Gf (F20) doesn’t seem to want sex. Me (M21), relationship length 1.5 years

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For the last few months me and my girlfriend haven’t had sex. We’ve gotten close but it always ends with her stopping making out / doing something else. Sex is not the important part of the relationship but I do value it with her every now and then and we’ve been sexual active before but randomly just stopped. I try to initiate it but she always stops making out or just does something else when we’re getting close. I don’t want to make her uncomfortable so I don’t push any farther but I am having troubke bringing it up to her that’d I’d like to have sex. The thing I’m worried about is making her feel that sex I’d the most important part of the relationship even though it isn’t.

Question: How can I bring up that I want more sex / to have sex again?

Any advice helps, thanks

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  2. LancerNerd Avatar

    Be honest and talk to her about it, if she doesn’t want to talk about it then that tells you something…. Be honest and communicate with her

  3. jesseplemonsbicycle Avatar

    While sex may not be the most important factor, it is important. You have to ask her about it and also make yourself open to what you may hear. You’re both young and clearly still learning how to communicate well in a relationship. Maybe she has desires or needs that she needs to also be brave and share with you.

  4. Consistent_Proof_772 Avatar

    You are not compatible time for both of you to seek other people.

  5. Noooo1717 Avatar

    First you should talk to her and see why she hasn’t wanted to? Is something wrong? Was she sexually abused as a kid? Does sex hurt? Is she depressed? Has she started taking medication that kills her sex drive? Are you guys fighting?

  6. SwnsasyTB Avatar

    Sex is important in a relationship though. All you need to do is be open and honest with her and ask is there something wrong or along her from being intimate. Communication is the most important part of a relationship.

  7. Patrick-ess Avatar

    Your situation is quite funny, All What you spoke about was sex. I want to tell you to have penis control . Do you have your life together? and can you take responsibility of a child and mom? If yes, then propose marriage to her. Go ahead and marry her she will change after marriage. But if no, then you have to channel your sexual desires into building yourself.

  8. InterestingFruit5978 Avatar

    Communication is very important for a relationship. Just bring it up and be honest with her

  9. Balraga Avatar

    Something that you’ll learn in life is OPEN COMMUNICATION. Do not fear having conversations like this with your partner. If you both love each other and want the best for one another, you’re gonna have to go through uncomfortable conversations. It’s the only way to truly address problems.

  10. Theinnernazgul Avatar

    She’s trying to make you docile. Don’t fall for it.

  11. JobEnough3607 Avatar

    You have to shower everyday, brush your teeth 2-3x, invest in a cologne immediately, and make sure your clothes are always fresh.

  12. Amairgen13 Avatar

    You’re twenty-one. Seriously, at that age sex is sorta the most important thing in a lot of ways . Figure out how that works and find someone who is actually compatible. Learn how you function as a sexual being, how that works in relationships, and build from there. Good luck.