I’m (22m) finishing college and I haven’t connect much with people, went through some mental health hardship. I’m very shy and scared of loneliness, I would like to know how many of you got to meet people who are significant to your life after this period of school ended? 🙂
Guys, how many of you made meaningful friendships after college?
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Been out of school almost 15 years. I’ve made 1 or 2, all right after college with people who were just out of school themselves. It tapered off quickly though.
Plenty.
But I’ve been a staffer at anime conventions here and there for like twenty years now.
> I’m very shy and scared of loneliness
Life advice: Nobody cares that you’re shy, you either put yourself out there or be forever alone. Even the nerds have their Magic the gathering night or cosplay conventions. I do dance and sports as a hobby so most of my social circle outside of work is met through those. Find a hobby you enjoy, keep attending meetups, eventually you’ll probably meet someone or a few people and ask them to get drinks or food after or something.
I made great friends in college. I also made great friends after college. In fairness I moved to Dubai so everyone there was in a similar boat, but it was a type of job where there’s a lot of people similar ages. I moved back to the UK 7 years ago but I still keep in touch with many and actually going on a guys trip to a different country with some of them next week 🙂
Met some by pursuing activities that I enjoyed. Met another round when I had kids and we bonded with other parents. Met more while working.
I did. Several people. You say you are “very shy and scared of loneliness” so one or the other has to win out. Wherever you live, there are festivals, events and non profit organizations that need volunteers. Do that. It’s a great way to help your community and make friends.
I don’t talk to any of the friends I made in college.
Most of my friends are ex-colleagues. We have stayed friends while moving on to new jobs and relocations.
I’m 40 and have made many meaningful friendships in adult life and don’t see why it would stop anytime soon. You gotta put yourself out there or you will end up lonely. You also need to be okay with going and doing things on your own, because people are busy as adults so if you want to do something you just gotta go do it. That’s also how you meet new people. If you go out only with others you are less likely to talk to new people. I also have the benefit of having very social hobbies.
Made some of my best friends after college.
I commissioned in the Army after graduating and made more friends and mentors while serving. I still keep in contact with them to this day and have group chats.