This was about 2/3 years ago now I was 18 at the time. Working as a beverage cart girl. The thing with that job that got me is that if you take a shot with golfers they tip you a lot more (f’ed up huh?) so I just got too comfortable with that. There was a day that I blacked out. And I had no idea that anything had happened with that guy until a co worker told me the next day, and he didn’t do anything to stop it? So disappointing! I know I put myself in the position for this to happen, but a grown man knows what he’s doing in that moment. When this happened his wife had just had their first child (a girl of course) and it broke me inside. Then a bunch of golfers knew what happened but he made it seem as if it was something cool. So that got really uncomfortable for me. To this day it still bothers me everyday. I’ve contemplated telling his wife, but I don’t know if that will just pull me in to whirlwind of problems. Now this might sound crazy, but I’ve thought about telling him to pay me to not tell her. At least some reparations. It rots me genuinely. I hate him. And I hate that he’s manipulated so many people and what they believed happen. It’s unfair to me. Not sure what to do. Or if I should just leave it be and move on.
Got sexually assaulted while I was working on the golf course.
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I’m so sorry. Unfortunately, a lot of men wouldn’t rape or assault a woman themselves, but also don’t think it’s a big deal if another guy does it and won’t do anything to stop it.
I really think you should try to find a therapist to help you work through this.
You made one bad decision – drink with gross men for money.
Now you’re thinking of another – blackmail the guy when it’s possible that in your blacked out state you might have been touching him, too..
Please make a decision that is not a crime.
Honest advice: sue the guy and take him to court, or leave it.
Blackmail or snitching to the twife won’t get you anywhere.
Drinking on the job?
So much that you blacked out?
Where is this golf course?