Sounds super petty I know… Myself (27M) and girlfriend (40F), have been together since March of 2024. Get along great, have amazing sex, no issues there, hangout nearly 24/7. We both met eachothers kids whom get along perfectly. However, there was one guy ive always been skeptical of that she had a fling with before she met me. No issues there, we all have a past. She doesn’t speak to him anymore either or any exs/gusy from her past, however, back in January, she was out with some girlfriends, and I noticed she posted a selfie with her girlfriends looking super cute on her public snapchat story, it puzzled me cause she never posts on that. it was also an app she used to communicate with that guy before, which raised a red flag. I asked if that’s why she posted it in which she got upset at me and was like absolutely not. A few days later, I saw on her messages to her girlfriend, that the same guy looked at her story and she says “Adam (me) apologized for asking so many questions about my snapchat story, but on a side note, Peyton looked at my story and added me back right away! so my point is proven!”
In which her girlfriend replies, “Adam needs to chill and his concern level is thru the roof. But wow Girl you were so right! Now you know!”
This infuriated me and we got into a huge fight because i thought he was deleted/blocked. She claims her friend took her phone and unblocked Peyton and blocked me from seeing the story. My issue is, why does his attention even matter if you and I are together? Why are you seeking another man’s attention on a snapchat story? Why is he even a thought in your mind? Your 40 years old and playing high school games…. I was actually getting ready to leave her house and never see her again and she hugs me crying her eyes out begging me to please not leave. Which I didnt, but now i set myself up for trust issues and thinking to myself, why did she allow all that to happen?
Can anyone provide their views on this situation? Thanks in advance.
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So this is clearly an age gap relationship. As a fellow 27 yr old, can I ask why she’s single? Not that it really really matters, but my aunt once told me when I went out with a guy 7 years older than me, there is a reason he’s single, and that reason might come to bite you.
I agree that is very childish and I wouldnt want my partner acting like that. Especially a grown adult.
You’re 27…. And your girlfriend is 40…. Acting like this? sigh uh huh..
Prepare yourself for the worst….
Dump her, hopefully Payton would have her. She’s obviously interested in him, why else would she do all this and discuss it with her friend.
She posted cause she felt cute, point blank. Him adding her back means nothing but clearly this man still likes her and that shouldn’t alone be enough for you to freak out. Right this second my bf is getting a beer with his best friend, a woman, who he had sex with before we met. I am secure in our relationship, I trust him until given a reason not to. People are going to think your gf is hot, it’s a part of life, men are lonely. It shouldn’t matter unless she is actively reaching out to him after this boundary has been set. If my bf flipped out every time a person hit on me when we went out we’d never leave the house. She already chose you. Focus on that. Women aren’t stupid we know when men have crushes and she probably was laughing with her gf that this guy can’t get over her despite her moving on
Trust is broken. Her friends took her phone? That’s her excuse? She complained about you to them? Sounds like her friends do a lot of covering up for her.
You’re still young. Cut it off before it gets worse.