I, 19F had sex recently with someone for the first time and to be honest I’m really disappointed by myself. I think i was not good at it. While having sex, he asked me to talk dirty in Hindi to make him harder, but I was so shy. Idk what happened. He said that I don’t know anything. It made me feel so bad about myself. I’m curvy and thick. And have big boobs and ass. But still I don’t feel good about myself. Any tips for what to do in bed? How to behave and what to say during sex( in Hindi ofc) I want to know what guys really want a girl to sayy during sex.
Which can spice up the sex even more.
: I want real advice, so that I don’t mess up next time:)
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Wow he was an ass!!! Telling you you don’t do anything
But it was your first time. There is always room to learn and improve
It’s your first time it’s never enjoyable. Move on from that loser
You two were just not compatible. Especially him acting like a total moron, he definitely didn’t know what he was doing considering how he wasn’t helping you or guiding you, instead just forcing his own pleasure and kinks on you.
Be confident. Don’t worry about his opinion. Sex is something that takes a lot of effort and trust to make work. Communication is always key . Just because one guy was a jerk don’t mean everyone is. Sorry you had to deal with that.
your first time should be slow and intimate, not orgasmic.
I was not confident at all the first time I had sex, thought guys usually would like finish really fast and since I was a virgin/we had a lot of tension built up from a long time lol I assumed he would, and then when he didn’t got very insecure- I actually eventually told him to stop as I felt like I had to go pee, idk if I actually did or maybe was just in my head so much got nervous I would lol I do have problems with my bladder but.
Anyways- took me a while to gain my confidence tbh. He at first would talk the most during it, and I was kinda learning the ropes- kinda was intimate in that way because I began to be confident and just kinda learned the swing of things- you’ve never had sex, you’re not gonna be a pro right out of the jump.
Took me a long time to be comfortable talking more during- I want to but I just do get shy, but I try my best,
He just sounds like a ass
He sounds like a total AH. Did he know it was your first time? I wouldn’t take this as ‘bad’ or ‘don’t know anything’.
Umm move on from this dude he shouldn’t be making you feel inadequate, he should experience and learn from each others likes and turn ons etc
Be open to exploring and trying new things. Let your partner know if something feels uncomfortable or hurts and even more important let them know when something feels good!
If you are unsure about something (like talking dirty) bring it up afterwards to ask what your partner wants.
Finally if someone makes you feel bad about yourself, LET THEM KNOW. Give them a chance to be better, but if they continue with the negativity, move on. The problem is them and not you!
Your shyness suggests you either weren’t ready for it, or he wasn’t the right person to do it with. Given his reaction, I have a feeling it’s the latter.
Typically, I would advise just letting yourself enjoy the moment, letting your hair down, and going wild, especially with being new. It’s the time to try everything you’re curious about and gain experience.
That said, you have to be able to trust the man that you are engaging in this with in order to feel comfortable with letting loose and being your most true, vulnerable self (during the act). It doesn’t sound like he created that kind of environment for you, and it shows in the way you handled it.
Ultimately, I don’t think you have to be concerned about your “performance”. He’s probably more to blame than you are and I’m sure when you meet the right guy, you’ll have a typical honeymoon period (that’s not a reference to marriage)
Wrong guy! How about building a trusting relationship first. I realize there can be cultural differences in your country regarding relationships, but with the right person it can be a magical experience. Whatever you do, the best change for improvement is to dump this guy. Good luck!
Honestly, guys usually like it when u’re just being natural and having fun, u don’t have to force anything. Start small with some playful words and see how it feels
Find yourself someone better to have sex with, first and foremost.
You dont shame or make your partner feel bad during such a vulnerable time.
Sorry you had to lose your virginity to a asshole. Never talk to him. Start learning your body and make love to your body.
> I want real advice, so that I don’t mess up next time
Well for one, don’t sleep with this guy again.
Yup everybody has them 1st time flaws lol and don’t worry too much about what the guy wants we’re pretty easy to please ha and everybody is different with what they like erotically… some people like to be submissive and tied up and some people like cuddling and the list goes on and on. Focus more on what you like and want. What makes you satisfied?? And next time the guys a jerk say something like “oh I didn’t even think you were in yet” or even better yet tell your friends and other girls he likes or may be around that he’s small or really destroy him and tell them he asked you to take a shit on his chest…he deserves it from the sounds of it.
First off, that baby dick isn’t worth it. He should’ve been focused on YOUR pleasure for YOUR first time.
My first time was a bit disappointing also, I think this is pretty common.
Nothing wrong with you. You were just with the wrong guy that used you as a device for his pleasure. Now that you got that experience out the way. Stay away from this guy. Find someone that interested in you and what makes you happy.
Fuck him…. (pun intended)
First time is always a bit 50/50, and the fact that he didnt let you enjoy your first – is on him. Find another guy… and make this asshole sure to know that you did.
Who cares if your are a big girl, many men love that – and the next guy you let touch you, will…
It doesn’t always work with everyone try somebody else that doesn’t need dirty talk. If you really want it to go well you need somebody that knows what they’re doing and you need to tell him to go down on you first.
Tip; don’t waste your time with douchebags like that!! I’m so so sorry that was your first experience. Mine wasn’t the same, but not much better. Once I met the one who made me feel special, I finally felt comfortable in the bedroom. It does take time.
Everyone’s first time is bad honestly. It takes a few goes to properly learn your partners body and they yours and THEN the real sex begins.
Literally my biggest fear 😭😭😭
You don’t have to have sex with someone just because you can. Sex with someone you know really likes you, and you like them too will make it better
ek advice doonga bas
dump as jitna jaldi ho ske otherwise you will only have regret baad mein
as other people are saying , he is def 100% ass..
And this is coming from a 24 M..
rest your choice
If he couldn’t get hard… that was on him, not you.
He’s not the right person for you if he blames you at all
I’m 40 and I still don’t talk dirty. While you may get comfortable soon enough with that, you also may not. We all got what we got and what we like and not.
Also, sex the first 1-5-10 times sucks, at least for a lot of people. Also, it’s like any other sport(in a sense) you won’t be good until you have enough practice. That goes to you, me and everyone else.
So, don’t overthink it.
You should be disappointed. Tell me he’s a horrible lover without telling me he’s a horrible, selfish, awful lover. He’s gross. He shouldn’t be invited into your body ever again. You’re not a porn star, it was your first time. What were you supposed to talk about if he wasn’t inspiring you to talk? You “didn’t do anything” because he “didn’t do anything”. He didn’t care to pleasure you and give you something to get excited about—-so that’s the kind of sex he had. The first time can often be very unsexy, awkward, painful, confusing, scary, messy, shocking…for a woman, and he wants you to talk dirty in Hindi? GTFOH. Did he even check in on how you felt? He’s trash. Tell him you need to have an orgasm to talk dirty. If you should ever have sex with someone who really cares about your experience WITH them you’ll know the difference. He ain’t it.
You chose the wrong guy. It happens. When you are inexperienced you need to find someone who is invested in your enjoyment and wants to help you learn. Wants and desires can be communicated without criticism or judgment. If he had difficulty staying hard my guess is he was lashing out at you out of embarrassment. It’s not something you should internalize or feel bad about. With an understanding partner that you really like, you may find it easier over time to relax and let your inhibitions go.
Depends on what he wants to hear like is he wanted you to sound scared or that his thang is hurting cause it’s so big or does he want you to degrade him like he isn banging you hard enough no matter what he does I mean it could be anything just ask him what he likes
If I may give some advice. Focus on the foreplay. Make it last. Don’t rush to the sex. The build up will make the sex that much better and helps your partner learn your body and you learn theirs. As far as what to say things like fuck me harder, you make me so wet, I love how your cock feels, I wanna ride you (only if you are actually willing to) tell me when I’m allowed to cum, suck my tits are all good starting points. Since you are new to this I won’t give you any of the more advanced things to say. But seriously foreplay is key. Touch, play and try every position. The important part is to have fun.
Ew, that guy is a selfish and domineering lover. You did nothing wrong. However, there is a silver lining, which is— it can only get better from here!
Totally normal to feel awkward your first time, it’s not a movie scene! Confidence (and dirty talk) comes with comfort. Him putting you down? That’s the real turn-off in my opinion 🤷🏻♀️
Your disappointment is valid- if he was a skilled lover, he would have behaved much differently (not nagging you to talk dirty so he could get erect). See is a skill that takes a bit of practice and experience. Your unremarkable experience is due to HIS underwhelming skill set. Find someone better.
Dirty talk in Hindi is quite too much ask because I know Indian girl would not like to do that but I’m
Sure you are Indian and you probably know what those words are, just say it. I’m also expecting my girl to say it sometimes. If it’s add more fun in sex then you can.
No one is perfect the first time, even with a new partner, not just losing your virginity, it takes time to learn what each other like and it’s not good that he shamed you for it. Esp as it’s your first time you yourself dont know what you like most yet, so find a new partner who wont say such things to you and understands you’re learning and is willing to explore with you. From what you say about “so that I don’t mess up next time”, remember to let yourself enjoy it too. sounds like you’re anxious about how the other person perceives it at lot, which is common, esp at first, but with the right partner it should much feel less so. Hope he either lets up or you find someone probably a bit better suited for you. Eventually you’ll naturally do the things you both like in a relationship after you learn what each other like and it should be just enjoyment for the both of you, even during the learning process
First time should have been all about you and making you feel safe en beautiful. This was not your fault AT ALL. Next time find someone who cares about you!
He should be worrying about what you want also, it gets better, if he’s going to be a jerk just set ground rules before doing it again.
If this is your first time, then you have no idea what you’re doing. You’re just going with the flow and if it doesn’t help that your partner is inexperienced either then that makes it for a double arm. You just experimenting and trying to figure out what looks good and what does it or what feels good and what does it. Just go with the flowand if your partner has an open heart in communication Green, he’ll tell you exactly what makes him feel good and no one doesn’t.
that issue ain’t you. That’s a him issue. What a douche. It’s your first time, you were never going to be perfect.
Sex is often awkward. But we should always be loving and encouraging.
Nothing needs to be said during sex,lol. Anything ghat IS said should be pure emotion and in the moment feelings. You don’t need to practice Sex conversation that’s ridiculous. You probably did fine it’s HIM that’s the moron.lol. And it was your first time EVERYONES first time is not good, but you experience more and become more experienced. I’m pretty sure he didn’t do anything great either
You can always cum and fuck me babe
he sounds horrible – but the first time is always underwhelming. all that hype about sex for so long is never going to live up to expectations
hey girl, i was disappointed in myself the first time too. i bled so much i thought i got my period and had 0 idea what i was doing. First thing you want to do is never sleep with that again and then just back yourself. if someone wants to see you naked you must be doing something right! just remind yourself they’re probably as nervous/anxious as you, even if you don’t believe that. whether or not there are feelings involved sex is a vulnerable thing. i would also figure out what you like in bed! yes you want him to enjoy it, but you should enjoy it as well!! i would find sex education creators, and if you want to watch an entertaining tv series with some good sex ed look up Sex Education on netflix
Sad to hear that…
Should not have to talk dirty to excite a man, especially young men!!
Always the females that are disappointed with sex
First times are usually awkward and rarely like movies. It doesn’t mean you messed up. Sex gets better with trust, comfort, and communication over time. Don’t pressure yourself to perform, just focus on being present and honest about what feels good for you.
Sounds like your partner was just as nervous as you and couldn’t perform(get hard). And instead of him taking the blame for his lack of performance he shamed you and took it out on you. So that’s a huge red flag and he’s not an appropriate partner for a future relationship.
My only advice is find someone you are completely comfortable with. Where you aren’t embarrassed or shamed for making mistakes or learning the process.
Unfortunately you had sex with an ass hole! Don’t let it put you off, just find a decent guy and take things slow.
He should be lucky you even did it with him. Ignore him and move on with your life you shouldn’t be getting with guys who just wanna have sex. Find yourself a guy who will treat you right.
He is probably just using you. He will play with you, then dump you to marry a virgin. When I married, I knew nothing about sex. It took 6 months to a year, before we really learned what each other liked. Making love and having sex are two different things. You haven’t experienced making love yet. Find a man who truly loves you, not someone just using you for sex.
how is he expecting you to know what to do if it’s your first time?? he sounds like an asshole that may be watching too much porn. I think any decent dude would just want you to be yourself and show enthusiasm, that’s it. not all people are great at dirty talking, and that’s fine
It gets better. Sex like many other things requires practice.
Go to ask women, not here
Whisper fuck me or fuck me harder
that drives me crazy
I don’t know about dirty talk but I can tell you it’s rare for the first time to be good. Worrying will only make it worse. Do what you like, and if you want to lean into dirty talk (which is often fun) try on your own and see what feels nice to say. What gets you going too.
If he’s your age he was probably not good either and going by the porn he’s seen.
Don’t go a second time with this guy tho…if he was rude about this it’s not gonna get any better.
Sounds like an arse. Personally I don’t like that much talk only what comes naturally. Certainly it always takes time to get to know each other so don’t be down on yourself. I think this chap may not be for you!
dont pull yourself down just cause some asshole made you uncomfortable…
it was your first time, its mostly not good for people
The only thing you should do in bed is have fun. It’s not going to be good the first time, not for anyone. It will be good when you get to know your preferences and your partner’s preferences. Or when you meet a great guy. Or when something hilarious happens. Don’t bother with good. Just try to enjoy yourself. It will come.
The guy you had sex with is a dick. He used you for his own pleasure. Please try to avoid those kind ls of people in the future. For your own benefit.
First off and most importantly, find a partner who isn’t a selfish asshole. Find someone who wants the experience to be more enjoyable for YOU, and not just themselves.
No one’s first time is perfect. But you certainly don’t have to keep sleeping with someone who sees you as irl porn and not a whole human being sharing an intimate moment 🙂
Ditch the loser and find someone decent, it’s always ad the first time but it should be loving
Get rid of that clown, but the next time you give you body to a male, grab his bishop and don’t let go. Oral, vaginal, and eventually butt sex. If you perform with enthusiasm and he doesn’t return the favor, dump him too. You control the narrative, not him.
Sounds like the guy was an awful person in general. Even moreso a bad guy to have for your first time.
Sex can be great or awful, depending on your experiences and partners.
It’s also a very personal journey.
What is it you want out of sex?
The whole “what do guys want a girl to say/do” really is personal and depends on the other partner.
Had he instead showed you versus ridiculing you, I think you both would have had a much better time.
This one is on him for sure.
Bhai men will make you feel bad for being curvy and for being petite atp idk what they want🙏🏼
How to say dirty things in Hindi?
Sounds like you need a new partner, that is damn rude and selfish to belittle you like that especially if this is something new for you. Its just like anything else there is a learning curve and being with someone supportive and patient helps you both grow.
You need a partner to inspire you to bring the freak out, the karma sutra
Yeah he’s an asshole. Of course you’re not experienced your first time: please find a man who’s more caring . But if it makes you feel better, every first time for every woman in history sucks lol
No one is great the first time…no one. However, it will be more fun and pleasurable when you are with somone who doesn’t have unrealistic expectations and who really and truly loves and cares about you. That is what makes it good.
Don’t be disappointed in yourself. Be disappointed in him.
First times are almost always awkward and underwhelming, no matter what movies or porn make it look like. You didn’t “fail”, he failed by shaming you instead of making it safe and fun. Dirty talk is optional, not a requirement, and it only works when you actually feel turned on and comfortable. If you weren’t feeling it, that’s a sign he wasn’t doing his part.
If you want to get more confident, the best thing you can do is spend time learning your own body, use toys, explore what feels good, even say things out loud when you’re alone to see what feels natural. Then, when you’re with someone who actually cares about your pleasure, it’ll come much easier. And honestly? A guy who makes you feel small about your first time isn’t the one you should be trying to impress.
As a guy, I’m not a big fan of dirty talk. The fact this guy made you feel so bad about it is awful, and you shouldn’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable in any way. You should do what feels natural to you and if it works with the other, great! If not, they can get lost IMO.
Im not an expert ive had sex kne time in my life but i dont think its abt knowing what to dk i think its more bout the cemetery, if yall both know each other good enough it will be awesome even at the first time
Well it’s your first time and you were probably shy and nervous so i wouldn’t blame you for that that guy in an a*shole ngl, you’ll learn and get better after time and practice so your good, and don’t be ashamed of yourself be more self confidence and most importantly you should have pleasure yourself not just the guy yk while you’re at it.
Ik it’s none of my business but i suggest not going around too much especially without proper protection and stuff bc that could cause irreversible damage to you that can make it so you won’t be able to have s*x with anyone anymore so be very careful and always use protection .
Well any one who holds a virgin to that high of a standard is a dumb ass.
Practice makes perfect! But with the right partner.
First of all stay away from men who tell you you don’t know anything. Of course you don’t you were a virgin. Fuck that idiot! You need someone to teach you and be patient and build your confidence not tear it down!!!!!
You’ll figure it out. As long as you meet someone who is patient and actually likes you (with the way this guy was acting, that probably wasn’t the case). It becomes like a dance, everything just kinda syncing and flowing, feels effortless
Guy sounds like a tool
I lost my virginity in a baseball dugout in boarding school when I was 18. It was awkward, and the guy I was talking to started talking to another girl the next day. The “relationship” was a secret, so I had to sob in my dorm room alone. I couldn’t tell any of my friends.
This guy is a loser. Kick him to the curb, and when you’re ready to have sex again don’t let anyone make you feel bad about not wanting to try things. I can tell you that sex does get much better with time and practice, but only you get to decide your boundaries. I hate dirty talk, so I never do it. I also never allow anyone to make me feel bad about it and if they do, they’re gone.
It’s you’re first time. Give yourself some grace, and he’s an ass obviously
Girl, don’t have sex to please a male. Do it to please yourself. They won’t care about you 99% of the time.
I hate to tell you this but porn isn’t real.
He’s a creep… not your fault girl… Jesus… why do you even want to be good in bed? Unless that guy is your bf or husband I don’t see the point. And talking in Hindi is not hot… seriously… I would find it cringe if that happened
1st piece of advice, dump him.
What the… Jesus. It’s not your fault sweetie, it’s him being uneducated, he knew it’s your first time and still said that. Well hello ! Ofc you know nothing because it’s your first time. Best advice? Never sleep with him agaiin
Just be enthusiastic
Like anything it takes practice
I think first times are always awkward. Stay with it and find someone who appreciates you. Too many clowns out there.
Girl, LEAVE him. If he can’t get hard just by seeing you, that’s his problem. What he’s asking you to do sounds like porn not real intimacy. And if he’s busy watching other girls instead of appreciating you that says enough. You deserve someone who’s obsessed with you, not someone who makes you feel insecure in bed.
First bit of advice: Don’t EVER have sex with that bloke again. He doesn’t deserve you.
You didn’t mess up. If he needed help getting harder, it’s probably a personal issue of his that you are taking responsibility for.
This guy sucks!
Did he have a big one ? Did he blow your mind? It’s not your fault. It was your first time and it’s obviously you’d probably feel nervous, it’s normal. Please don’t worry. He is a loser 🙂
First time for a girl a man shouldn’t expect anything from you except being there and willing. He has to take it slow, be gentle, fore play. I was with many virgins in high school and that’s how I approached it. Make sure they are ok, ask if that hurts or not, be a gentleman. Snuggle after.
I seriously think word got around in my small high school that I was a good person to lose it to with no strings attached and I was a gentleman about it. Bc I had a lot of them just kinda throw themselves at me and telling me it was their first time. Girls talk that’s for sure.
Of course you dont know anything your first time! My first time sucked too! Me and my girl back then were both virgins, and we both agreed it was horrible. We didnt know what we were doing, so we waited a bit and tried again—this time, giving each other feedback. She told me what she liked, and what she didnt like, I told her what I liked, and so on, and that time was better. We still didnt get “good” at it for a while though.
Sounds like this guy only cared about himself getting off, and not both of you enjoying the experience. My advice would be to find a new partner who takes your needs into consideration
Ask someone to talk dirty on the first 20 times is a dick move
Tequila helps.
Guy here I’m not Hindi but if you were with me and it was your first time I wouldn’t expect anything from you and I also wouldn’t put any pressure on you to feel like you have to be good.
I’d first of make sure you were comfortable ik some women are insecure about their bodies so I’ll tell you how beautiful you are, and just reassure you that I’ll take care of you the whole time.
I’d do everything I can to make sure your enjoying your self I’d go at a slower pace until you felt like you were ready for me. I’d guide you and teach you as we are going & over just make sure it’s a good experience for you.
I wouldn’t expect you to be dirty talking and act like a porn star. That’s stupid
You have nothing to be disappointed in, I’m just sorry your first time was with a jackass.
Hopefully you find a more comparable partner who can be patient with you and teach you in the future.
You will mess next time because sex is something that takes a while to get good at like anything else in life. Every one is different and what one guy likes another may not. So don’t worry about “messing up” you need to find someone you’re compatible with.
My advice drop this guy he sounds like he was more interested in getting himself off than making you satisfied. You need to be with someone that cares about your pleasure as much as their own if not more.
Who in the world asks a virgin to talk dirty to them during her first time? I’m sure you were fine, OP. Dirty talking isn’t everyone’s thing, even if they’re experienced. I can’t do it for love or money. The results would be terrible, I’m sure.
find a guy who is thrilled just to be close to you. I’m sure you are just fine.
Dude wasn’t a good guy, ditch him. Sex is intimate, it’s only enjoyable when the 2 people like each other.
Dude obviously just was wanna fuck and nothing else
It’s not really something you just tell someone to do, just mess around and have fun with it
What was his age btw. Just curious cuz I’m 18
My advice would be to find somebody nicer who doesn’t judge you to have sex with
It was your first time. I don’t think you being bad at it should even be an issue. That guy was being an asshole. It would’ve been more concerning for a virgin to come in with the skills of a pro.
Dump this guy. I’m sorry you had this ass as your first.
best advice: don’t sleep with someone who makes you feel like you “messed up” for no reason
Seems he was using her to get off.
Obviously the bloke is not a lover.
Good lord how rude of him
You just do what comes naturally to you. He has a kink and that’s okay but how were you supposed to know?
My partner and I tried to talk dirty but we sounded ridiculous
It helps to have an emotional connection first, and then you need to know each others bodies. Talking dirty is just his kink that’s icing on top. Sounds like he is bad at sex.
Dump him
You did just fine. Maybe just find a nice guy next time.
Babyyy you need to leave him!!! Things will be awkward for a while. I lost my at 19 so I was way older than most people had no idea what I was doing. I certainly didn’t feel comfortable talking dirty. The more you have it the more you will feel comfortable but it takes time! It’s not just a snap of a finger and you know everything. I suggest talking dirty over text first to get comfortable with it first then go from there. But the fact that this man made you feel shameful for your first time is not okay in any way. I’m sorry that he made you feel that way
I felt bad aswell at my first time, thought I failed miserable and only lasted about a minute (if even that😂).
The thing is it was the first time just like you, you don’t have any experience yet. That will come over time, you probably were a little bit nervous as well. Also that will fade away with experience.
The next time will probably be similar, but the third that and forth time will most likely feel a little better. Give it time, give yourself time. Its a big step for a big thing.
Find someone compatible with you and you won’t feel like you’re bad at it anymore. It took me waaaaaay too long to find someone I’m compatible with because guys nowadays just want to recreate what they see on corn which is not arousing at all to me, so I got a boyfriend that doesn’t watch corn and I finish 100% of the times we have intimacy. I’ve never felt like I wanted to be with someone before, I actually used to dread intimacy. I like dirty talks but during intercourse I just can’t think at all.
He’s being an absolute asshole, 1st time sex is always clumsy, but if the partner is more experienced, they,(him) should be more understanding, he’s not a good person to be having sex with
When I was your age, my sexual abilities were a joke. In my 40’s now and probably still not a pro but I realize its a learning process. Everyone sucks their first time. And second and third… give yourself a chance at learning to be good. No one is a pro right from the start.
Girl, there’s no tips, do what feels good to you! Try new things, experiment, whatever feels right to you, and with the right person. Anyone who makes you feel bad after your first time doesn’t deserve you. And dont blame yourself for that, that’s all on him. Just like anything in life, it’s a lesson, not a failure. Your body has been beautifully crafted for years on years, but you’ve only lived for 19 years. There’s no shame in being new to intimacy. Give yourself time and patience! I bet you’ll grow into a beautiful person inside and out!
I’m open to trying a lot of things but when someone expects you to be experienced in something it shoes me that actually they are quite inexperienced as they obviously haven’t interacted with a range of people to know that everyone’s preferences and experience levels are different. And even more so they don’t have the skills to manage that situation, which again show immaturity and inexperience.
When you start having sex it’s always going to be kinda cringe (COUNTLESS movies and tv shows based on this aha) because no one knows what they’re doing. You just have to figure out what works for you in that setting, which might take time. Its definitely not just about pleasing him or doing it right. Plus he sounds like a dick.
Maybe just let him know that you don’t talk dirty because you’re a lady and that you kiss your mama with your mouth. Just keep practicing you’ll get it right no worries it’s like riding a bike once you learn you’re good but you got to get there and when you’re with the right person and they make you feel comfortable you wouldn’t believe the Savage that’s probably inside of you she’ll be out do no worries don’t rush