I (23F) matched with a guy (35M) on Hinge earlier this week. We’ve texted for a few days and we started talking to plan a date for after Labor Day or later on next week.
Today he starts getting frustrated and telling me I’m not making enough time for him and I’m confused and uncomfortable by how he brought it up. He starts telling me he expected me to make time for him for our dates and to text him, and how if I really cared I would make time. I told him that sounds really strange to demand from someone who you haven’t met yet or are in a relationship and even so it sounds controlling to me.
I find this weird for someone I haven’t even met yet and do not really know that well. I didn’t reply yet because I was at work and felt really odd but it. He then followed up by text asking if it was something he said. I told him again I’m not comfortable and he got upset and said all I have to do is make time for him and that I’m in the area and if I really cared then I would.
I understand meeting up on dating apps is expected early on, but the difference is he’s expecting multiple dates and allotted time frames for me to text time and I can’t really do that with my alternating work schedule
TL;DR: I matched with a guy on a dating app who told me I’m not considerate of him and that I need to make time for him when I haven’t met him yet
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He sounds nuts tbh. You haven’t even met yet and he’s already made you uncomfortable. This is the time when people are on their best behavior and if this is his best behavior I’d pass on that date.
Way over the top, and for someone with that big an age difference? Controlling straight out of the gate. Block and move on.