Hello, me again cuz they took down my previous post, this is a bit of stupid topic and insecurity on my end but I want a third opinion on this.
My girlfriend and I love each other very much, we have been dating for almost 2 years now but she had barely posted me on her Instagram stories. She is a private person, as am I, since we started dating I have almost posted nothing but she is more active than me.
She had posted several stories with me but if I compare it to how much my friends post their loved ones she doesn’t post me at all. I know the saying “social media killed romance” but in this age I guess this matters more or less? She was recently on a vacation with her mom and hasn’t stopped posting photos from it (if it matters she always sent them first to me and then posted them) and it kind of irritates me a bit cuz when we are on vacation she won’t post anything.
I know it’s stupid insecurity but I can’t help but feel it. I have talked with her about it and she said that it’s not necessary to post each other everytime we hang out to show our love and I agree with her yet the unease continues. What do I do?
TL;DR My girlfriend (F20) doesn’t post me (M20) almost at all since we started dating.
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i think you’re fine! just paranoid, which is i get. unless she’s given you legitimate reason to worry about her not posting you as much as you’d like, i wouldn’t worry about it. since you’ve already brought this up to her, you agree with her response, yet you still feel this way, i’d do some deeper digging to address why you still feel this way. you also said that since ya’ll started dating you’ve barely even posted about the relationship… even though you aren’t as generally active on socials as she is, i bet if you post her a little more here and there she’d appreciate it as much as you do, and will probably post you more! if you post (and tag her) it also gives her the opportunity to repost it, so it’s like a two in one
You do nothing, you find other things to do.
Comparisons are killers of relationships. Have you considered that she enjoys your company more than posting on ig?
Op, please do some inner work and see that it really is NOT a problem unless she MAKES it a problem.