My GF’s (26F) mom (65F) is WAY too involved in not only our relationship but with my GF’s life.
She is constantly getting involved in our relationship and my gf is letting her. It’s driving a wedge in between us. I’m not sure how to explain to her enough that there needs to be a healthy, stern boundary set between the two of them and our relationship.
Back story.. Her mom is constantly trying to tell her what to do in our relationship, putting ideas in her head, saying mean things about me out of absolutely no where. I’m sensing extreme jealousy which is becoming super unhealthy for not only her relationship with her mom but our relationship as well. Tonight was my breaking point (We’re all staying in the same hotel room) Drinking was involved and she is staring me right in the face saying mean things to be unprovoked and then saying i’m “Always the drama” when i’m upset and pull my GF into the bathroom to express that it upset me. I feel gaslit and crazy.
I have had so many times i could’ve stuck up for myself but didn’t because I feel uncomfortable and unwelcome. My girlfriend does not stick up for me either, she just says “leave it” to her mom when she’s saying all these snide comments to me and about me. How can i go about this without snapping? I’m at my breaking point and i’m worried that this is going to cause us to breakup. It’s not fair for me or my girlfriend. Anyone ever deal with too involved parents from your partners side? Any advice is welcome. I’m at a loss and at my wits end.
TL:DR my gfs mom is too involved and i’m at my breaking point .