I already feel pretty low about my appearance and my GF knows this, having facial hair makes me feel slightly better about this, yet my gf gets genuinely annoyed that I don’t want to shave and has been in a mood since I said I don’t want to shave, we’re going on holiday and she said she doesn’t want to take any photos with me unless I shave, should I just do it to keep her happy or continue with her being annoyed?
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GF wants me to shave facial hair
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She’s crazy bro. Who asks for someting like this.
I mean it all depends on the facial hair. If you’ve let it go completely and you look like the ape man then fair enough I can see why she might want you to shave.
Bit of a dick move though saying she won’t take photos with you. Either shave or find a new GF.
For me, I think it depends …
It seems like not shaving is a new thing, and maybe she met you when you did shave? Personally, as a woman, I don’t mind too much either way, but my friend HATES long stubble/beard, so that’s a deal breaker for her.
Having said that, even if I hated it, I would, as your partner, give you some grace and understanding while you’re going through a rough time. It would be unfair to make a big deal of it then.
Some women just really are turned off by it (like my friend), so, if you want to keep it – which is your right – she doesn’t have to stay with you. She’s free to leave, right? You can do you and look how you want to, of course.
Your girlfriend basically told you that she’s embarrassed to be seen with you and you’re wondering if you’re somehow the asshole? Unless your beard is crusty you’re woefully under-reacting.
Had a beard since I was 17. Keep it trimmed and follows the jawline. Cheeks are shaven as well as neck. Never had any complaints. 68.
Not a guy/facial hair haver but, I had an ex pressure me to cut my hair. I eventually did and regretted it.
Now my hair is grown back and longer than ever.
She’s showing her true colors. What you do with that information is up to you.
I’m always think when a woman asks you to shave facial hair it’s just a play to see if you’ll actually do it. People are always on about “it’s my body I can do what I want” and that saying otherwise your “controlling” remember this
Sooo…what is she willing to give up in return?
She’s basically revealing her sexual preferences for younger males. She wants you to look like a younger male because she thinks it’s more attractive. I highly doubt this is some kind of test.
That or your beard is so ugly that she doesn’t want to be seen around you, but given your degree of concern over how you look I don’t think you’d be this air headed, but who knows.
Is it shaggy and unkempt, or neat and trim but she just doesn’t like it?
Your body your choice.
Dump her. No woman is worth your facial hair and self respect.
You mean ex-GF, right?
I’d say ok bye
Do you just not shave at all or do you trim your facial hair?
Is it worth losing your gf over?
Brother, if a woman ever tells you to shave for them, to change YOUR appearance, you need to run. I’ve told my wife a million times I will never shave my beard for her under no circumstances, and she understands. If anything, get it lined up or cleaned up if it’s a mess. Other than that, leave your beard alone.
We need to see pictures.
Shave, it will grow back. The beard likely bothers her skin when certain acts are performed.
I have a big beard, that I mildly groom and my lady loves it. My beard is non-negotiable, I’ve been growing it for 15 years.
If you don’t want to shave then don’t, put your foot down. Ask her if she would shave her head just because you wanted? Do you really want to live with petty ultimatums like this forever?
Let’s see it 👀
Have you tried asking why she wants you to shave? That might help you decide on your next course of action, if she thinks it’s scruffy then look at trimming it, getting beard oil etc and doing more grooming, if she says she finds you more attractive without it then maybe shave it off, if my wife told me something made her find me more attractive I’d do it
Shave your girlfriend out of your life. Sounds like she is your problem
At the risk of all the Reddit men hating me, I love it when my bf shaves his beard. Kissing is so much smoother and sexier.
She asking you to shave or trim? Her issue may be less to do with you having facial hair and more to do with maintenance
I’m 44 and have had a mustache and goatee for most of my life. There have been a few times I’ve shaved it, but only when a woman I was seeing asked me to. In every single one of those cases the woman turned out to be a highly insecure, overly controlling, overly jealous type of woman. So what have I learned from close to three decades of having facial hair? I learned that if she asks me to shave it, she isn’t the woman for me.
I had a dream that someone shaved my beard off once, I spent the rest of the dream fighting everyone i saw 😆
Break up with her
Does she want it shaved or trimmed? If it’s the latter, get some clippers and learn to shape your facial hair. My beard looks better when trimmed and shaped than it does long and shaggy.
If she wants you to shave it, it’s either you look better shaven or you look really scruffy with facial hair.
If it makes you look worse than better , why don’t you want to shave it?
Some men look better with facial hair. Some just look bad. And if your gf says you should shave, I think you definitely better without it, imo.
It coluld be lack of good higene habits.
Some men have really nasty beards and I mean not only unkept, but also dirtier than the gas station toilet seat.
I would start by going to the barber and getting the beard styled. Then wash your beard with antibacterial shampoo
Only shave if you want to get laid again. Gf sounds very pretty, or you probably wouldn’t even think about it. As far as your appearance, she probably also wants you to look your best, and we try to “look pretty for the one we love.” So, shaving will ultimately make you look better AND get you laid by your demanding, spoiled gf.
I mean that’s pretty mean to say she doesn’t want to take any pictures with you if you don’t shave your beard and I can see how that would hurt your feelings. I can understand how a beard might make you feel a little more confident as well. I think if your girlfriend finds you the most attractive without the facial hair that should tell you that you probably look really great without needing to hide your face with a big beard. Do you keep it nicely kept? I don’t like it when my husband lets his beard get long and straggly. It’s unattractive and looks haggard.
Now see, here’s another major difference in today’s women and the ones from 20 years ago, back then those women could not only get him to shave but also have him believing it was his idea.those women were the glue to a lot of peoples families, nothing moved that they didnt know about. They ran the house. Now, they use manipulation and extortion.
If she thinks you’re significantly more attractive without a beard, why not just do it? I’m sure you want her to feel attracted to you.
Guess what homie…
That’s your body! If she wants to tell you how to keep it, then flip the script! Tell her ass to pierce her pussy and then I’ll shave!
Okay so, did you have a beard when you met? If not, she may miss the man she was first attracted to.
Do you take care of it? I prefer my husband clean shaven but he hates shaving. So he shaves once a week and keeps it neat the rest of the week. He’s the type to have a five o’clock shadow at noon. lol
Me personally I don’t like kissing my hubby when he grows out his moustache/beard. Irritates the hell of my skin if it’s more than just a peck.