We’ve been together for 8 months and usually when I have to go to the airport, I just take the train to the airport, which isn’t as reliable and typically takes 1 hour to get to the destination of the airport I go to, but is way cheaper than ubering ($3 vs $40+). It’s an early morning flight so I initially told her I would just take the train, but she insinuated last night she would be able to take me and then head back home afterwards. She told me she gets highway anxiety driving to the airport, but she had picked her friend up from the airport rather recently and noted she will be taking her dad in a couple weeks also so this isn’t brand new to her
Well come this morning, as I’m getting things ready after my alarms goes off, she starts groaning and says that she’s too tired and gassy, and says the drive from the airport to her parents house would be too long which she didn’t consider last night. She said she would help clean my apartment when she wakes up and before she leaves to home. Due to the time that it was, I had to order an Uber right then (it was way too late to take the metro train) and there and even then it was a very close call to making my flight, making it just 3 minutes before the gate closes. I kissed her good bye , but is it insane/petty of me to be pressed/disappointed by this? Feels like I can’t even rely on my partner. I’m gonna tell her when I get back about how I feel but I don’t know how much longer I can do this.
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It was irresponsible and low in conscientiousness. Every time I drive to the airport, I’m tired and gassy. No excuse!
Yes, she sucks, and not in the fun way.
Yes that’s lame
And selfish of her
You are right to be disappointed, trust is the essential building block of every relationship and she broke it.
She’s selfish and undependable.
When you get back, I’d have a discussion about it. “Babe, I was pretty disappointed that you flaked out on taking me to the airport. You offered—I didn’t ask. And because you flaked out last minute, it cost me extra money and I dang near missed my flight. Next time, don’t offer to do something you don’t want to do or follow through if you commit. Having a partner I can count on is important to me.”
She offered then backed out of the agreement. She needs to pay for the Uber.
Well, there were warning signs. Just don’t depend on her for an important ride ever again, and you’ll be fine.
A one off wouldn’t end the relationship for me but if was a pattern it would. Super important you can 100% rely on you SO.
You said she “insinuated.” What does that mean?
I hate flakes, so that shit would’ve pissed me off and I would’ve asked her to pay for the Uber.
I would have told her to go home right then. Sounds like she just wanted to be lazy and sleep in.
Did she agree to take you on insinuate she would? That makes all the difference. She could have either way, but backing out on an agreement sucks. If it wasn’t confirmed or clear – ehh, not really on either of you.
She let you down. I suspect she knew all along she wasn’t going to drive you.
Dating is about finding out what you like, and what you don’t like, in a partner. Idk if you should break up, but you have every right to be upset and if she tells you otherwise, she’s wrong.
Unreliable, breaks promises, unthoughtful, lazy, self centered. You want to spend your future with a person like this? Choose better.
This kind of irresponsibility from a 21 year doesn’t surprise me, which is why you as a 28 year old is so frustrated at her.
If this is a pattern break up with her and find someone more responsible who you can actually depend on. If it’s not a pattern sit down with her and explain how when she says she’ll do something like this it erodes your ability to depend on her when she doesn’t follow through. Then when this continues to happen break up with her.
If she can go for her dad or her friend, then she can go for you. If she doesn’t treat you as well as she treats them then you’re not as valued in her life as they are. You almost missed your flight because of her. You could’ve driven her car there & she just drive back but it sounds like she was looking for any excuse to get out of doing it. How long is the drive to her parents house that it would be an issue? You’re not insane to feel upset about this. You should 100% talk to her about it
You’re dating someone whose brain hasn’t fully developed yet and then get upset when they act immature?
I’m sorry that she flaked out on you, not feeling able to trust those we love the most sucks. Not trying to be rude, but your girlfriend may just be immature; I mean she is still 21, college-aged and as a former college-aged person, they can be a little flaky sometimes. She still has 4 years til her prefrontal cortex is fully formed, yes she’s still an adult and should be held to adult standards but as a 28 year old do you really want to wait around for her to mature and figure it out? No offense to her, but is there something so extraordinary about her that you are willing to put up with this immaturity? I hope you have a good trip though 🙂
I’d be seriously pissed off at her.
I’m not sure what you mean by she insinuated she would take you. She either said she would or wouldn’t take you but to wake in the morning saying she’s tired and gassy, and didn’t think about the long drive last night, SHE definitely thought she was taking you and then backed out last minute. You need to have a talk with her about expectations. All of us have been in a situation where we don’t feel like doing something we agree to do but because we’re reliable and decent, we still do it. If she’s incapable or unwilling to be that person, she may not be the one for you