So me (m18) and girlfriend (f18) are on the phone while I’m at work, and we’re talking about how she’s going off to college, and I mentioned how I took a whole week off of work to help her move into her dorm. Then girlfriend explains how her parents don’t want me going because they think I’m “going to make everything about me,” so I start getting to get mad because I took off A WHOLE WEEK OF WORK, and now I’m not even going to be able to go, so I get mad and start name-calling her parents (can’t say the names on here), and then GF hangs up. She then proceeds to either call or text her parents and tell them that I was name-calling them, and then her mom texts me and gets mad about what I said. So immediately I apologize and explain that I didn’t mean what I said; I was just angry. Her mom further explained why she didn’t want me going because “she raised her, and she is going to be the first one to take her to college” (which is fair, but completely restricting me is not fair), so after she explained that, I immediately apologized again. Her dad also is mad, and I also apologized to him. I’m just here to ask if there is anything else I can do to fix this burnt bridge or if I should even fix it at all?
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Her parents have a point.
Did she ask you to go? Was there a miscommunication or something? Do you start name calling people at the drop of a hat often?
I would say just wait a week or so to let her settle in and then go visit her on a later day or on holiday time
You tried inserting yourself into a rite of passage for your girlfriend and her parents. And then you made a stupid move by bad mouthing her parents to her.
An important part of being in a relationship is respecting your partners family and you failed the first test, badly.
Since it sounds like she is moving away, most likely your relationship won’t last anyway. And with this kind of behavior, my prediction is that you two will be broken up by Thanksgiving.
Why do her parents automatically think you’ll make it about you?
Taking an entire week off of work to move your gf into a dorm is ridiculous. She does not have that much stuff to unpack and her time should be spent learning her way around the campus and dealing with her possible roommate. Did you already book a hotel for this trip?
If she didnt ask for you to come i see their point