When we met we connected so well right off the bat, we texted a lot every day, we had similar interests and connected well trying each other’s hobbies and stuff. We planned a lot of stuff like we saw a future with each other, like road trips, getting an apartment together, he said he wanted to go to my home country, meet my family, etc. We even talked about our past and traumas or whatever (we share a lot).
Last time we met we had fun playing video games and talking, and everything seemed completely normal, and then he just stopped texting like he did before. If I text him he just replies with one word answers like “OK” or “thanks”, or just reacts to the text with a heart, and if I don’t text him at all he doesn’t even text. I asked him a few days ago if he was doing okay, or if he was seeing anyone else. I said whatever it is, I just want honesty, if he wants to be with me, it’s fine, and if he wants to be with someone else, that’s fine too. I have just been feeling bad (not sure, but could be depression, what I’m feeling), and I wanted to know if something was going on, he just said he’s okay, he’s just busy.
Every time we went out to eat I got my card out to pay, but half the times he said he’d get it, and he did pay for those times, so, in case someone considers it based on the age gap, I don’t think he wanted a sugar daddy or something.
Yesterday I hung out with a friend and when I was looking for a meme on my phone, he saw a photo of the guy I was (/am??) dating and he said he talks to him on Tinder, pointing at a specific picture he took just like 2 weeks ago, so his Tinder profile has been updated. I didn’t ask for evidence because I didn’t wanna feel like I was invading my friend’s privacy or whatever. But I don’t even know what to think about all this. Like, I feel like I don’t even wanna be with him after all this, but also why would he do something like this? Whatever is going on, why not be honest? It feels like I am softly being ghosted. Should I confront him about it? Maybe just let it go? We haven’t talked in a few days, so I feel like if I never text him, I’ll just never hear from him again, so should I just keep it like this and move on with my life?
TL;DR: A guy (21M) I (30M) have/had been dating for over a month, goes from 100 to 0 in communication, and a friend tells me he has matched with him on Tinder, not sure how long ago, but his Tinder profile seems to be updated recently. But he won’t just be honest with me about whatever is going on.