it’s been 4 days since DH confronted MIL about her mean girl energy behind my back. after MIL’s reaction, DH scheduled a therapy appointment ASAP.
i feel like there have been many stressful moments building up for DH over the last 2 weeks; work stress got to him and he went to the bathroom at work to let out a good cry, the recent family event leading to my asking (insisting) that DH manage his mother, he went to get a tarot card reading and said it was all very negative, and of course all the wife things about me that drive him crazy. i share this because i believe this all contributed to the blow out that we had yesterday.
one of his complaints is that we don’t go to the beach enough so he scheduled 2 beach days this week. the 2nd day that we went, it was 91 degrees the day before a holiday and a lot of people were headed to the beach. we waited 1+ hour for our connecting ferry and the round trip travel time took approximately 5 hours. needless to say, many people (including us) were antsy and annoyed. fast forward to the blow out part. it was ugly; so ugly that an older woman walking past us asked me if i was OK. she was prompted to intervene because DH was yelling at me and dropping f bombs while hoards of people were walking to/from the ferry dock. i was so overwhelmed with emotion and couldn’t think clearly that i kept saying “leave me alone.”
anyway, the reason why i’m sharing this is to ask others what the progression was like going from very LC to NC with their MIL. i know this is stressful for everyone involved, but today’s blow out feels like there’s no recovering from this. i’m hoping that someone will say that this was part of the progression until everyone accepted the new paradigm, but i realize that could be my ounce of denial interjecting. DH and i have been together for 15 years, married for almost 8 years.
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DH needs to learn that not only his feelings are matter and the world doesn’t revolve around him. He had no rights to scream at you publicly while you cried and only asked him to leave you alone. OP, please, start a real individual therapy. You need to clean up this mess and not just your MIL has a mean girl energy but your DH too.
I agree that your DH is not dear husband but damned husband. Apple doesn’t fall far from tree.