I 22F have been seeing my boyfriend 25M for about 10 months. We knew each other in passing since 2023, because we had mutual friends, but had never really talked before June of 2024.
My boyfriend works at a retail store with a girl named Tiffany. Tiffany has a sister named Missy. Missy works at a grocery store my boyfriend used to work at (small town, not many places to work). My boyfriend used to like Tiffany, but stopped liking her about a year before we started talking and nothing ever happened between them. He has been friends with her since, since they still work together occasionally when she’s home from college. I’ve met her and she’s never given me any off vibes or been flirty towards him in any way.
Here’s where it gets weird. There’s a guy named Steve that is a regular at both of these places and knows both girls and my boyfriend pretty well. Steve also knows that my boyfriend is dating me and I have run into Steve when stopping by my boyfriend’s work. Well, Steve likes to make comments both about me and about Tiffany. He tells my boyfriend how hot I am and other things along those lines. Mind you this guy is in his 70s and I’m 22.
Steve came into my boyfriend’s job a couple of weeks ago and started coaching my boyfriend on how to make me squirt, and my boyfriend tried to change the subject but this guy does not stop. Eventually after my boyfriend wouldn’t give him details about our sex life, he left.
Recently, Steve had been talking to Missy at the grocery store and later came into my boyfriend’s job. He told my boyfriend about how him and Missy were talking and they both think that he should break up with me and date Tiffany instead. No matter how many times my boyfriend tells him he is happy with me and I am literally the girl of his dreams, this guy is relentless. Apparently everyone at the grocery store know details about me and my boyfriends relationship too because whatever my boyfriend says about me he repeats. This guy has been telling people at the grocery store (where everyone knows my boyfriend because he used to work there) that he’s been coaching him on how to make me squirt.
I am overall really disgusted about this situation, because I feel like my relationship is not someone else’s entertainment. I told my boyfriend how uncomfortable both the squirting thing and Steve and Missy discussing that he should break up with me so he can date a girl he used to like makes me.
He ended up texting Missy and told her stop whatever she was saying to Steve and how inappropriate it was of her to talk about our relationship like she has a say in it. She agreed she would stop, but did not apologize in any way. My only interaction with Missy before this was her stealing alcohol from my small personal cooler at a party because she was underage at the time. So needless to say not a great first impression.
I’m just feeling defeated at this point and I’ve asked my boyfriend to cut ties with both girls, but he insists they’re family friends and their moms are friends so he can’t simply cut ties with them. I feel like if he explains the situation with his mom though she would understand (she is very sweet and understanding).
I don’t really know what else can be done in this situation and it’s causing me a lot of anxiety. (This is a not fake post it is 100% actually happening to me and I wish it wasn’t)
TL:DR my boyfriend used to like a girl and her sister keeps telling a weird regular that he should break up with me so he can date her sister
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Your BF is the problem. He keeps yapping to Steve, who is the main spreader, and he keeps talking to the girls. Of course there’s drama then. Steve loves it. Only way for Steve to not love it, is so Steve knows nothing. The girls have no reason to stop. BF needs to learn to shut up and limit what he tells other people.
Well, this is not one of the top ten creepiest things I’ve ever read, but it’s right up there. If this is a small town and the creepy old guy has family, they should know he’s talking to really young girls about sex and being inappropriate with people. It’s sexual harassment, at this point. If your bf can talk to the store manager or owner, then he should and have this guy banned. Hell, your bf can go to the cops and tell him creepy guy is sexually harassing him.
Speaking about your bf, I find people who can’t draw boundaries or stand up for their partners extremely weak at best and complacent at worst. He should also stop talking about you to Tiffany and creepy guy. He should be telling his mother and Missy’s mother that he’s concerned about Missy, that he’s worried old guy is taking advantage of her. If he phrases it more as concern rather than an accusation, they’ll be less likely to be defensive. If nothing comes out of it, he should absolutely cut off these weird women.
If he doesn’t do everything to make you comfortable, you should reconsider this relationship.