Recent grad. Terrible GPA, cause of mental health reasons causing me to do poorly in class despite a lifelong passion for my subject. No prospects for jobs, no idea how to get out of this slump.
My mother was a housewife. She was happy with it, and I’m wondering if following through with that, getting an arranged marriage and just coasting through life is a good idea. I’ve tried so incredibly hard to be independent but for some reason I fail every time.
It smarts my pride because growing up and even in my first two years of college, I was so smart. Think 4.0 GPA, highly competitive paid internships, hope for the future. I had mental health issues then too, but now they’re so overwhelming. I’m drowning. I have to give up on lifelong dreams of getting a PhD.
I feel as though I wasn’t made to be independent. I’m so pathetically dependent on my parents and other people, despite trying hard. Medication, therapy, self help, nothing’s worked.
So maybe I’ll get married and settle down. I’ve always wanted kids, but I don’t know. I just feel so numb and awful about everything.
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I wouldn’t want to be financially dependant on someone. If they have the power to feed you, they have the power to starve you. And with how common divorce is, I wouldn’t want you to find yourself in this same position again in 10, 20 years.
At the same time, it’s okay to take a breather, change directions or try a different route.
I don’t know where you’re at, but here while university is the main route people go for further education/ higher paying jobs, trade school is a good option too. It’s more physical, with a range depending on what you do, but there’s some amount of thinking at the job as well. Maybe shadow an electrician or welder and figure out if you like it. Welders in particular need more women because of the smaller hand size.
Or you might start at a job at the bottom of the totem pole and find something that you like along the way, or have them pay for some of your uni classes and get your PhD slower but in a less stressful way that avoids burnout.
People aren’t designed to be fully independent so you’re not a failure for relying on other people. Take your time and you’ll figure it out
Girl just lay flat and scroll tiktok