Hi friends, I would appreciate advice on how to handle guilt for skipping small get togethers with my MIL. I support my husband going. He tries to convince me to come along and in his words “face it.” He tells me that he will defend me if she says sometime rude or offensive but usually when it happens it’s when he’s away or talking to someone else. I decided to stay away because she constantly criticizes me to my husband (she told him that it’s strictly my job to cook and clean and that he spoils me too much by doing it for me) she also painted our house w/o permission when we were on vacation. I have tried to forgive her for that but the memory and pain from that experience still lives with me (it was before my husband really set boundaries with his mom). I feel guilty because I would like to support my husband by attending and being apart of family memories but I feel unsafe around his mother. I know that it has nothing to do with me and is entirely a reflection of how she feels but still it’s hard because I feel like I’m letting my husband down.
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