Me (M35) the girl I been seeing/dating (37).
I been seeing this girl now for 5 months we get along really well and things moving in the right direction, suddenly 2 month ago she went cold on me via texts I could feel how off she was however whenever we met still things were normal.
She recently booked a trip to America which she told me was to do with work and that she was staying with an elderly couple out there that she met in the UK as they were friends, well that’s what she told me.
Before she departed to the USA she spoke of having the talk with me about us entering into a committed relationship.
At 5 months of dating/seeing I discover that she was actually meeting a guy she met in the UK out in America and I discovered his identity everything and how she kept this from me, I questioned her when she was out there on this holiday and she panicked.
She met this guy through her work and has since told me they met for like 30mins and then exchanged phone numbers.
On her return she has admitted that she kept this from me and that they obviously had sex more than once out there with this guy, she obviously thought she could get away with this as she believed no one would suss her behaviour or actions out but I did.
She since has been very sorry and said that she didn’t want to make a commitment to me till this trip was over and that she wants to make a go with things with me, she said that the trip was a complete mistake and a waste of money, and she completely regrets going, she also told me as our relationship developed more since booking the flights she wanted to cancel them.
Since then she has stopped communicating with this American guy and showed me this via her phone, the question is do I give her a chance, I feel that her deception and how she did this is just too much, I also understand that we was NOT in a committed relationship at this stage but I asked her if I did this how would she feel and she said she would be pissed and give me hell for it, what I don’t get that she believed that it was fine for her to do this but I couldn’t in her perspective date or see other girls.
TL;DR girl I been dating for 5 months takes off on a flight to America to bang some dude she barley knows, on her return I discover her actions she regrets everything and said she was sorry, we was not in a committed relationship at this stage do I give her a chance or cut her loose, I find her deception hard to handle.