first of all, i’m 90% sure that i’m overthinking this but my anxiety and fear of rejection is telling me otherwise.
i (24f) have been speaking to a guy (26m) for a while, and tonight was our first date. he took me out for dinner, the whole night was amazing. we have good chemistry, and get along so well. there wasn’t a second of awkward silence between us. i think I’m starting to catch feelings for him which is crazy because i’ve turned into a man hater since my ex.
he dropped me off home around 10:30pm and we were just cuddling in his car and then he kissed me, was telling me how pretty/dreamy I am. he has to be up for work at 5am. i messaged him after he dropped me off but he didn’t text me back. the reasonable thing to think is that he didn’t respond because he went straight to bed. but my brain is convincing me that im being ghosted. thoughts?
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Don’t stress he probably went straight to sleep.
Sounds like a perfect opportunity for Brooke & Jubal in the Morning
Give it time. You’ve done everything you can at this point. Evaluate when he responds! 🙂
I mean, sure, it’s easy to spiral into panic mode when someone ghosts you… but honestly? People are weird. I’ve had mornings where I’d text someone and they didn’t reply, only to find out later they were just sleep-deprived from working night shifts. Not that I’m an expert or anything, but sometimes life gets in the way of texts.