We’re talking but the conversation is super slow… we’re 2 weeks in and I’m still getting to understand the basics of her. She replies 1x a day and a few times twice a day. I immediately respond then it becomes a waiting game rinse and repeat. I feel like we have a good potential, but I feel like it would be rude of me to ask why it takes her so long to reply to messages.
Should I just be patient and match her speed to get to know her more to get her comfortable before asking why she replies so slow? Or do I just deal with it until we actually meet up?
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Girl I matched with responds to my replies 1x per day. Should I just match her speed as well?
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don’t shrink yourself to make space for someone else. be yourself and if she doesn’t like it you aren’t compatible anyway. I’d personally ask her why she texts like that but I’m needy.
Just do what comes most naturally to you. Don’t play games. As someone with a similar shitty communication style – she’s prob not doing it on purpose to slight you.
I will say, don’t absolutely inundate her with texts.. cause some of the avoidance comes from that feeling of “I’m overwhelmed so I’m shutting down now.” Just keep it light and don’t act affronted. The lighter you take it the more likely she is to respond.
I’d advise you not to take it personally or overthink it. Water off a ducks back ya know. Good luck. Sorry on behalf of all us shitty texters.
Ask her out. You’ll know quick whether it’s going anywhere or if she’s just bored.
What’s that saying? “If they wanted to, they will always find time to” something like that? 2 weeks and she responds once or a few times, twice a day and even then that’s not consistent. I’ll ask her what’s her reasoning is and if her answer is acceptable to you (which I feel is kinda low and since already gave her so much grace). Cut the loss and invest your time towards someone who reciprocate your same energy, bruh.
I try not to be on my phone all the time. It’s a good sign that she has self control with her phone and isn’t on it all the time.
When I date I tell people I am off my phone at times but I’ll reply within 24 hours and they should feel free to do rhe same. Sometimes I see I got a message but I don’t sit down to read it and reapond until the end of the day.
I think the solution is maybe to learn to leave your phone alone every time it has a notification. Set it down for a few hour chunk and don’t look at it