Me 27M and my girlfriend 27F. Around 1.5 years together.
Me and my girlfriend get on very well, we have fun. And we spend a fair of time together. She has friends who she sees fairly often. And whenever she goes out I just say “have fun” and let her do her thing.
But when I want to go out it becomes a massive deal. I go out maybe 3 times a year. I need to tell her in advanced, because I know her reaction. She will typically go dead silent until I pry her for her thoughts.
She will cry, and panic typically saying the phrase “I just can’t do this” or “I’m shit at relationships, it’s not fair”
She gets super worried that I’m going to cheat (mostly because her exs did the same) but then she will tell me she trusts me and knows I won’t. But she doesn’t trust other girls.
It always turns into a long session of trying to reassure her, then a few days after of trying to reassure her even more because she freaked out so much.
Every other relationship I’ve never had this issue, and it’s starting to become a bit frustrating. I’ve never cheated and never will. But I want to hang out with my friends once in a blue moon and not feel guilty when doing it.
I’m feeling pretty lost and could use some guidance on what to do?
Edit: few more points I missed. When I say go out I mean specifically a pub. I don’t club, don’t do drugs. I keep her updated during the night and text back around 30-60 minute mark