GF(20) asked for space but still wants to work things out — how should I (24) support her after self-imposed window

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I have been with my girlfriend just over 4 months now.

Recently, we had an argument because I raised how I felt there was a lack of gratitude for my acts of services that left both of us emotionally tired.

The next day she cancels our date wanting for both of us to take time to reflect and I re-engaged a day later asking to meet to apologise and offer reparation and reconciliation.

After the listening to my reflections, she agrees to allow me to take responsibility and that there is a common ground of wanting to enjoy a relationship that once felt emotionally lighter (we wouldn’t argue in person, only on text which I would attribute to the lack of body language)

While during the conversation she was still visibly hurt, she mentioned feeling emotionally weird and asked for the weekend to have space and regulate her feelings. I fully respected that request and have given her space, sent the occasional good morning or goodnight message (something we had previously agreed upon when we want take space), and haven’t pushed for connection.

What’s difficult for me is that we’ve already agreed I’ll take the lead again in rebuilding the relationship — something she’s open to. I want to show up for her and be the safe, steady partner she can trust once after this space.

So my questions are:

  1. What’s the best way to support a partner who’s emotionally shut down but says they want to work things out?

  2. Should I keep reaching out gently (e.g., a goodnight text), or give complete silence?

  3. Once her self-imposed “space window” ends, how do I reopen the door to reconnecting — without seeming emotionally needy or rushing her process?

In essence come Monday, how can I best reach out and reconnect her — what are somethings we can do together that could “restart” the relationship.

I’m not perfect, but I really care about her and want to build something lasting. I’ve done a lot of reflection and am willing to change — but I also want to feel like we’re both stepping toward each other.

Would love to hear advice from people who’ve navigated something similar.

Thanks.

TLDR: We’ve been together 4 months and recently had a conflict. She asked for space over the weekend to emotionally regulate, and I’ve respected that. She says she wants to work things out and has agreed to let me lead us back to a better place — but she’s still emotionally distant. I want to reconnect in a way that feels safe and loving, without rushing her or overstepping. What’s the best way to gently come back together after space?