Lost my virginity a few months ago, and it was great, but my GF hates me using protection bc it’s harder to get in. Which I understand but I don’t feel comfortable going unprotected bc:
A. STDs
B. I don’t have faith in my pull out game
Do y’all have any tips as to what to do in this situation?
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If she does not listen to reason you might consider leaving this relationship. Hopefully she is just not hoping to get pregnant by you? No way we can know but this just sounds plausible.
OMG, do not use pulling out as a birth control method. Full stop.
If she is suggesting that two teenagers have unprotected sex as the main thing, she is confused, ignorant, or scary.
She is actually asking for more lubrication. Two methods of that are to ‘warm her up’ more before insertion, or the addition of artificial lubrication (lube). To warm her up more, perform oral sex on her and make it real sloppy. Lots of saliva.
Pull out should be considered a 0% safe method of avoiding pregnancy. If she is so against condoms, then you are also very smart to continue their use for STD prevention.
Get some proper lubricant, not KY, and use it, it will make a huge difference.
If a condom makes it harder to get in, use more lube. That’s probably what she really hates more than the condom.
Seems you are the only one being responsible. Has she considered using birth control herself?
You’re right to not have faith in your pull out game, since you can get her pregnant with precum.
If you’re worried about STDs, you should both get tested, as you should every time when starting a new sexual relationship. If you or your partner are having sex with other people, stay protected.
Keep it wrapped as long as you don’t want children (unless you are with a trusted partner that uses birth control), and even then, make sure you have the same plans as your partner in the case of an accident.
Stay safe!
The pull out method stops being reliable as soon as you go in past the tip, and sometimes still not reliable even then
Let her keep hating it but use condoms.
Use lube if it’s hard to get in. It’s not worth an accidental pregnancy.
Just cum inside her every time wtfs wrong with you?
Lube
Lube is the best answer. Oral sex can be helpful, but if it’s about having a difficult time penetrating, then lube is your best option.
If you’re in a committed relationship and so presumably trust that she isn’t going to cheat (and nor are you) then STDs aren’t an issue, also assuming she’s been tested since her last partner (or if she was a virgin too).
But as for birth control, you’re right that pulling out is not the answer. So either you keep using condoms (maybe add some lube to make it easier), or she can go on the pill/implant/coil. Those are basically your only 2 options, if she’s not up for the other bc methods then condoms are the only option.
Your body, your choice.
How much do you trust she is STD free?
How much do you trust she is not going to conceive? 2 contraception methods better than 1. If she gets pregnant you are on the hook for child support whatever she says about BC.
if she hates condoms, neither is she ready for being an adult or having kids.
stay smart, use a condom!
Simple. Either she lets you use a condom or you don’t sleep with her. It becomes a matter of consent
Water based lubricant! It’s not just for old people 😂 And water based lubricants are safe to use with condoms.
Or more foreplay. Women produce vaginal lubrication that makes sex comfortable when they’re aroused, but low levels of this are not necessarily your fault. She could be anxious, it could be a medical reason. Either way foreplay is good.
Whatever you do don’t use the withdrawal method. Do you know what they call what they call people who use it? Parents 😂
And well done for being responsible to ask this sort of question and setting boundaries about what you feel comfortable 👍
Some water base lube on the condom and on her will do the trick, they are also edible.
Butthole
A : use lube.
B : go for backdoor, lube still needed.
Girlfriend wants to trap you into 18 or more years of child support.
My only tip is to not stop using condoms until you want a kid
FlexSeal!
You definitely do not want to rely on the withdrawal method. That’s how you become a parent. But if she’s on birth control you can both get an STI test and then not worry about it so long as you’re monogamous.
If you don’t want to pay child support, use a condom.
let her suck stick it in her mouth LOL
If you can’t agree on birth control – you should not be having sex. Hard stop.
It’s not a game. It’s not an “oh well”. Part of being in a sexual relationship is talking to one another and being in agreement.
Water based lube. Oil based will degrade the condom.
Use them! If she gets pregnant when you both aren’t 100% wanting that to happen you’ll regret it.
I had faith in my pull out game and now I have two kids! Your call lol.
Everytime you have sex without a condom ask yourself:
If the answer is no, either wear a condom or find a new partner.
Sorry how exactly is it harder to get in?
You have your excuse to suggest anal!
If you’re not ready for an 18 year old expensive ass responsibility then wear your plastic
If its hard to get in that’s quite literally what lube is for
Well, people who use pullout are called parents. STDs shouldn’t be a concern within a commited relationship (assuming neither of you are cheating of course; but if you think your gf is cheating you should leave her anyways) but pregnancy certainly is.
There isn’t a good way of dealing with this tbh. If she is on birth control I suppose you can risk pulling out, but I wouldn’t personally.
Have you considered a vasectomy? It’s reversible and that would at least remove the fear of accidental pregnancy. Also, assuming you’re in a committed relationship, this reeks of bigger relationship issues like lack of trust/communication.