It’s not ” a person you would cheat with,if given the opportunity” .Most of celebrities nowadays are more of an idea/brand/image than a real person. There’s a whole marketing team besides them ,curating how they look like,what they post,wear and say.
Also, they’re obviously out of reach.
As long as they’re not crazily obsessive , I wouldn’t mind my (theoretical) partner having one.
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Your girl is only yours till the right guy asks
I normally don’t care. Only time I cared was when it was obsessive and my ex would frequently bring up (jokingly but also it was very excessive) how he would leave me for Emma Watson. I finally broke and said, fine why don’t we break up so you can pursue that? Or something like that. Said it in front of all his friends. He stopped after that.
I don’t really care but once it gets excessive it gets annoying.
I just have video game character crushes.
My boyfriend doesn’t seem to mind all my vibrators being named Leon.
It’s a very weird thing to care sbout
My girlfriend has a big “crush” on Ross Lynch. It’s never been weird she just had a crush on him from when she first saw Austin and Ally and has been a supportive fan of his ever since. Obviously he’s better looking than I am but yea it’s not something where she is obsessed with him and would choose him over me (at least I hope lmao). We’ve had fun with it and I’ve given gifts/ merch of him to her and we joke about it and the same thing on her end for me when it’s about Emma Watson lol. As long as it’s not someone being obsessed or fantasizing about being with their celebrity “crush” I don’t think it’s a big deal either.
Do people care about this? My wife and I are not generally big into lusting over celebs but on the rare occasions when we do it’s a fun thing to talk about with each other
I think there is a huge difference between saying “so and so is hot” and ” i wish I were with so and so instead of you”
Agreed. It’s about time someone says that.
The less famous the celebrity, the more concerning it is lol
I don’t care as long as it isn’t an obsessive crush(posters on wall,wallpapers of him,etc).
Oh I had one of these partners. He could GUSH over his celeb crush all the time, but let me do it and the green-eyed monster would come out big time. And honestly, it wasn’t even me gushing. I simply said a certain celebrity was “my type” – that’s it.
I don’t fawn or get starstruck over a person I may meet once in a lifetime, if ever.
Bro had some other issues too and there is a reason he is a long ago ex.
My thing is why are they telling you in the first place?
I used to joke around that the only man who would ever get a free pass to me, is Henry Cavill, but the chances of meeting him and him actually reciprocating my affections would be about -.000004
My ex was way too obsessed with Brendan Urie. It was honestly uncomfortable. She would say more loving and caring things about him than me. Thank God it didn’t work out. If it’s a small thing like my cliche guy crush on Ana de Armas, it’s okay, but when your whole personality becomes your celebrity crush, it’s too much.
Unless someone is acting completely obnoxious, it’s a non-issue.
I only care because of how my fiance phrases it… to quote “You would have to let Tom Hardy be my hallpass. We will never ever meet so its okay, but if the opportunity came to sleep with him i absolutely would. And i would want you to sleep with your crush too because its a once in a lifetime chance to be with someone famous”
We’ve had multiple… discussions… about it and to be honest im usually left feeling dumpy afterwards.
one of the few time an unpopular opinion is actually an unpopular opinion, it’s such a red flag if she has big celebirty crush on someone imo
I actually know someone who ruined their marriage with a celebrity crush. Never got into an actual relationship with the celebrity because she was married but worked into her inner circle. Creepy.
My ex used to go on about Catherine Zeta Jones and I finally got sick of it so I said ” you might like her, but do you really think she’d ever be interested in you” mean i know but bro wouldn’t shut up.
Counter point: having a celebrity crush is silly
An ex-wife, with Borderline Personality Disorder, used to get jealous over other women in commercials, she thought were my type, then get irrationally angry with me when the commercials came on, like I had any control over that.
She was also like this over random women who also shopped in Walmart. She made sure to walk a few feet in front of me to look for women she thought were my type, then look at me to see if they looked at them.
Most of the time I didn’t even notice them but that didn’t stop her from accusing me of drooling over them.
She said these behaviours of hers weren’t bad since another woman she knew went as far as cutting pictures out of catalogues that came in the mail before her husband was allowed to look through them.
Most of celebrities nowadays are more of an idea/brand/image than a real person
Great observation. Spot on.
It’s also annoying as fuck when they reference it constantly. Two way street of annoying, I guess.
Agreed. I legit saw someone online say that having a celebrity crush is cheating on your partner. Absolutely ridiculous
There’s idly fantasizing about a celebrity, and then there’s using your partner as a backup for your ultimate fantasy. It all depends on what you would actually do if the opportunity presented itself IRL. Would you leave your partner for them? Or would you say, “No thanks, you’re fun to fantasize about but I really love my partner”?
Agreed, but in a magical alternate universe where it could actually happen? My husband can have a hall pass, as long as I can watch and I also get a hall pass in this alternate universe to sleep with my celebrity crush. I wouldn’t consider it cheating. If my husband had the chance to sleep with Selma Hyack or Jenna Ortega and he didn’t take it, I’d think he was an idiot.
My mom is a very funny, quirky, 5-2″ blonde. She got mad when my Dad told her he had a crush on Amy Poehler. I’m like “Mom, he just has a crush on the TV version of you!”
It is. None of the people reading this have any chance of getting with a celebrity. Not to mention all of the other people who have no chance, or just don’t give a shit. Just enjoy the good fuck with them thinking about whatever celebrity they are thinking about.
I don’t think it’s necessarily the crush that is the problem for most people. It’s hearing your S.O. casually and openly talk about finding someone else, typically someone you can’t measure up to in any way shape or form, attractive. I don’t personally find it silly. It’s totally healthy to acknowledge with your partner that you will both will inevitably find other people attractive in life, and a couple glances here and there is natural and fine. That’s completely different from taking the time the verbally express to your loved one that the person in the little black box is hot and possibly turning you on. No kink shame, but that’s why I think it’s a popular opinion.
It’s a very silly thing to get upset over, and unless it’s a case of them having an unhealthy obsession it is a giant red flag if a partner gets upset over it.
It’s also silly to gush over a celebrity so much that it makes your spouse uncomfortable.
This is unpopular?
It’s basically saying if the right person came along they would cheat on you
“Here’s how I would treat my partner.” IF I HAD ONE!! vibes right here.
But yeah, this is one of those things that you probably wont know how bad it is until you experience it. The problem with celebrity crushes is that its pretty obvious that its silly and a joke, and there’s little to no chance of your partner leaving you for that person. But the context is pretty sinister where you’re using the pretext of a joke to demean and belittle your partner.
So case in point. My wife has a crush on a certain Star Trek actor. Kept being obnoxious about it, bracketing every criticism and dissatisfaction at me with a comparison with said actor. He looks better. He dresses better. He’s got a sense of style. He’s more fit. He probably treats his dates better. Blah blah blah. She thought it was just a grand joke and wouldnt stop it even when I told her that I dont like it. It finally stopped when I started comparing her to pornstars. She initially countered that pornstars are acting when they’re showing their sex techniques on film, and I told her that’s exactly what celebrities posting on IG do. And at least I got a chance of sleeping with the pornstars if I paid them enough to do a film with me. Her? Zero chance with her celebrity crush.
I’m a little crazy, as long as they look similar to me, I don’t care 😆
My gf is obsessed with Billie Eilish. We joke about it and I tell her I’m ok with being part of a throuple. It’s not a big deal.
Don’t think that’s unpopular
Having a celebrity crush and even more so sharing it. Is silly.
Do you love each other, or do you dream of other people all day ?
If it’s a crush, it’s a crush. But if it is a constant barrage of, ” i would fuck him/her” than it dosen’t have the same impact.
Keep in mind that for some men or women in a relationship, there are the ones that wouldn’t even entertain this idea unless it’s brung up.
My husband is finally as sick of Taylor Swift as the rest of the world. Thank goodness.
Never been in such a situation, so I cannot really say how I would feel. But, I can say how I was every single time I was in a relationship… I became quite “blind” and disinterested in other women. So I probably would find it odd that she is not seeing it the same way. Basically, why exactly is she thirsting over others?
But hey, we are all different.
There was a whole thread recently about how its alarmingly easy for your gf to be a couple instagram/twitter DMs away from hooking up with an athlete or music artist in your area
I had an ex genuinely accuse me of caring more about the anime character Gojo more than him once……not even a real celebrity…..just an anime character
Why even bother sharing it though?
I’d be mildly annoyed if my partner was that vacuous, but I’d just ignore it because who cares
I’ll repeat what it says up front I will repeat what it says AS LONG AS THEY’RE NOT CRAZILY OBSESSIVE, it’s okay to have a little crush on someone who you’re never ever going to get with. and even if they’re in front of you, you would be loyal to your spouse! don’t be overly paranoid in your marriages and prioritize what’s important! that way you don’t ruin a good thing! now if they are posting pictures on the walls and talking about them all the time, that’s one thing! but if they just see them in a movie and say”that’s one cute girl””I think that it’s totally fine lol. I reckon that I would have a celebrity crush to.
Depends. Would u want ur girl saying “I wish he can rail TF outta me all night”
My ex’s crush was the singer from Greta van fleet, and this wasn’t a problem until she mentioned how he sometimes kisses audience members and she was hoping that he would kiss her if she ever went to one, and then I said I wasn’t okay with that, and then sometime later she went to his concert and didn’t invite me and didn’t tell me about it and I found out later 😢
Having a crush on a celebrity is just as silly
This can’t be unpopular
Just have a crush on the same celebrity. Problem solved.
Call me unhinged but nah. When did romance get so bleak we are all fine with our partners crushing on other people. Seems self hating, why can’t they do that to you?
Tbh I find it pathetic having a celebrity crush lol. Why would you have a crush on someone you idolize for no actual reason.
That’s fair, if your SO is a man with a female celebrity crush.
Otherwise, Instagram exists. Even if the celeb is “just a brand” or idea, image, etc, random girls get hit up online all the time, you can find the less seasoned girls post screenshots of it on every social media platform. I went to college in a major entertainment hub, and I literally know multiple girls that have gotten hit up by people in a celebrity guy’s posse to show up at the club and look hot in their section.
People were coming at Drake pretty recently because a few years ago a 17 year old girl from Queens got hit up to do that. Nothing happened, but the point is it’s literally that easy, they don’t even check ages. Just be an attractive girl with a decent social media presence in a major metropolitan area, and your celebrity crush really isn’t that far away.
Also on a slightly unrelated note, not all celebrities have big teams behind them carefully crafting their image. Those are only the super A list ones, and only after they’ve gotten to that level. Most just have the essentials, manager, lawyer, accountant, and they aren’t their only clients either.
Definitely an unpopular opinion. But having a celebrity crush is no different from saying “I’m only with you because I couldn’t have the person I think is better than you.”
I’ve always said I’d be pissed if my wife had the chance to sleep with Henry Caville and didn’t take it.
It’s pretty much saying “I will not hesitate to ditch you if someone better comes along”