanna fuck with them grab a period pain simulator and see how long they last
I’m gonna say birthing my 10lbs 5oz baby with zero pain meds while tearing so badly (3rd degree) that I then needed 60 stitches (again, unmedicated) is worse than any period cramps I’ve ever had. And far worse than getting kicked in the balls. IMO.
“no one wants to hear about their mother’s vulva”
but you have to hear about your son’s balls?
There’s some (perhaps unconscious) sexism coming from your husband around this issue (and likely periods in general) that’s being passed down to your son.
I’ve seen men throw up after getting licked in the balls.
I don’t know that these comparisons are useful either direction. Ideally, you should never get kicked in the balls, whereas menstruation is a necessary part of life that most women have to deal with. Not all periods are the same, not all blows to the junk are the same.
I will say, having done combat sports, I have seen men throw up from a shot to the balls, even with a cup on. It can be extremely painful and in some cases result in permanent damage. It isn’t to be messed with. That said, if you’re dealing with period pain you should just be getting empathy and support from the men in your life, not these stupid comparisons to a mostly avoidable situation.
As an Intersex woman who has experienced both the balls thing and period cramps, and ALSO kidney stones, I think period pain and being kicked in the balls are comparable pains, however period pain lasts hours or days at a time, sometimes more manageable sometimes less, balls pain lasts like 1-5min.
Either way, kidney stone pain is far, FAR worse than either
A doctor described period pain to my ex as someone with severe diarrhea, cramping and pain and all but not being able to find a toilet at a crowded mall. Except it lasts for days. My ex may have experienced a mild level of empathy at that time. He seemed to understand the analogy anyway.
Testicles aren’t all that sensitive. A lot of men are just dramatic about it.
Get a tens machine. It simulates period pain. Stick it on the fella arguing at about a level 6 and tell him he has to wear it 24/7 for let’s be kind and say 4 days. He still has to live his life. Doing whatever things he does. He can take a couple of painkillers, but other than that, he has to just get on with it and pretend everything is fine.
See if he changes his mind.
Speaking from the point of view of a man married to a woman I will just say that while taking a solid shot to the nuts can be immediately debilitating, the worst of the pain is over in minutes and typically fades entirely after a few hours. I’ve seen my wife laid out for days. That’s not even mentioning the migraines, GI upset, and fatigue that starts several days before she actually gets her period. And it happens every. Single. Month. I’ll take the occasional kick in the nuts.
Edit: If your son thinks getting kicked in the nuts is the worst pain imaginable, then he must be very lucky to have never experienced a serious injury. I’ve had a lot. Like, an unusual amount of significant physical trauma. All of it much worse than getting kicked in the nuts. I hope your son never has to learn that lesson the hard way.
TL;DR Getting kicked in the nuts really sucks, but it’s better than what my wife goes through every month.
You know they’re wrong because all the men that try the period cramp simulator buckle over at like a level 3 and ladies will sit there at level 10 like “hm, that tickles”
They’re certainly being jerks. Even if it was equivalent pain, it’s not something we as guys will experience monthly. I play 2 violent contact sports and I’m only getting blasted in the jimmies maybe 8-9 times a year.
I think dudes who think that haven’t really thought hard enough about what period pain is or might feel like. My wife gets sometimes debilitating periods. So bad she’s had to come home from work due to it at least once or twice a year (and she doesn’t have Endo or anything unless they somehow missed it – she had her tubes removed and was told they can tell during the surgery and when they check the removed material after). That’s nothing compared to getting hit in the balls AND getting hit is something that rarely happens as an adult,let alone severely enough to be crippling.
I had a calf cramp up leaving a busy venue going up stairs many years ago. Since it was too narrow I couldn’t stop and kept going. Hurt so bad and strained the muscle I couldn’t walk right for a week or two. If period cramps are even remotely like that (but obviously worse), it’s no contest. Idk how y’all ever even walk with them.