Background info:
I’m going into my junior year of high school and decided to make a big change—I chose to do cheer instead of cross country this year. I was the #1 girl on the cross country team and still hold the school’s fastest time, but after four years of running and constantly dealing with pain, I figured it was time to try something new.
When I was younger, I did gymnastics and was pretty good at it, so cheer felt like a natural fit. Personality-wise, I’ve always been kind of a “floater”—friendly with everyone, not really tied to one specific group. I got along well with the girls on the cheer team before I joined, and they had actually been encouraging me for a while to try out.
What I need advice on:
So this year, I joined—and honestly, I’ve been doing really well, especially for my first season. I’ve been excelling in the gymnastics aspect, and I haven’t had any drama with anyone. But out of nowhere, some of the girls started acting rude, especially right before cheer camp. It was surprising because I genuinely hadn’t had any issues with any of them before.
To give an example: there’s this one girl—I’ll call her Emmy—whom I used to be pretty close with. We never had problems, and I always thought we got along well. But during the first week of practice, things felt off. The coach told the varsity girls to get into their cheer lines. (At that point, we only had varsity practices, even though I kept asking for a separate JV one. For context, it was just me and my friend—let’s call her A—who were the only ones on JV.)
So, since we weren’t on varsity, A and I stayed back to wait for further instructions. When the coach eventually told us to “squeeze in” onto the full mat, I passed Emmy as I walked to my spot. She gave me this nasty look and muttered, “You have no idea what you’re doing.” I didn’t say anything—I just kept going and focused on doing the cheers.
I’m also the school mascot, and our cheer coach has a bit of a reputation for “cherry-picking” her favorites. I earned enough points to be on varsity, but somehow two very influential girls ended up on both varsity and JV. Meanwhile, I made the competition team, but they didn’t.
Things have started to improve a little since they got back from camp, but honestly? I still have no clue what I did to make them start acting like that. It’s been weird and kind of hurtful.
I’ve talked to some people, and they all agreed that they seemed jealous. lmk what y’all think.
If people are interested, I can definitely share more.
Comments
This is AI I think?
You didn’t do anything wrong. Sometimes your light just makes insecure people squint. Keep shining, even if it makes them uncomfortable.
I get honestly I kind of felt the same way I did art and I had a friend who did art with me and we’re close but we had a little fallout and she does art she has different strength and her weakness is my strength and whenever I would try to show people my art she would always come into the conversation and try to take it away and everyone would always focus on her, no matter how much I would try to show people my art she would always step in and be like oh look at mine to be honest I was very envious because everyone liked her, and even our art teacher per her to be honest, I get being envious sometimes when you see people just having the spotlight that you think you deserve especially people who you thought were your friends so I get that but at the end of the day it stops when you realize that it doesn’t make sense you be jealous and I just stopped. I just stopped and stopped caring, and just shared with people who decided that I was worth their time and don’t feel guilty about what you’re doing shine like the star you are and just be you people gonna just be jealous and that’s it. They’ll get over it. I did