Hey so basically my gf has a best friend she’s female 19. I’ve always felt she had something against me after countless stories of her talking badly about me. I recently told my girlfriend a story about how this kid who is 20 years old posting looking to fight people and called him weird for looking for fights at this age. My gf told her friend jokingly about it and then 2 days later I got a text from the kid who posted it saying they were going to jump me and that they know what I did. I confronted my gf about it and she doesn’t seem to see the severity of the situation. Her best friend told the kid to fight me and I feel that this is insanely wrong and my gf doesn’t seem to grasp the situation. I’m uncomfortable with her being friends with her at this point and unsure what to do
Girlfriends best friend got me in a fight
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Seems like some people love to hate and destroy others.
If only this situation could have been prevented somehow.
Your GF’s friend is dangerous and inciting violence is illegal. I’d would walk away from the pair of them. They think it’s ok to put you at risk. Contact the police and give them all the information.
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Your girlfriend and her friend are nuts man. It’s just going to get worse.
I have been in many a bar fight let me just tell you EVERY ONE OF them was started by a female…..but you don’t get to pick her friends, BUT you do get to pick your girl friends so if she chooses to keep her friend over you ….meh there is another chick out there that will respect your manhood and your relationship
good thing y’all so young cause this is some real immature shit lol. tell the friend to go fuck herself and dump your gf and tell the guy that wants to fight you that you’re not interested and if he does try to jump you, you’ve already reported the threat to the police (even if you didnt)
I’d say report it to the cops because that’s serious, but they’re not going to do anything about it. You can do it anyway so there’s a papertrail in case something happens.
Bottom line, break up with your girlfriend. The appropriate reaction to you telling her is, “she did WHAT?” and to end that friendship immediately.
Instead, your girlfriend is playing it down because it doesn’t impact her directly.
Your girlfriend sucks and it’s apparent she sucks based on the kinds of people she calls “best friend.”
You should report to police in case you end up hurt really bad and need serious help with recovery.
If your girlfriend doesn’t see the issue, that’s a deal breaker in my opinion. It’s pretty simple and easy to see what the problem is with her friend’s behavior.
She either doesn’t want to confront her friend or distance herself from her, or she’s really dense and doesn’t see a problem with adults picking physical fights with one another for no reason. Both are bad if you ask me.
Dump them both. First take a dump in her purse and step on it to squish it in good. Then dump her. 😆😆😆
Hate to break it to you my guy but your gf doesn’t give af about you. For one she’s best friends with someone who shit talks you and she just allows it. I be damn if someone shit talks my wife and I just casually go back to her and tell her what was said like it’s nothing. Two she doesn’t even care that you’re about to get your ass beat. If you don’t want to “snitch” to the cops then it’s whatever but if you care about your safety at all then leave that girl. TBH I wouldn’t be surprised if this is all just shit tests from her and her friend just to get you to be the one to break up.
Call the cops on her « inciting violence » pls.
Funny thing about women, their friend’s opinions of their boyfriends matter. Good luck bro.
Show the cops the text. Carry a gun.
Pick your women wisely.
Break up with your girlfriend and stay away from all of them
You gotta leave your gf and her dumbass friend and report that threat to the police one you don’t know if it’s actually going to happen and you don’t know if they’re gonna beat you to a pulp
You know what dump the girl and block her.
If you get jumped, report who jumped you, but also your girlfriend and her friend to the police. I would break up with this chick asap
Dump her. She “gets it.” She just doesn’t care. She thinks it’s funny. Good luck this week. Elbows in and keep your feet moving!
You’re gonna ignore all of our advice and learn the hard way. Good luck 🫡
The way I see it, you’re going to get jumped and get beat up. Your gf is going to minimize the whole thing and bush it off, your gfs friend gets a sweet revenge and you’d nursing physical wounds and bruised ego for the rest of your life. I don’t see any other way this is going. You may be big and strong but I guarantee you, the guy who’s going to jump you is going to have backup since the friend definitely gave him enough ammo to go full berserk on you.
You’re as good as toast. If you survive this, post some pics bro. We’re on your side but looks like you aren’t (on your side). And your gf definitely isn’t. GL out there mate.
Your girlfriend’s reaction after you confronted her is a massive problem as she’s clearly not taking this threat of violence serious in any way. It sounds like she just considers all of this a joke. What is it going to take before she sees the problem with what’s going on? You getting beaten straight into a hospital? Would that do it?
For starters you need to report this to the police. Perhaps you can get through to your girlfriend if you actually take such serious steps and thus show her that it’s serious. After all if you don’t do at least that then you aren’t really taking it serious either, in which case her reaction of not taking it seriously is pretty in line with yours…
Run away from all of this. This is so dangerous
Have the fight. Win.
Then dump em all
Just tell the gfs friend whatever he does to me, I’m gonna make sure happens to you. See how she reacts.
Ur wasting ur time with her. There friends for a reason. U would be surprised who ur girl is
Damn, that kid DOES sounds weird.
Women like this get their bfs and husbands killed because they start fights with psychos and criminals and sic the other person on people like you, OP
Drop any ego about snitching and report the names and make sure you dont block and delete anything threatening but record it. Is pussy worth potentially getting killed for?
Take that ass whooping like it’s 1999
Come on, ur girl is the issue. Not her friend. Open your eyes bro.
This situation is insanely severe and your gf should be way more concerned for your safety. If you get hurt in any type of way plz go to the police and tell them everything, her friend can get in serious trouble for what she did, maybe even go to the police right now before anything happens
Report it to the police, give all the info you can. They won’t do anything to protect you, but if you do get jumped, the paper trail will come in handy when this guy and your GF’s friends are in court.
Also explain the severity of the situation to your GF seeing as this is a potential crime. If the guy hits you, he will see jail time. Her friend (depending on the evidence) might also get into legal trouble. If she fails to see the issue, she isn’t worth your time, and you should distance yourself from her.
Hey buddy!
This is coming from a place of wanting the best for you.
You need to give your girlfriend the “Her or me” talk, because this is f*cking insane.
She talked badly about you in the past & your girl didn’t check her AT ALL? that’s her cosigning it 💀
Give her the talk! You should NOT put up with this shit. Who tf signs up their friend’s boyfriend to fight a random dude?? Either she’s in love with your girlfriend OR your girlfriend is in on it & laughing along with her behind your back.
Whatever you do, TAKE SOME ACTION, DO something or she’s gonna try to kill you
You want the answer just reverse all the roles and look at it. What would she do if your friend got her attacked.
If shes a ten and has the head game of a champion keep her around on the side for just fun but shes not a keeper she will have a sad story in 20 years guaranteed if she thinks violence is the answer for anything except self defense or defense of the innocent shes doomed for a sad life and best find a new gal one thats not a durtbag or hangs out with durtbags because a good partner wont have scumbag friends be safe
I’m an older dude with the long term post-nut clarity that comes with age and experience, so I urge you to listen up: 1) you are now in what sounds like at best an uncomfortable situation, at worst a dangerous one. Getting jumped is no joke. 2) your girlfriend, not her friend, is ultimately the one who put you in this situation, and 3) according to you, she is not concerned that you are now in harm’s way. If all the above is true, then this is a clear run-don’t-walk red flag to recommend bailing on this particular relationship entirely. Good luck.
It’s legit as easy as ringing the non emergency line and saying I have received a message from someone who says they are planning to jump me what can I do I have proof of these threats and I believe they are genuine as they know me.
if it were me. I would text him back and tell him the girl is talking shit. Offer to meet up at a bar and have a chat, buy him a round and diffuse the situation. Turn it all around on her
Breakup and ghost your gf. She chose her bf over you and will do so again.
Wow that’s scary dude. Your girlfriend will only know the severity of this when you get jumped. I really hope you are not and I hope you tell ur family about this for your own protection.
Those girls are the best 😋
You guys do know he’s not gonna break up with his girlfriend right lol no point giving him advice when he’s not gonna take it
You need to text him back asking what have I done? All I been doing is playing ps5 and seeing my girl. He will tell you the lie she told him. You say bro, look at me do you think I’ve got the guts to do that. I’m goofy as they come. It’s her friend trying to break us up with lies. My girl / her friend would kick my ass if I did any of that. Bro you are getting played and lied to.
Smash your girl, ram it like you don’t give a damn, then toss her aside and tell her she’s a crap shag. She’s got mediocre pussy and you’d rather use your hand. It’s over, get the out. That you don’t want your future children to be mixed with her inferior genes. This will mess her up mentally or you simply just finish, look her dead in her stupid face for about 2 minutes silently and tell her you were going to propose for marriage and make her your fiance , but due to how she betrayed you by getting her friend to lie to this guy to have you jumped. You can’t trust her at all. That you were thinking about a future together, a house, kids and 2 cars, travelling often. But you can’t get married to an op whose thinking to betray you and set you up. She would be a terrible mother. That it’s over, the sex is mediocre and not worth it either. You wish her to find happiness with her goofy friend whose always trying to ruin her life. Then kick her out. Bonus points if earlier in the evening you get a cheap industrial diamond ring with a fairly big rock 120 bucks at most. Leave it out on your kitchen and say she’s not supposed to see that yet. Then you do the above. So she lives her life knowing she lost a good man who was gonna marry her. That her best friend caused you to dump her and she’s gonna get ran through but nothing but bums. You will be the best thing that she ever had. That’s how you win, you never hit a female. There’s more damage to be done psychologically and emotionally.
I suggest you move, it sounds like you live in a toilet bowl and it’s full of turds. It’s a breath of fresh air to be in an area where people respect each other. Otherwise strap up and tell him dead ass I’m a pussy and scared. Il avoid you and you can tell people you beat me up I don’t care about a rep. If he agrees, just say you squared up and he knocked you out. That he hit you with an uppercut that made you see god and piss yourself. He just wants his ego satiated. But the problem is your girl and her friend. You either do what they said you did and worse or you drop them both and just move away. You will have to get strapped and shoot at anyone jumping you in future if not. Shoot to kill, that’s the stand your ground laws in all states. No such thing as a warning shot. This is unfair to even be in that situation, you need to leave.
Girls like this deserve everything they get. But it sounds like you aren’t actually who they say you are. As I said, try to reason with this guy, but you need to dump your op. These girls hate you and want you killed. Move out of your neighborhood. You are fighting for dingle berries, when you could go 2 town over and get a juicy peach or strawberry. If they are Hispanic, hit ice up. If they have secrets that wpuld ruin their reputation. Spread em ASAP. They gonna be saying mad lies about you anyway. You may have to leave regardless.
Bro, I’m going to be honest with you here. You’re not going to teach this personal lesson. You need to walk away and realize that these are toxic people that are no good for you.
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People that talk shit about you will talk shit about anyone, I bet even about her ‘best friend’s. Bitches be bitching really goes for guys and gals.
I have an opinion, but I’d prefer to say it to people’s faces than behind their back. Be real, not an echo chamber to get a dopamine fix.
Okay, record all information before it gets pulled and either hold onto it as a trump card or straight up got to the police with what you have. A threat is a threat, even if it is in a warped sense of prideful bravado as these days you don’t know what people are capable of. Protect yourself dude above all else.
There has to be some sort confidential chats with you and your girl, if she is going to mouth off to especially her bestie of all things, I’d seriously look at your relationship and step back, it will bite you in the ass in the future.
Random: Say you want you girl to peg you or you want to kink it up in the life… Is she going to blabber to everyone?
Either talk it out with your gf and go from there. Better to talk then walk when all avenues fail.
Come train Muay Thai with my room mate and I, we’re in our 30’s and we’ll teach you a couple moves a 20 yo wouldn’t be ready for.
Get some proof about her being the cause of this and report her to the police!
This is some serious piece of shit behaviour. Can you contact the kid and explain your gf’s friend was starting shit? You should try and give the kid an “out”; give him the chance to opt out of the physical route, even if it means you have to swallow your pride (especially if the guy is tough). I’m in my later 30’s now, but in my teens/early 20’s I was half decent at negotiating out of situations like this. However it’s heavily nation/locale/context dependent.
Pussy is good my guy but it ain’t that good, truthfully distance yourself from the crazy bitch. Second of all make sure you have a “fuck around and find out” option with you, for your protection of course.
So… it would be assault then?
Fuck it, let em catch an assault charge… welcome to being an adult and trying to “fight”.
Now you got 2 problems on your hands. Some weirdo looking to fight you, and your gf best friend looking to destroy you. If your GF doesn’t see a problem with this I’d leave the gf.
It’s not “weird” looking for fights, it’s looking to initiate a crime
Sending random people looking for violence towards someone else is also a crime. What this dumbfuck did with the text is considered a terroristic threat…also a crime.
If your gf doesn’t see the problem, she’s part of the problem. We are all the people we hang out with. If your friends are all toxic assholes, chances are you are too otherwise you probably wouldn’t be friends with them.
What did you text the dude back? It should have been:
“I have no idea who you are or what you’re talking about, I’m going to forward this number to the police in case anything actually happens to me.”
Report to the police.
You can’t change her friends but you can change your girlfriend for another one.
Maybe your gf thinks your too soft and secretly wants you to be a man physically
Sounds like you need to get away from both of them entirely. They sound quite toxic
Time to learn how to fight buddy
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The fact that your girlfriend, the person who is supposed to care about your well-being, seemingly doesn’t seem to care that someone is threatening to jump. You is a pretty big red flag. I’d probably bail if I were you.
Pay a homegirl who’s big, text your gf’s friend mentioning the same shit. This is how you get shit to stop. Ignore the other comments.
Some people understand shit when it happens to them too.
If your girl doesnt see a problem with it then you have your answer. If youre not wanting to fight I’d suggest you leave
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Do you know your girlfriend’s parents?
You’re both technically legal adults but young enough that this nonsense still holds weight.
Go dump your girlfriend in front of her parents like this:
“Mr and Mrs (name), I care about your daughter, but I feel it’s important to inform you that I am ending my relationship with her. Her friend (name) has decided it is acceptable to encourage a stranger online to physically attack me and provide him my personal details. I have reported the threat to the police, but more concerning is your daughter’s complete dismissal of the severity or risk involved and seems to believe this is acceptable behavior. So while I care about your daughter, I feel it is best to just end my relationship with her until she matures enough to realize there are serious consequences to situations like this. I’m informing you as her parents as y ok u should be aware that your daughter is friends with and being influenced by a sociopath.”
That’s gotta be breaking a law. Don’t be around people who put you in danger. I’m sorry OP. Your right, I would walk away and stay firm in your belief and perspective
Crazy pussy is not worth it brother
I’d go to the police
Time to break up
The people around you including your girl are idiots
Bruh. Does your gf even like you? Her friend is trash and prob wants you out of the picture. But.. if your gf isn’t going to bat for you or even being critical of her friend, that’s red flag city, brother.
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How old are you? Why are you hanging out with kids this age? There’s a lot of immaturity and unnecessary drama with people that young.
Just leave both disrespectful girls to the curb anf find a more mature woman this time
Lol wtf 🤣 wtf are you asking advice for, her friend put you in danger she doesn’t care and she’s partially responsible for it, run
This whole thing is wild. Contact the police. Someone is threatening to attack you. Tell them the whole story.
Break up with a woman who doesn’t see violence against her bf as a problem.
Your girlfriend sounds self absorbed. Leave her asap.
You girlfriend is shrugging off the fact that her friend is trying to get you physically assaulted. Sounds like an ex-girlfriend to me…
Your GF seems to be very tight with this girl. You should go all in and ask for a 3-some. What do you have to lose worst case she will break up with you and do you a favor letting you walk away from her 😆
I remember a British gril sic’d her friends on her ex boyfriend.
He’s dead now, and the guys are in jail. I think she’s on probation. Been a few years.
Anyway, good luck.
If fights aren’t so bad then I guess they won’t mind if you decide to go a few rounds with the best friend as a warm up.
Did you hit that?
If you did then why you still with crazy and her friend?
Move onto greater and saner pastures
You’re honestly simping for your gf. If this was a guy best friend you would have already cut him off. You’re going to do nothing until you actually get jumped and you might still be with your gf even after. Respect your time
I don’t know how long you’ve been with this chick but she’s retarded and her friend, who is probably a closet lesbian, is a psychopath. Do yourself a favor and get rid of both from your life.
Your GF is part of. That’s why she is underplaying it. She wants to see you fight. I bet the gf friend said something like you’re not tough etc..
Bollocks, mate, that’s a proper sticky situation you’ve got there! It sounds like your girlfriend’s best mate has been stirring the pot something fierce, and I don’t blame you for feeling a bit miffed about it all. The fact that this lass has been slagging you off behind your back and then went as far as to egg on some chap to have a go at you? That’s bang out of order, no two ways about it.
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Well you are learning who you are and who they are. You decide what people to include in your life. Choose wisely.
Where do you live I’ll run the fade for you
Dude sounds like your gf’s friend wants a WWE drama. Time to tag out or lawyer up.
Why haven’t you dumped the GF a long time ago? Do it now and then watch your back.
Very dangerous, someone like this does not know where this can go. Women talk shit because they are not going to be the ones getting knifed or worse. Stay away from this chick.
I’d say break up but honestly given this behaviour they are likely to say you’re abusive.
Id look for the post and see exactly what she wrote about you because the “I know what you did” is the part that worries me.
Contact the police and report the friend and your ex girlfriend for inciting this.
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I hope you can fight dude
PS thats fucked up
PPS the cops aren’t gonna do shit for you
Her friend is a freak
Runnnnn
Yes, violence is bad. 😥
This gal doesn’t have your safety or welfare at heart. Leave.
Dump your girlfriend.
If she doesn’t see the severity of her friend putting you in danger, that’s a huge problem.
Also, chances are she’ll eventually do the same to you intentionally or inadvertently.
Unfortunately, there are many girls out there who think it’s “manly” or get their jollies from instigating violence amongst men. There are also those who have been protected from seeing or having to deal with fights and violence and the after effects and repercussions, so they think nothing of it.
At best, ignorant behavior, at worse, toxic.
Think about it for a second. This girl is willing to get you killed over no fault of your own over a “joke.” Your girlfriend not seeing how serious this is should really tell you everything you need to know.
Some people just want to watch the world burn. Hate to tell you this, buddy, but she’s what some would consider a ‘fun time fling’ and definitely not what you want to invest time in.
Wow!! It show’s that Your girlfriend is just like her friend. I suggest you be gone from them altogether.
I guess this is the same girlfriend who broke up with you about 7 days ago and wanted to take you back 3 days ago.
Seems like the best friend of your girlfriend is trying to get you jumped to permanently end the relationship between you and her friend.
Edit: now the opener deleted the previous posts about his situation. What even is the point of that, opener?
Fuck man you need a new social circle or something
I’m reminded of this saying:
If you win, you go to jail.
If you lose, you go to hospital.
1st You did call him weird for looking for fights his age and posting it correct? 2nd its your girls friend that’s the problem here, first ur girl needs to tell her friend she is wrong for doin that and she needs to admit to you she was wrong for telling her friend that and that it won’t happen again. If all that works then u gotta man up and text this kid and b like who is this? What are u talking about? See what he says. If he says exactly what u said then b like yea I said it was weird bro … if he says anything more then exactly what u said. Say bro is this a prank I dont kno u and thats a lie so whoever told u that is making us all look stupid. Get him to be like yo sum1 is using us and they r sitting back laughing while we do the dirt? If by the end u cant change his mind just man up and if u see him around just b ready. Carry mace wit u. Make sure ur not alone where u No one has ur back. Always b ready. And don’t tell these girls nuthing cuz they gossip like we need air to breathe
You could Just send the friend a message, that you will use their address to fight that guy. Tell him to knock twice and scratch
you don’t need this kind of drama, look for someone else who respects you and care about you.
If I got jumped or even into a fight because of something she did or enticed, she would soon understand the severity of her actions due to the shared pain.
This isn’t “friend drama.” It’s a safety issue.
Screenshot everything, block them, and don’t meet up or respond. Tell your girlfriend plainly: “Your friend shared my info and encouraged someone to jump me. I need you to set a hard boundary with her and stop sharing anything about me.” If she minimizes it, that’s a big problem.
If the threats are specific or ongoing, file a police report and let your school/work know. You’re not asking her to pick sides over gossip. You’re asking for basic safety and respect. If she can’t do that, step back.
Double down, answer on the message of they’ll jump you that you’ll go insane, bite stab scratch push eyes out. You’ll see that mr big mouth who wants to fights is and always was all bark but no bite. Fucking search him if you want, add that too in the message. Then you dump that gf and her friend. Because both clearly don’t have your best interest or acknowledge your situation more then once. Pussy is better with a girl who truly loves and cares with you
To quote Reddit morons; “You don’t have a girlfriend’s friend problem, you have a girlfriend problem.”
It’s true in this case. Your girlfriend sucks.
Get yourself a good American made knife for self-defense. Good luck 👍
Is his last name Logan?
There’s a lot of girls like this who are sadistic in nature unfortunately. And they will get away with it. You need to stand your ground.
Back in school my gfs friend used to choke me. My gf kicked me in the balls to see if it hurt the first time out of school. And her sister tipped my bag looking for gas money. There was other sadistic things other girls would do.
Talk to your girlfriend about it, if she doesn’t do nothing about her friend break up with her, what you are feeling is completely reasonable.
Her friend has issues, so does your gf for not seeing it.
Brother, I’ve literally seen men get killed in this exact type of scenario and similar situations. do NOT take this lightly. Your gf is no better because if you died then what? She’s going to cry at your casket and finally blame her friend? Nah
This type of situation has killed people before
You’re girlfriends friend is an idiot, you’re gf isn’t too far behind. Get rid of them both
This isn’t friend drama, it’s a threat. Screenshot everything, block them, don’t meet up, and if the messages are specific report it. Tell your girlfriend plainly that sharing your business and hyping a fight crossed a hard line and you need her to shut it down and stop sharing anything about you. If she still minimizes it, step back and protect yourself.
Ditch them both.
Your girlfriend friend likes you
Just fuck both of them so what
Life goes on
So did you get in the fight ?
The friends isn’t the biggest problem anymore. YOUR GIRLFRIEND is the problem here. You literally got threatened by someone random dude and this mfkr friend and she can’t even defend and protect you. Dump her.
Find out if this guy that wants to fight has a girlfriend that also looks for fights. Then send her to your gf and her friend… I mean, since this kinda thing is no big deal to them.
Ur girlfriend does not like you haha why are u with her bro
Mate, your gf is the problem.
Don’t be allowing yourself to be put in harms way because of a girl. There are plenty of better ones out there.
Drop them both and lose the headache , im the future if a friend doesn’t like you it’s fine but if they start talking crap and your partner doesn’t check it right there then that’s not the girl for you