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hi everyone. i am a 21 year old female and i have a ridiculously strict muslim family. my mum & my sister that im about to talk about both have narcissistic tendencies & are just impossible to be around.
this literally happened a few hours ago. my sister (who has narcissistic tendencies) went through my stuff while i was downstairs & saw a receipt for contraception that i bought yesterday. she came downstairs and said ‘what did you buy yesterday?’ and i panicked and said i bought some for my friend because she was too scared to. and then she made me call said friend and ask her what happened & she went along with the story but she didn’t say the same story i did. so now she’s been pressing me & saying that she’s gonna tell me mum who will inevitably kick me out of my house. she called me a whore and said that i would die alone and miserable yadayadaya i don’t really care what she says to be honest but im unsure of what to do. i filled my friend in on the story but she hasn’t replied yet as she’s at work but they want answers TODAY. i’m so ridiculously stressed out rn but it’s too late to go back.
any advice?? how do i make this believable for when my mum asks me.
i know its wrong to lie but you dont know my situation properly😹😹
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if the story your friend told was only slightly different, try and merge the two and explain the full story that way.
so if you said you went to one pharmacy and your friend said a different one, say you were looking around for affordable prices?
I’d never say it’s wrong to lie in this situation. You are trying to stay safe in an unsafe home. Your family is abusive.
As far as what to do I’d say whatever you need to stay housed for now. And I hope you can escape this someday soon
Change your story. Your new story is, that’s not your receipt, and you don’t know where that came from.
I know, you already told your sister that you bought contraceptives for your friend. So SHE won’t believe this story from you. But if she tells your mom, your mom didn’t hear you say that. Simply deny it. If your friend is comfortable lying for you, ask her to just say she never spoke to you about this story thing, or just refuse to talk to your mom about what happened with you and the store the other day.
Oh and obviously, get rid of the actual contraceptives. You can’t risk them being found.
First, you are an adult. You don’t owe anyone any explanations. You are within your rights to say this isn’t something you are willing to talk about. Your sister had no right to make you call your friend.
I don’t know what kind of contraceptives they are, but if it’s the pill, you could be taking them for heavy periods or something, and just don’t want to talk about that. You could say that about your friend, and that your friend was just too embarrassed to say that, or taken aback by the call, which would have been so intrusive if the story was true.
Is there any way you can move out?
Remember that you aren’t a whore, you’re an adult, and you don’t need to answer.
Is their any place or organization you can go to for help
You are not a bad person
You are an amazing woman who deserves her freedom and don’t owe anyone anything for heavens sake.
This has really really upset me. I’m so sorry for you. Your family is toxic. Why didn’t you throw away all the evidence. I hope other free thinking women from similar families look after themselves. You know that contraceptives are not only for stopping pregnancies. I took them for decades because of ibs. AND I wanted babies. But I had to stop the pain. Inform yourself about these things and say you were embarrassed about getting taken short in public. You should not have to lie. Be safe please in all areas. I shall be thinking of you. Con amore
You could be using contraceptives for any purpose.
Fess up and ask for forgiveness. If they don’t want you to stay then be an adult and live on your own.
It’s their house and you should respect their rules. You wouldn’t expect to do drugs freely or other potentially harmful activities, so why disrespect their trust.
Your sister is not your friend. Remember that.