The most important thing for me was learning not to care too much. If it really doesn’t matter to you if you get rejected, you’ll project confidence or at least not neediness, and you’ll be more able to take risks because you won’t be so worried about what happens if it doesn’t pan out. If you are, in fact, a good looking guy, you can hold a conversation, you are a decent person, and you can remove the barrier of neediness/anxiety, you shouldn’t have too hard a time.
I have a friend, not the best looking, but he’s ok. And he ALWAYS dated attractive women. I couldn’t take it anymore and asked him, “What’s your secret?”
He replied, “I just approach, smile and say, ‘Hi. I’m Mark. I work as a (job title) at (company). You look like someone worth getting to know. Can I have your number and let’s plan something?”
He said it has never not worked. Be sincere. Smile. And ask.
Uh. I was a really chubby kid with a speech impediment growing up. So it took way longer than it should have to realize I was actually quite attractive after I got fit and dropped the speech impediment in my early adulthood.
Not me but my friend, he was always handsome but absolutely shit at talking to women. He took some acting lessons when he was at uni to improve his confidence and is now an actor. Being handsome plus now charming it’s amazing to watch him draw women in – only person I’ve been out to bars with where groups of women approach “us”.
Learned to stop taking it personally and also stopped being afraid of not impressing people, even if I am attracted to them and approaching them with romantic/sexual intent. I am unapologetically myself to EVERYONE I meet. It sounds cliche but people really do seem to respond to being genuine.
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I lowered my standards
The most important thing for me was learning not to care too much. If it really doesn’t matter to you if you get rejected, you’ll project confidence or at least not neediness, and you’ll be more able to take risks because you won’t be so worried about what happens if it doesn’t pan out. If you are, in fact, a good looking guy, you can hold a conversation, you are a decent person, and you can remove the barrier of neediness/anxiety, you shouldn’t have too hard a time.
I have a friend, not the best looking, but he’s ok. And he ALWAYS dated attractive women. I couldn’t take it anymore and asked him, “What’s your secret?”
He replied, “I just approach, smile and say, ‘Hi. I’m Mark. I work as a (job title) at (company). You look like someone worth getting to know. Can I have your number and let’s plan something?”
He said it has never not worked. Be sincere. Smile. And ask.
Uh. I was a really chubby kid with a speech impediment growing up. So it took way longer than it should have to realize I was actually quite attractive after I got fit and dropped the speech impediment in my early adulthood.
Then I just kinda ran with it.
Not me but my friend, he was always handsome but absolutely shit at talking to women. He took some acting lessons when he was at uni to improve his confidence and is now an actor. Being handsome plus now charming it’s amazing to watch him draw women in – only person I’ve been out to bars with where groups of women approach “us”.
Didn’t you post this yesterday?
What a cool and unique question
Learned to stop taking it personally and also stopped being afraid of not impressing people, even if I am attracted to them and approaching them with romantic/sexual intent. I am unapologetically myself to EVERYONE I meet. It sounds cliche but people really do seem to respond to being genuine.
When I had a lot more money, it was a lot easier.