Hi guys!
Some time ago I (25M) went on a first date with this lady (25F) from Tinder. She initiated the conversation as a follow up to my profile’s description. We chatted for around 3-4 days and then I scheduled up a date – she of course agreed.
We met in the city and overall the date was one of the best I have had for the past few months. A lot of chatting, common ground, we’ve been to several places, so overall the date lasted for like 8-9 hours with drinks at the end. After the date I told her that I had a lot of fun and would like to see her again. She also said she had fun and agred, but said there’s her birthday next week so probably she won’t be available then, but few days after that (which was also cool to let me know). Since then the chatting became less frequent and there was no msgs from her for around 1,5 week (still wished her happy bday)
I followed up after few days asking whether the date is still scheduled, and if not then it’s no problem, but I’d like her to let me know what are we standing on. She said it’s still on and due to some work issues, she hasn’t been texting much. I said that’s fine ,but I also apprectiate any type of contact and so on. Since then she went silent again for the whole week. I have send her an photo of my activity during weekend, she read that but no response was given.
My question is – how would you guys approch it? I find it strange that we had so much fun on the first meeting, she’d agree for the second but and be playing some sort of games? Even if she’s busy, I think it takes just a moment to write a short msg about how’s the day going or something else. I am an anxious type attachment person, therefore it’s driving me a little nuts. I am thinking to give it 1-2 more weeks waiting for her answer, and if that won’t come up, to just delete her from friends, unmatch and move on with your life. Or just for my own sake, should I write her something like “I think we have both been distant lately, it seems you don’t intend to keep in touch, therefore I think it’s better to go our separate ways. It’s been a pleasure to meet you and good luck further”?
TL;dr Had a great first date, she agreed to a second but went mostly silent afterward despite saying she was busy. Now unsure whether to wait longer or send a message to end things and move on.
Comments
Date other people. Don’t focus entirely on her. And a 8-9hour first date followed by lots of unavailability from her screams red flag. You sound like a good person, keep dating.
Honestly, 1-2 weeks seems a bit long…
No answer is an answer.
But that’s up to you to decide.
She has probably has no interest in proceeding things any further. She didn’t want to write this directly to you so she phased it out slowly. Happend to me also. I would advice you to not follow this any further and move on.
Had to deal with this recently. You wouldn’t be doubting her intentions if they were what she’s saying they are. I’d recommend you date other people and move on