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What are some advice on being more relaxed during intercourse and not be to tensed up ? I don’t want it to be boring for my partner even though he still enjoys it . And also I don’t know to how to ask for it I haven’t been with too many guys but I want to make intercourse more exciting.

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  1. pan_amoania Avatar
    pan_amoania

    foreplay doesn’t start with physical touch, it starts with conversation, a phone call, a warm hello, picking up coffee on the way etc. And as soon as you climax everything you do immediately becomes foreplay for the next run, so that said: start by being yourself. get to know your body. do you masturbate? etc. And sex isn’t about knowing it all, it’s about being open and connecting with that person in the moment. make it about fun and you’ll find all the pleasure. also check out ‘sex with emily’!

  2. SingleUmpire7464 Avatar
    SingleUmpire7464

    Girlypop. Say it with me.

    Confidence. Is. Key.

    No matter if you’re a dude or a gal, there’s nothing more sexy than someone who’s confident especially in an intimate setting. If you gotta suppress all 2 million and one of your insecurities and fake it, do it. Let your mind go wild and after a while you forget that you were even tense

  3. Automatic_Travel_307 Avatar
    Automatic_Travel_307

    Hey girl, 
    Firstly I think it’s important to understand what you like, dislike and why you may “tense” up. 
    In my experience. Usually tensung up is usually a sign you are uncomfortable/anxious/or not really enjoying yourself. 
    Maybe even having an open conversation with your partner. 
    For women it’s typically more of a long game. Foreplay really comes into it and I don’t just mean flicking the bean. But feeling sensual, emotionally secure etc. As someone who really enjoys sex. I am often the instigator with my husband.
    If you have anxiety around asking here are some tips: 

    1. Use your body to ask. Come up to them kiss them touch them sensually. Usually teasing or instigating the physical side of things is enough of an arousal. If that doesn’t work because maybe they’re not in the mood don’t be too disheartened. 
    2. Understand what your partner likes. They might like the ideal of watching you or finding you masturbate. If so start feeling comfortable with yourself, be expressive moan loudly to catch their attention or even msg them naughty msgs to come look.
    3. If you just feel super awkwardly about the two options above. You could book sex dates. Where you communicate with your partner that this date and time we have a date that leads to sex. And maybe talk about your boundaries and explore together. Remember. You need to on board with what you do. Even if part way through you don’t enjoy it. Switch it up. Tenseness can come from again not feeling comfortable. 
    4. If all this fails. Consider talking to a sex therapist. See if you can explore with them why you may feel the way you feel and work on exploring your own body first. Then once you do this more comfortably doing with others is all the more easy. 

    Good luck chickita. Remember there is nothing wrong. You just need to find what works for you. 

  4. That_Employment_9659 Avatar
    That_Employment_9659

    Relax breathe. Focus what feels good don’t overthink just enjoy and share what you like

  5. HereToBeHonest- Avatar
    HereToBeHonest-

    Hey don’t think so much about it, relax.
    Flirt, communicate, talk and whatever happens don’t doubt yourself or think about life during intercourse.

  6. Anttiila Avatar
    Anttiila

    Focus on your own pleasure first, when you’re into it, it shows