I keep seeing all of these profiles where men say they’re looking for someone to go to the gym with them. I’ve never seen that as a thing I’m looking for in a partner. When I used to go to the gym, I wanted to be there to work by myself. I’m curious about the takes of other ladies. Are you interested in going to the gym with your partner? Is that a plus for you?
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My husband and i are both gym rats. We are members of separate gyms, and I would absolutely hate going to the gym with him.
I always read that as a way for them to subtly indicate they want a partner with a fit body type who will maintain it.
To answer your question: I have no interest in going to the gym with anyone 🤷‍♀️
It’s code for them wanting someone skinny/fit lol I don’t know if they actually want someone to workout with.
Fuuuck no. When I’m at the gym I wanna be left alone.
I value wanting an active life style and would consider being interested in their photos aren’t them taking selfies in locker rooms lol.
My husband and I go to the same gym. On the weekends we go together but during the week we do not.
I would love to meet a girlfriend in the gym. I spend a lot of time there and it’s a really good community, so if she’s part of it already, or wants to be, that speaks highly of her. It’s like any other hobby, there are up sides to having a partner who shares it.Â
Of course, it also requires the right personality. Someone who’s kind of insecure about their own progress or has something to prove to people other than themselves is probably going to be a fucking nightmare to be in a relationship with if a shared hobby is involved, especially one as progress-based as, say, CrossFit or weightlifting. But that can as easily happen with someone who doesn’t share the hobby. My ex, who’s never set foot in a gym, was so insecure about my fitness, and even just the word “CrossFit” was enough to put the vibe off for the evening. I definitely think I’m more compatible with someone who works out and would consider them wanting to work out together a plus.Â
I would love it if my love wanted to go to the gym with me, but the stars have not aligned in that way, so I go myself or with my array of friend gym buddies. It’s a perk, not a standard.Â
I would like a partner who also liked going to the gym and maybe we could go at the same time and work out separately for an hour. But I don’t want to work out with anyone….
My husband won’t even go on walks with me and I’m ok with that. It’s personal decompression time for me.
I work out with a hot sexy personal trainer and this has shown me I would love to work out with a partner lol. So many endorphins and sweat! And it inspires me to work out harder!
I go to CrossFit not regular gym and I would love if my husband went as well!!!
And there’s a bunch of couples that go to my gym. But it’s also group classes, maybe just different.
My husband comes to the gym with me sometimes but we have a strict rule that he can’t talk to me lmao unless over messaging. I just always worked out alone and I like to dissociate to forget about how bad it sucks. So when someone talks to me I remember I’m suffering. We never “work out together,” though. I would be really turned off by a guy saying he wanted that because it feels oppressive, and I would expect him to like …… make comments like I should hit the treadmill harder before dinner tonight or something. Like passive aggressively commenting on whether or not he thinks I worked out hard enough.
I’m not in the dating scene, but if I was that might be a plus for me. I enjoy working out, and appreciate someone to motivate me into sticking to my goals, and if he’s actually exercise smart and can, non patronizingly, help me improve my routines that would be cool – but not every gymbro is wired like that so it would def be part of the vetting process.
My idea of a gym date would be going together, working out separately, then leaving together. There’s no talking in church
No I like to go to the gym alone. Men that say this on dating profiles just saying they want a woman with certain body type that’s all.
I am very active and going to the gym is part of my daily routine. While I want a partner that is equally active, I do not want a gym partner. I like doing my work outs and work out classes on my own, I don’t want a gym partner. Its a form of therapy to me, in which I zone out.
That said, I agree with the other commenters that I think at least some of these guys say they want a gym partner when in reality they mean they want a woman who works out and keeps fit. Most if not all guys that I know prefer to gym solo lol.
On a dating app, I would not look for a gym partner. But when I go lifting I like having a partner. I push myself further and it’s easy not to skip when someone else is going with you. If I’m going to run on a machine, that I don’t need a partner for.
I’d like a partner who shares the same fitness interests as me, who would want to work out together, and train for things together. Am I looking for a gym partner per se? No, since I don’t particularly care for just going to the gym. But ideally I’d like a running, rock climbing, ski, and Pilates partner. Having a partner to workout with is great IME. Huge plus to have someone who shares my interests or at least is also going to be setting aside a lot of time to workout. As someone who is super active, I am looking for someone who has a similar lifestyle to me – is also super active and not a couch potato. I don’t think it’s weird for someone to say they are looking for a gym or exercise partner.
I enjoyed going to the gym with my partner when I had a boyfriend. I felt it helped encourage each of us. My last boyfriend didn’t like it as much tho, because he didn’t like how much I could lift (sometimes it was close to his weights or same for legs). I felt it helped me push myself more to try to compete with him. I felt if he didn’t like us being similar, maybe it could push him to lift more. But he didn’t see it that way.
I find it interesting how this is translated so differently here…I’ve been an avid gym goer for about 10 years and I enjoy going by myself for the mental clarity, listening to my headphones without having to take them out to hear someone, etc. However, I’ve also really enjoyed working out with groups of friends and making it a social hangout / workout. I’ve even taken my grandpa, brother, sister, and friends at the gym because they wanted some guidance, and I was giving them all personalized workouts. I got my FiancĂ© into boxing during our dating stage and we’ve been going together and joined a really cool gym with a good community. We also lift weights together but we kind of split up when we are there unless our workouts overlap and we share the same machines. I think having him there keeps me motivated and I enjoy working out with him because fitness is something I’m passionate about and if roles were reversed and I were a guy, I think the intention would be to the same and they just want to share something they enjoy with their significant other.
I think on dating apps it usually means “no fat people” or similar.
That said, being able to share some sort of athletic thing with my partner is important to me. We don’t have to do it together, just have it in common I guess. It’s not something I find to be a dealbreaker though, especially as health and hobbies both change over time.
My husband and I used to run together all the time before we had our daughter and I miss that. We did have separate gym memberships at that time. We never went together.
One day we’ll be able to do that again.
They don’t actually want to go to the gym with you, they’re just saying they don’t want thick women.
Sometimes I’ll go to the gym with my husband and grab dinner afterwards but we leave each other alone while working out.
My dad and his wife do go to the gym together. They don’t really work out together, they work on different machines and at their own pace and all, but usually they’re in the same vicinity.
Personally, if left to my own devices, I would only work out all alone at 3 AM so no one could ever perceive me while I’m doing it.
I also prefer to workout alone. I think some of these guys are indicating that they’re controlling about their partner’s body type and habits.
I suspect they think it’s a more acceptable way of saying they don’t want women who are overweight. They want someone gym hardened and who’s committed to staying that way. They think they’re so tricky.
I would love a relationship where we go to the gym together. Working out is important to me, and an important trait in my partner.
My husband and I go to the gym together. We’re not gym rats, just trying to be healthy and have movement in our routine. We both are more comfortable asking each other for form checks and spots than others. Our gym is small, so it’s also nice to be able to work in each other’s sets on the major lifts before we head off doing our own accessory work. When we’re in a running era, we’ll leave the house at the same time and go our seperate ways. Just nice to have someone make you take that step when you’re not super feeling it.
I’d love to have a partner that enjoys going to the gym and working out. My last relationship, he was a bit lazy and unmotivated with working out. It’s something I value and would love to share the hobby with a future partner.
Other people have already given you the cynical version of what’s behind a preference like that. I would like to offer a different perspective.
7 years ago I was a very sedentary person. Barely any exercise, struggled with my weight, my energy levels, the works. Once I got I to the habit of working out and eating more healthily, it really did wonders for my physical and mental health.
My partner during that transition time was sedentary like I had been and had zero plans to change that. Over time our lifestyles started to mismatch in a lot of ways, since I was actually enjoying hikes (which I used to hate since I had zero endurance before) and other activities that require a basic level of fitness. We started growing apart and eventually broke up.
I won’t ever require someone to be a fitness freak to date me but I’ll be honest, out of shape sedentary people are no longer my preference since that lifestyle no longer matches the one I have.
So in short, yes some guys may just put this in their preference in hopes of landing a hot chick but imo I think being up front about the lifestyle you want both of you to lead saves time and prevents waste.
In my relationship we both love going to the gym and prefer strength training.. he’s a lot bigger than me so it doesn’t make much sense for us to work out together. I’m ok with going together and working out separately, but it’d be fun to occasionally workout together and talk shit.
I hate going to gyms or classes with people. Maybe I will go with friends/husband every now and then, but gym is my me time.
It sounds like a gym rat who only wants to date women who have gym bodies. Even if I was really into going to the gym, I don’t want to go with some guy I’m just dating. Exercise workouts are about my body, not wondering if the men around me approve of my moves.
It’s a huge part of my relationship. We gym, run, hike, etc. together. If we didn’t, we’d not spend much time together. If I were single and put that in my profile, I’d definitely mean it in the sense that fitness takes up 10-15 hours of my week and having a partner who prioritizes the same things shows alignment in values, an ability to grow together, and the potential to spend time together outside of working hours. It would be a dealbreaker for me otherwise, but I doubt the average person putting that in their profile feels that strongly about it.
I like knowing the person I’m dating prioritizes their health and fitness, and I feel like seeking that out by asking for a gym partner is a more reasonable and succinct way to highlight that.
I don’t know about dating, but my partner and I go together and he gets the shits if I don’t go at the same time as him. But we don’t talk on the walk there, if I talk to him there he doesn’t seem interested, we do separate routines and he seemed really pleased when we did the steppers next to each other, where we also didn’t talk and he couldn’t even ogle me. I do not understand what he likes about working out together.